View Full Version : I'm feeling stunned right now. DS's friend died of alcohol poisening
I am leaving to pick Tyler up from college in a few minutes. He's a wreck. He was crying so hard he couldn't tell me what happened for a while. This boy & some friends went down to Florida for spring break and he binged. That's about all I know right now.
This boy was handsome, athletic & smart. He was always polite to me and we chatted whenever I ran into him. He graduated in between my boys. Tyler & he ran track & cross country together for 6 years. They weren't close friends but knew each other pretty well having spent so many hours together all that time. I knew he was a bit reckless but this just takes my breath away.
What a tragic & senseless thing.
Oh God, I'm so sorry! How horrible for everyone. ((((HUGS))))
I'm sorry this has happened. Perhaps it will be a warning to the young man's friends as to the consequences of binge drinking
I am leaving to pick Tyler up from college in a few minutes. He's a wreck. He was crying so hard he couldn't tell me what happened for a while. This boy & some friends went down to Florida for spring break and he binged. That's about all I know right now.
This boy was handsome, athletic & smart. He was always polite to me and we chatted whenever I ran into him. He graduated in between my boys. Tyler & he ran track & cross country together for 6 years. They weren't close friends but knew each other pretty well having spent so many hours together all that time. I knew he was a bit reckless but this just takes my breath away.
What a tragic & senseless thing.
Oh honey, how awful. Losing our young people is really hard. I'm so glad you can be there for your son... the first time our then teens lost a peer was devastating to them. The support you offer is so important.
This is a time for simply being in the moment. Please keep us posted on how he is doing, and how the community is doing processing this loss. Hugs & prayers for everyone.
There appears to be a brief article on the WOOD TV website. This kind of thing happens with sickening regularity. We all felt invincible when we were young and plucking at our guardian angel's last nerve. How sad for you and your friend's family.
Mighty Frugal
3-7-13, 4:48pm
I'm so sorry for you, Tyler and this poor boy's family. How tragic. Such a preventable death but how do you drill this into young people's brains?
I'm so sorry for you, Tyler and this poor boy's family. How tragic. Such a preventable death but how do you drill this into young people's brains?
You don't... the brain itself is part of the problem. Our frontal lobe, the executive function, as well as risk management, isn't fully mylinated until about age 22-24 for girls, and 24-25 for boys. Many things, like drug & alcohol exposure, delay or disrupt this process too. We can do our best to educate kids, engage in positive role modeling, harm reduction, and hope they manage their risk taking behavior well.
Tussiemussies
3-7-13, 5:21pm
So sorry for you, your son and their family. How sad, so young...
Yes. But how did you know?
so sorry for everyone who loved this young man. I saw it on the news.
Ahh I forget how fast things spread on the internet & how local matters don't stay so local any more. The mom hadn't even gotten to Florida yet when the news hit the web.
Working at a university, we see this happen every year. It is almost like a lottery wondering who will draw that unlucky card by making an unfortunate choice. So sad for all involved and surely this will stay in your son's memory as a turning point.
Yes. But how did you know?
Channel 6 news, Lansing.
Ahh I forget how fast things spread on the internet & how local matters don't stay so local any more. The mom hadn't even gotten to Florida yet when the news hit the web.
A neighbor learned of my sister's death in a car accident on the local news. She immediately came to our home and realized that we, the family, had not yet been notified of her death.
I'm so sorry. What a tragic loss.
A neighbor learned of my sister's death in a car accident on the local news. She immediately came to our home and realized that we, the family, had not yet been notified of her death.
Oh, that is so awful. I am sorry for your loss.
So are you in the Lansing area too? If you don't feel comfortable answering that's ok. Just curious because you saw the news on channel 6
My nephew died the same way three years ago. To this day we are still devastated and shocked. Alchohol has been a curse in this family. He married young and had a small child. He was out drinking by the pool, came in the house and dropped. Young people are very inexperienced with limits. His brother months later had a drunk driving accident that killed his best friend and put two families that had been very close on opposite sides in court.
I am sorry for your son's loss. This event is sure to shake him up but will open a great opportunity for the two of you to discuss what happened and to reinforce the tragic consequences of excessive drinking. ((hugs))
I'm so sorry for you and your son -- it must be very difficult for him right now. It feels so raw and shocking, doesn't it? I'm also very sorry for the family's loss.
It's always so sad to see someone so young, die so senselessly. Many prayer for the family and friends of this young man.
awakenedsoul
3-10-13, 8:14pm
I'm very sorry. It's tragic when young people do these things. My close friend lost her son to snorting alcohol. I've had a lot of painful alcohol related incidences in my life. I can relate. I hope your son learns from this and is careful in the future. I lost a friend in high school and I never got involved in drinking or drugs.
There was a candlelight vigil on Friday night. The church was filled right up. So much sadness.
The memorial service is next Saturday and had to be moved from the funeral home to the high school because they need more space.
The runner's are a very tight knit group and have been hanging out together to support each other. They are actually pretty good at dealing with the tough stuff as a group. There are some pretty awesome kids in the bunch. And they have a coach who is a wonderful caring man.
DS is having a pretty rough time still and had to go back to school yesterday so I am a bit concerned for him. He does have a very good friend at college and his coaches are pretty understanding too. Oh, you know what I think is pretty cool. Before Ty had the chance to talk to his college coach, his high school coach had called and told him what was going on. So Ty didn't really have to explain anything to him. See.... the coach is a wonderful caring man.
The funeral was Saturday afternoon. I don't think there is anything as sad as the funeral of a young person. We had to get Tyler back to school by 7 so he didn't get to stay and be with the other runners. But Saturday am everybody got together for breakfast which was good for all of them.
This particular group of kids is kind of amazing in that they have a way of really closing ranks and healing during hard times. When the coaches disabled daughter died some of them were just rocks for the coach to lean on. If he needed to leave the classroom suddenly, the boys would watch the class and read to the room. When his son got kidney cancer a bunch of them, including Kyle, shaved their heads. It is kind of interesting to watch. Like any group they have their ups and downs and clashing personalities but when it counts they always come through.
p.s. SimpleMind, I am so sorry for your loss.
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