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I returned to work yesterday. I have been out for 6 weeks due to a complicate surgery. I was only supposed to be gone for 7 days but when the doc got in there, he realized there was a lot more going on.
Within 15 minutes of arriving, I walk into MY office and all my stuff, including my personal items, were shoved into a cubby above my desk ,including my son's picture, my own mousepad, my glasses and some paperwork I left out and in order for my return. It looked like a tornado had gone off. Well, lady who was using my office (unbeknownst to me, I was told by HR NOT TO check my email at all at home, they could fire me for "working" when I was supposed to be a home on medical time) stormed in, said "Hey' and packed up her stuff and left. I did offer to help but she refused. Then I had to go see my boss, to catch up, or so I thought.
First 2 minutes, nice conversational chat, next 1.5 hours- had my arse chewed. I will spare details but I will say this, when I left back in December, I thought everything was in a good place. By the time I came back, I had a laundry list of things I have been doing that are not sitting well with other. Let me state in all my orevious 7 months, I never had a bad review. I had a 90 review with items to work on and I did, fixing them quickly. Now, all of the sudden, I am a bad director, bad worker, etc. Can you say horst poop????
1st- this all came up while I was gone, so I wasn't even there to defend myself and they found me tried me, found me guility and hung me without my presense. 2nd- I came into work not knowing was had been going on, my direct report supervisor is nowhere to be found and no on seems to know what is going on. I come into my office, that is a mess, my personal things moved around and my laptop GONE and I am not supposed to be upset? I am not in some little cubicle, I am a Director of a large department. Feel totally disrespected and that I am being thrown under the bus for some sacrifical reason. And I am not the only good person it happened too this past month. Another manager- great gal, resigned too. And they lost 8 more good nurses. So after some ugly crying, I realize it's not me but boy, this is how you treat people?
So..Monday I resign. I will find another job. Always have always will. My health is WAY more important then doing this job. I am very frugal and we will be ok. There is a second part to this that I will tell y'all later.I have to get to "work " now. HAHAHAHA
Wishing you the best in your job search!
Wow. Good luck with your search.
Good for you. You seem to be in a good emotional place right now. Realizing it is due to others and articulating the facts is a good thing to be able to do. Sounds like the hospital is going under.
Sweetana- I think so. I called it 5 months ago. The CEO is disengaged, the hard workers are all leaving and they are keeping everything hush hush. They are getting some new competition and I think they think loyalty is going to keep those doors open. They lost several key leadership members and are acting like it's not their fault. My question would be how did we as an organization fail YOU??? If you keep getting the same feedback and do nothing to change it, well then you deserve to sink. The fact that I was gone 6 weeks and now I am a bad worker sounds fishy to me but they will never replace me. It took them months to get me (I didn't know how long they had been searching, they lied to me) and they have had several key positions open now for 6 months. In healthcare and the economy as it is, these should be filled right up.
HomemadeChange
2-7-13, 9:47am
Sorry to hear about your frustrations and mistreatment. I left a job two months ago in which I felt much of the same. I worked part time until Tuesday when the new FANTASTIC company hired me on full time! I couldn't be happier with the scary decision of leaving the previous employer. Here's to you and your new job which is just right around the corner!
The fact that I was gone 6 weeks and now I am a bad worker sounds fishy to me but they will never replace me. It took them months to get me (I didn't know how long they had been searching, they lied to me) and they have had several key positions open now for 6 months. In healthcare and the economy as it is, these should be filled right up.
Yeah, something sounds really fishy here. It may be better to jump off the sinking ship before you hit the water. And don't be surprised if your current employer's reputation is more widely known than you think. I'm guessing other local health-care employers have gotten wind of it from the revolving door in HR. Good for you in not standing for being treated like cr@p. And all the best in finding a better position!
Hoping this opens some great windows for you!!
What an experience but sometimes going through these helps sort out one's priorities as you have mentioned.
Gosh what a mess. I'm sure you'll be so glad to say 'bye ya'll'.
Sorry to hear of the woes involved, but so proud of you I am, for standing up and making such an important decision as you have made. I have deep admiration for those who stand up for what's right, and... for what's wrong.
Wishing you much success, MamaM.
How very hurtful...I'm glad you are working through it. Good luck!
It hurts a lot to be treated like this (been there, done that, tshirt in the closet), but ultimately you will be the one that comes out of this shining while they continue to descend into their dysfunctional murk. Consider yourself lucky that you are getting out before they do more damage to your psyche or your professional reputation. Like Steve, I am betting everyone in the sector knows well the reputation of this organization. The outfit I used to work for is like that -- lots of people won't even consider applying there because they know the issues.
Onward and upward! That's my slogan for 2013. Hope it works for you, too!
lhamo
Part Deux-
SO, I went to lunch after my butt chewing confused morning and around 1, the lady who I mentioned previously came STORMING into my office, slammed the door and got about 1 foot from me, waggin her finger. She told me she had a bone to pick with me. I told her not in that tone she doesn't. She just kept going. Let's just say by the end she was trying to give me a hug and feel better, like her all important "counseling". Let me just say, I could not speak. I have NEVER EVER been put in this situation before. EVER. I have be counseled and usually I end up laughing with the other person, because I never get in trouble. EVER. She left and I fell into a blubbering mess. I even threw up because I didn't know what else to do. I felt like I was sucker punched and couldn't breathe.
So today, I was given another "list" of things to fix. It was a joke. These people have truly lost their minds. I have never met a bunch of insane people like this in my life. I am a semi-religious gal. I think God has another plan for me and has put these devils in my way for a reason. We will be ok. I always overcome and maybe a big stir up is just what I need.
As several of you mentioned, I am more self-aware than ever. I know what I want and what I will put up with.
Oh and yes...they know the hospital and it's reputation and I might just have to send an anonymous letter to various organizations. Don't forget..I live in the same community, so that means my money will go elsewhere.
Even though it's emotionally draining, at least you are clear-eyed about it. I went into the working world after college like the bright-eyed naive person that I was, so I didn't recognize corporate dysfunction even when I was right in the middle of it. Then you start to wonder, is it me, or is the workplace?
But after you've worked in an actual functioning adult environment, you can easily say, nope, it's not me!
Good luck, MamaM!
Thank you...it took me time to see it..or maybe just a move into management. LOL
Wildflower
2-8-13, 12:38am
MamaM, I think better things are on the horizon for you.
ToomuchStuff
2-8-13, 1:37am
You mentioned not seeing your direct report supervisor, so did you meet with your bosses boss, then?
Did you ever find out what happened to your laptop? (what sorts of stuff did you have documented on it and was it backed up?)
Weren't you the one whose job wanted people to volunteer for their projects? (may be mixing up members)
Yes, I am the voluntold girl. : )
I found my laptop, shoved in said cubby with everything else.
Yes, I met with my boss and he chewed me out within 30 minutes of arrival.
I have slept on it and the few people I talk too, most say just quit. There are others who don't understand and say just keep going but my reputation is already ruined. I am going to turn in my resignation tomorrow. I have composed a letter to my boss justifying the misconceptions that were giving to me in the list. I am going to defend myself, blame no one else and let them know I am proud of the work I have done.
You must understand, this job was in a totally different area of admininstration for me. I was brand new with no real experience. I jumped in and I worked hard and they are not going to minimize that. They act like I totally did nothing and had no impact. I am the one who revamped the ER issues, had to do the hard task of firing/letting people go. I was the bad guy and I took the hit and now they are humming as a good team and no one has acknowledged that I got them there. They were going to lose part of their work space to another office and I fought for a break room for them, complete with a new water cooler, large cabinets so they have somewhere to store their personal items and a table so they can sit down and eat. And at Christmas time, I personally delivered a huge package from me to them and thanked each one of them. I had an associate get really sick and i drove all the way to San Antonio to check on her, twice. I negotiated my coordinators salary and job title so she wouldn't lose her job. She never even thanked me after working on it for 4 weeks straight. Including having her crying in my office and then she stabs me in the back. This is just the tip of the iceberg on the things I have done.
I went into the working world after college like the bright-eyed naive person that I was, so I didn't recognize corporate dysfunction even when I was right in the middle of it. Then you start to wonder, is it me, or is the workplace?
Sometimes I think corporate dysfunction is like the old lobster in the pot that doesn't notice the water has become so hot he's in serious trouble. Sometimes you are so involved in responding to the daily craziness and the "normal" around you that you don't notice how bad it is until you leave.
Life_is_Simple
2-8-13, 11:19am
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ApatheticNoMore
2-8-13, 12:24pm
Even though it's emotionally draining, at least you are clear-eyed about it. I went into the working world after college like the bright-eyed naive person that I was, so I didn't recognize corporate dysfunction even when I was right in the middle of it. Then you start to wonder, is it me, or is the workplace?
But after you've worked in an actual functioning adult environment, you can easily say, nope, it's not me!
+1 right I mean none of the environments may be great (no love of corporate) but some are much more dysfunctional than others.
I resigned last night. I haven't heard from my boss because his religion prevents him from using electronic equipment on Saturdays (It's their sabbath on Saturday). I kept it short and to the point. At this point, I can't fight anymore and an explanation will not do any good. Good riddance and I am moving on...somehow..moving on.
I am so very sorry MamaM. This is crazy making stuff and you are stuck in the middle of it. Don't let it make you start doubting yourself. You are making the right decision.
ApatheticNoMore
2-9-13, 5:30pm
Actually you never say anything negative about an employer in those letters period, search about resignation letters. You basically just say I'm giving my notice. The pastures aren't always greener but these ones did sound extremely parched.
Yes, it will be interesting if they actually let me finish out my 4 weeks or they make me walk on Monday.
Actually you never say anything negative about an employer in those letters period, search about resignation letters. You basically just say I'm giving my notice. The pastures aren't always greener but these ones did sound extremely parched.
The exit interview (if there is such a thing at MamaM's workplace) is where that negative stuff gets said, IMO.
Yes it is. I do have to talk to my boss but since he is the one who threw me under the bus last week, I don't think there will be much conversation. I always carry myself with grace.
MamaM,
I too once had to leave a job that I loved suddenly, as a scapegoat. I'll never regret having to walk away, though I still to this day miss the job and the people I helped.
Just wanted to say I totally understand how you must be feeling and tell you it will get better.
Keep your head high and don't allow anyone to take away your piece of mind.
Barbie
Thank you. I appreciate the nice comments. They make me feel a bit better.
I think this is the universe acting in your behalf. You wanted out, and voila'. It can only get better from here.
Dear Universe- please send job with nice people and decent pay. I will work hard. I promise. ; )
Walk away today..re-read my acceptance letter and realized I don't have to give them any notice, unless I want to extend a professional courteosy. They can't hold it against me either. So after my boss refusing to tell leadership, formally and telling me to suck up to my direct report so the associates are not upset (The d.r. that stabbed me in the back)...I walked out. Left my badge of the desk and my keys in the drawer. This was after being given a "project" to bide my time until I left in 4 weeks, that I would hand off to above direct report. Ummm..no..sorry..I ain't anybodies busy body. I am a 20+ year healthcare professional with morals and ethics that seem to be lacking in today's healthcare world.
I came home, hugged the fam and am now figuring out my next move. Thanks for all the suggestions and insight. Please keep me in your good thoughts.
I came home, hugged the fam and am now figuring out my next move. Thanks for all the suggestions and insight. Please keep me in your good thoughts.
Definitely, MamaM.
The name of the place would be helpful, too. I think I want a Medic-Alert bracelet that says "DO NOT take me to <hospital where MamaM worked>" :sick:
j/k about the name -- but I sure would avoid the place if I had a choice....
Oh dear...I'm sorry this happened to you. Who needs this kind of crap when you have had surgery?
Reminds me of the time a coworker at a former place of employment went on her honeymoon. When she returned, she found a guy *sharing* her office. They moved him in there, made him her boss and never warned her in advance. She walked out a week later.
Late to this thread, but have to say that the whole thing is fishy to me. Seems like they are in a world of hurt and are using this situation as an excuse to reduce staff without looking like it.
I sympathize as I was in a similar sitch at a nonprofit many years ago. They were taking a major revenue hit during the early '90s recession and were systematically reducing staff in each department under the guise of non-satisfactory performance. I was one of them. Got good reviews including a raise, then all of a sudden boss backtracked, said I wasn't performing, made some lame excuses for how she could see I wasn't "happy" anyhow, plus I was just recuperating from an illness which was further "proof" to her that I wasn't happy. Yeah right. After I got out, heard that they did that same routine with a number of folks, oddly the more highly paid ones within their respective departments and yes, I was one of those.
It was truly a sinking ship and I was one of the lucky ones, really. Other staff bailed, including the star employee that the President of the organization doted on. The situation deteriorated even more over the next two years until my own boss and remaining staff got canned because she couldn't help herself and got on the wrong side of the new management that came in after the old management team "escaped" by retiring. Organization's finances were so bad that they couldn't get decent office space when they got kicked out of the building they were in. Oh yeah, it was a real mess and while I was very angry at first, looking back they did me a favor.
This place you just left sounds like an organization in real trouble.
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