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MamaM
3-4-13, 1:31pm
**MODERATORS*** Please feel free to move if necessary. I didn't know where to put this.

So, I am in the process of answering the hard questions and part of this journey is going back to what triggered my ideas of what simple living is and how I came to these ideas.

I have realized it's been a series of rather impactful situations that have led me down this road. I would like to share.

1. Growing up poor, we never had much but my mother always went NUTS at garage sales. She would literally bring home truckloads of items, especially in the summer. I don't mind used items, like the Barbie's or clothing and the fancy curtains I had in my bedroom. : ) BUT I didn't understand not having enough money for a new pair of shoes but my mom had a houseful of antiques. Lesson learned: Do not put quantity or owning things over having what you need to live.

2. I survived a fire back around 1993. I lost 90% of what I owned. It was the heavy, black thick smoke that did most of my things in. It was in the barracks, that were 50 years and full of some toxic building materials. It took them 2 days to put it out because if you can picture an "I" shaped building with the middle being the attaching point to the 2 buildings, 300 room per side. It spread quickly and being the middle of a hot, desert summer in CA, it ignited the dry fields around it and even melted the parking lot. Lesson learned: It can all be taken from you in a snap.

3. When I was first married, we lived in San Diego, BEAUTIFUL area but the salty area and water did quite the number of everything, from vehicles to mold in shoes to eating away the tub surround. I had to be deligent about not letting our little apartment get to humid, making sure I moved stuff around to let it get air and using bleach to kill mold. We went away on a 2 week vacation and the power went out. The landlord never checked to see if our half of the duplex came back on. Well, it didn't, so the mold and dampness spread quickly. I don't mess with mold. I have heard NIGHTMARES. So we tossed all of our food, some of our clothes took a hit, books, our bikes started to rust, even the carpet had spots of mold. It resulted in having to move what was salvagable to a new, smaller apartment while they fumigated and cleaned the duplex on both sides. WHAT A MESS and hassle. I refused to move all we had so in came the first BIG purge since I was adult. We had one week to vacate. I was ruthless and I cleaned what I could salvage, boxed it up and gave it the DAV- who did pick ups. They hauled away 24 totes, 14 large garbage bags, 8 pieces of furniture and a few odds and ends. Lesson learned: I didn't miss any of it and I could live with much less, even with a family. And it felt good to help others.

4. When I moved out when I was 18, I moved into a tiny 500 square foot loft down by the water. <3 <3 <3. I had a loveseat with a bed in it, wooden coffeee table that was used to store my bedding during the day and a square table with 2 wing back chairs for my dining/desk area. Little galley kitchen and bath with 1 closet. And I barely filled it up and was MOST happy. Lesson learned: I honored the true me and found happiness.

So what has been part of your journey?

SteveinMN
3-4-13, 7:22pm
My parents moved around a lot when we were kids. I attended college out of state (in fact, hundreds of miles away); everything I brought to college had to fit in a big suitcase. So I never got rooted by "stuff" and locations as much as some people. I've also long had a preference for a little bit of something good than lots of something mediocre. I never wanted to be surrounded by piles of stuff or keep up with the Joneses just to feel like I was a success in life. I've always preferred simpler living quarters -- the spare look of designer kitchens in dwell magazine, large expanses of wood or stone in a room and unadorned walls and windows rather than layer upon layer of colors and textures.

Thinking critically also helped. I long ago realized it was much faster to dust a bare table than to dust a bunch of knickknacks and then the table. When my first wife and I separated, I moved from a 3400-square-foot home to an efficiency apartment. I didn't want to cocoon at home; I knew I was not going to get out and meet people at my home.

So when I was looking at a radical downsizing of life about a year ago, it wasn't a wrenching change; it was more a honing and tidying of the life I always preferred to live. And perhaps it's been more successful for that reason.

try2bfrugal
3-4-13, 9:56pm
We are tired of the cleaning and yard work of a big house and would like to downsize. We have been getting rid of stuff for 6 months and haven't missed much. It felt good getting rid of the Halloween and Christmas decorations. We kept a few small decorations for each holiday and that is it now. I would rather spend my days hiking, reading and making money working on our business to be more financially secure instead of cleaning and picking up and sorting through piles of junk.

We would eventually like to sell our current house. The houses that sell for the most in the neighborhood are usually staged well and very minimally furnished. We have asked ourselves, if that minimal look sells the best and impresses people the most, then why not live like that all the time?

iris lily
3-4-13, 10:00pm
MamaM, you aren't the first person on this website to talk about being freed of stuff in a fire. It's interesting how that changes your view of our material goods.

I've heard about salt air and wondered about how bad it is to live that near the sea. I've lived in the desert and there is a layer of grime everywhere. Always.

I love the Midwest where the rains wash everything clean and the winters kills the bugs and varmints.

SteveinMN
3-4-13, 10:03pm
I love the Midwest where the rains wash everything clean and the winters kills the bugs and varmints.
That alone would keep me from moving to some place where it was warm all the time!

MamaM
3-4-13, 10:07pm
I think there is always something that can ruin what you won. Bugs, mice, weather, etc. Here in Texas, it's the dust and animals being larger than normal. :) SPIDERS and SCORPIONS@!!!! BLECH!!! But I still love it here and cleaning and moving stuff constantly helps me keep them in check. :)

iris lily
3-4-13, 10:12pm
That alone would keep me from moving to some place where it was warm all the time!

yup, those giant flying roaches! UGH!

JaneV2.0
3-4-13, 10:37pm
I've lived on the coast, and mostly what I remember was awesome wind storms and a fine layer of sand over everything. Cars back then were indestructible.

Mrs-M
3-5-13, 9:14am
My story (our story) is mundane... nothing extraordinary... nothing new... For us... simple living, was the only option and alternative, at least from the standpoint and perspective of idealistic practicality.

DH and I, started out in a REALLY small home, then moved to the home we presently live in now (shortly after the birth of our first child in 1992). We started off small (like so many do), and somehow... through design, we continued on the path of small and simple.

Choosing to be a stay-at-home mom, made it exponentially easier for me to practice simple, and live simply, and to date, not once have I regretted my decision related to such.

As year by year progressed, so did the size of our family, thus, promoting an even more stringent lifestyle based on streamlined reduction, which provided us with the ways and means of (better) weathering storms (financial storms) along the way.

As with so many things in life, we've become comfortable and content with our choices, making for a more relaxed and refined existence, and that IMO defines what and who we are. Getting on-board with simple living- early in life, was the biggest game-changer of all!

Simply put, simple living, just happened with us. It was the natural thing to do... and felt the most right. Always has.

larknm
3-5-13, 11:30am
Many times of unwillingly losing most of my stuff has branded in me a dislike of having things I'm really attached to. And many moves on little money where we could only take what would fit in the car or once a 10 foot U-Haul, has made prioritizing what I have important to me. And also helped me realize years ago that it was experiences over things that matters to me most. The knowledge that things can all be taken away has made me like to live in a way that wouldn't make that a big deal. I also have a fanatical liking of the idea that I don't want people to have to clean out stuff of mine when I die. I think that's an idea attached to the fact that clutter, even many of useful items, makes me anxious.