an odd thing, are people weird or crossing that line

[Zoe Girl]

This was just weird, and the person in question is someone I have always considered struggling with depression but I wonder if there are other things.

Today I tried to take my son hiking, we got part way there and then the car was really not okay. I limped us home, got my emergency cash out of hiding and had my son checking on the internet for close repair shops that were still open. It was 2:30 so the clock was ticking on a holiday weekend. So I tell that to one of my daughters and she proceeds to tell me about this great website she found on bra fitting. It goes back and forth with her not appearing to hear us, she kept on going back to her topic while I actually interrupted and told her I was leaving to get to the shop quickly.

It felt more like the kids with aspergers I have worked with, but it is one more on the list of pretty odd behaviors. She seemed pretty functional as a kid but we homeschooled and so there were some odd behaviors that I thought were just my fault for not being a great homeschool mom, or just unique. I didn't notice delayed motor skills because she was such a great artist and walking out in the middle of her schoolwork to play was my lack of discipline. She has done this as an adult as well and a couple times people have asked me about how she just leaves.

She has her move-out deadline coming up at least. I just see a long period of not figuring this out and a low level functioning life, I wish so much that she would consider some type of treatment in any way. I would feel some peace if I had some answers but nothing quite adds up so I have to make peace with that.

[ToomuchStuff]

Start with changing the order of three words: people are weird. Should be a statement, not a question, because of course they (we) are.

Was this the daughter that you said had been on, or you suspected drug use? That can change brain chemistry, some more then others. (both people and drugs, we don't all have the same reactions, that is why some get side effects that others don't)
In the end, you have to make your own choice about the situation and how you deal with it. For all I know, she could just be acting, to try to get to stay out of sympathy. You can't choose for her, or live her life for her. Hope things improve for you.

[BarbieGirl]

Are you saying you find your Asperger daughter unable to follow a conversation appropriately? Sounds a lot like my Asperger son. We will be talking about one thing and he will just interrupt or start talking about something totally random. We have to bring it to his attention and ask him to share our conversation or wait politely until there is a gap in the conversation to introduce another topic.

I find my son is desperate to share a conversation, to feel a part of a group, but is often unable to do so appropriately. So we use those moments to gently instruct him.

I have found that finding a good psychologist who works with Asperger adolescence and adults has REALLy helped him. We just got a call from our son's school counselor telling us that our son is able to share his thoughts in a more linear fashion. That is BIG news for us. We've noticed marked improvement we feel is directly related to his new psychologist.

i won't lie. My son's psychologist is entirely out of pocket cost because of his specialty and it is expensive. We decided to make the investment because we are concerned about his future. He needed help now. It is really difficult spending this money each month. But it really has made a difference.

Barbie

[Zoe Girl]

She has not been diagnosed with aspergers, it has been depression and some ADD, She is 22 and does not choose any treatments, in fact gets angry when we say anything she does is not okay. I used to have the talks with her on the side but that was not effective. I recall trying to tellher about what changes her body would have as a teenager and she would either refuse to listen or space out and wander away. I ended up talking to her younger sister in the same room and hoping she overheard enough, plus got her a book. Actually that combination of refusing and wandering off mentally or physically was the reason we stopped homeschooling, our minister saw it recently when we had to have a difficult conversation together.

I am not sure what diagnoses would be good to encourage improvement. We have been struggling the last 3 years with her, well before that too but I really thought she would grow out of some of this. And maybe she is just stuck, but some of the behaviors are plain odd. Last night she was appropriate, and that reduces stress overall. It is hard to be askign her to move out as the only solution, but our stress is significant at this point.