View Full Version : My attempt at a solution for sort of losing Mrs. M
First, I to thank Mrs. M for coming back as a guest--that way we don't totally lose her. My long-term plan is to think about what is of value to me that she and others have done on these boards and to do likewise. My first thought is that she encouraged people--that always helped me, even when it wasn't me she encouraged, it just lifted the atmosphere to a good place. Then, she paid close attention to what people said, and gave good advice. Really usable advice. And she was also colorful in telling about her own experiences--I could picture the things that happened. And when something someone said struck her as funny in a good way, she said so. Others do some of these too, but she rolled them all up into a happy ball. I also liked the specificity of her profile photos--even though I couldn't tell what the woman was doing in the most recent one, I liked that visual specificity of the old days. Plus, she was honest--when things here really bothered her, she said so. She created good guidelines for me to follow--even if I didn't take the same view she did, the bigger point was that she was clear and to the point with no attempt to hurt. I can do better at these things and intend to try.
iris lily
5-25-13, 12:06pm
First, I to thank Mrs. M for coming back as a guest--that way we don't totally lose her... y.
To be clear, Mrs-M is not back as a guest. She asked for her account to be deleted. When that happened all of her existing posts were converted to "guest" status.
But in the spirit of your post--yes, go forth and take action, inspired by her posts on this site!
Thanks for the clarification, iris lily.
I join in honoring her. An earlier experience here left me shaken and she convinced me to stick around.
I wish I had had the opportunity to offer her the same support, but she was gone before I knew what happened.
She was in Costco yesterday.
Tussiemussies
5-25-13, 5:10pm
I saw two posts from her as a guest on two different threads...do hope she will come back. I feel like she was glue that held the board together, got people chatting and had a lot of good information to share....
She was in Costco yesterday.
Is this like "where's Waldo?" only it is"Where's Mrs.-M?" Ok I'll play.
Today she's in the kitchen baking pies.
http://echostains.files.wordpress.com/2010/01/50s-housewife-all-mod-cons-e1262559733537.jpg?w=193&h=300
rosarugosa
5-25-13, 8:43pm
Love the picture, IrisLily!
I saw her hanging laundry out in the yard after she was done with her baking :)
I saw her this morning tending to a stray cat.
http://i361.photobucket.com/albums/oo52/LunarMuna/womanfeedingcatsilhouette_zpsfca7b787.jpg (http://s361.photobucket.com/user/LunarMuna/media/womanfeedingcatsilhouette_zpsfca7b787.jpg.html)
She was busy folding diapers last time I saw her!
ApatheticNoMore
5-25-13, 11:01pm
In the thrift store continually glancing sidewise at a salad spinner, pretending not to notice it, but regularly returning to that part of the store to cast a sideways glance ... :)
Ok Mrs M's I barely knew ye, I mean I can't even remember Mrs M's official position on salad spinners and I really can't claim to know someone if I don't know that.
salad spinners are a most excellent way to spin excess moisture out of delicates that need to be hand washed. A second salad spinner, thrifted, for this purpose is a most appropriate thing. I'm sure Mrs. M would agree. :D
rosarugosa
5-26-13, 5:45pm
Zoebird: I'm so glad that you specified a dedicated salad spinner, because I get totally creeped out whenever anyone spins diapers in my spinner!
Tussiemussies
5-26-13, 6:37pm
Honestly, this thread started out with true concern and what it has turned into doesn't seem funny to me at all. Total disrespect for Mrs. M. -- who has played a major role in the forums for many years now and was kind to everyone.
rosarugosa
5-26-13, 7:02pm
Tussiemussies: I honestly don't think any disrespect was intended; I certainly know that none was intended on my part. I personally was hoping that she might be lurking, and that maybe we can make her laugh, and then we can coax her back out to join us.
I was never one of the mean girls on the playground, and I never will be.
Honestly, this thread started out with true concern and what it has turned into doesn't seem funny to me at all. Total disrespect for Mrs. M. -- who has played a major role in the forums for many years now and was kind to everyone.
I'm sorry you don't find it funny. I don't think it is disrespectful, we are remembering someone some people here thought was an important presence.
If I were dead to the boards, I would like this tribute to me!
But I understand that you don't find it funny, there are many kinds of humor and not all people like all kinds. We will have to agree to disagree about this one.
And for the record ANM, Mrs-M didn't like salad spinners.
rosarugosa
5-26-13, 7:10pm
Ah IL, if it were you we were missing, I would be drinking a glass of the red while I spun my greens - oh, wait, I do that anyway! :)
Ah IL, if it were you we were missing, I would be drinking a glass of the red while I spun my greens - oh, wait, I do that anyway! :)
That is an excellent tribute to me, I have to say!
... and was kind to everyone.
Not everyone, no. I believe if you went over to the Public Policy area, you might find some old threads where she happily demonized certain segments of our population. Not in a kind or understanding way at all.
Zoebird: I'm so glad that you specified a dedicated salad spinner, because I get totally creeped out whenever anyone spins diapers in my spinner!
I would also not be cool with this. :) It's like needing a second set of pots for soap making. it's just the right thing to do. :)
Also, i don't see this as "making fun of" or in any way mean-spirited toward Mrs. M. I liked her and respected her, and overall found her cheery and good-natured. I thought this would fit in with her theme in that regard.
Not everyone, no. I believe if you went over to the Public Policy area, you might find some old threads where she happily demonized certain segments of our population. Not in a kind or understanding way at all.
I have been quiet, I really thought this was my fault (I didn't see other boards as much as family). When I had posted about another issue with my children she asked a question that I didn't answer but instead asked her why she would ask that. I tried to make it as open as possible, I really didn't understand that although I understand that people may not agree with how I handle things or even if I should post about it. Basically it was a thread killer and I thought I had upset her,
ToomuchStuff
5-27-13, 12:45am
Without her posting specifically what triggered this, we are doing nothing more then speculation. No one is speaking up saying she contacted them about some issue she had personally, or personality wise, with a member. Best, in my view, is to give it a rest, because if she would be lucking, we are probably just POing her, instead of letting time heal all wounds.
And for the record ANM, Mrs-M didn't like salad spinners.
truly, it's very useful for the delicates! :D I'm sure MrsM would be interested in that kind of use. Surely! :D
I agree, completely speculative, and I honor how you feel about this, but it is a nice way to remember her. I manage a couple of sites and know how this kind of thread can become troublesome. I do. I am clueless as to why she left, and I honor that as well, but I am still allowed to miss her. She was welcoming and nice to me when I needed that. It is my hope that she does lurk and will see how much she meant to each of us.
If she does not lurk or ever return, then her legacy might be that she becomes a pleasant icon for support and clever and alternative uses for stuff.
I have no idea what POing means, but I trust that it is not too terrible.
People drop out here all the time, never to be heard from again. It's kind of like the Rapture.
iris lily
5-27-13, 11:11am
People drop out here all the time, never to be heard from again. It's kind of like the Rapture.
OMG, that was funny!
Mrs-M's memory will live on with the likes of Chickadee, Diana in Wisconsin and many others who have impacted these forums. May she rest in peace..........
People drop out here all the time, never to be heard from again. It's kind of like the Rapture.
Hahahaha........that's a good one Jane!
People drop out here all the time, never to be heard from again. It's kind of like the Rapture.
Excellent. I have not laughed out loud like this for some time. Startled my cat.
People drop out here all the time, never to be heard from again. It's kind of like the Rapture.
Lol. And for the record Mrs M was spotted last night at 7-11. Talking to Elvis.
Hahahaha........that's a good one Jane!
Could somebody explain that to me?
Do you know what the Rapture is Bartleby?
Do you know what the Rapture is Bartleby?
Hi! I vaguely know.
Wikipedia:
The Rapture is a term in Christian eschatology (http://www.simplelivingforum.net/wiki/Christian_eschatology) which refers to the "being caught up" discussed in 1 Thessalonians (http://www.simplelivingforum.net/wiki/First_Epistle_to_the_Thessalonians) 4:17, when the "dead in Christ" and "we who are alive and remain" will be "caught up in the clouds" to meet "the Lord (http://www.simplelivingforum.net/wiki/Lord#Religion) in the air".
So the disappeared ones get caught up into a vortex like on Fringe? Is that the joke? Or dropping into Dante's inferno? Carried off into the clouds? I must be missing something ...
The way I understand the rapture, when there is the second coming, the righteous will be lifted up to heaven and us sinners will be left behind to suffer the cruelties of life on earth and possibly the great tribulation. In context I think the implication was that Mrs. M has risen about the trivialities of the forums to a higher place while those of us still here have been left behind to our discussions and sometimes disagreements. All intended in a humorous sense, I am sure.
Oh okay. So here we are, the sinning masses, fighting it out in our own filth, watching in amazement while the chosen one soars into heaven on gilded wings. Got it, sort of. Thanks
To me it was just a funny analogy (?).........just a silly analogy about why some people seem to suddenly disappear from this forum.
goldensmom
5-29-13, 10:35am
To me it was just a funny analogy (?).........just a silly analogy about why some people seem to suddenly disappear from this forum.
I get it. I came back to the office one day to find myself the only one there. I thought "Oh, no, the rapture". I'm glad we can laugh at ourselves. Way off topic.
Oh okay. So here we are, the sinning masses, fighting it out in our own filth, watching in amazement while the chosen one soars into heaven on gilded wings. Got it, sort of. Thanks
Well, you know what Mark Twain said, "go to heaven for the climate, hell for the company!"
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