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A part of the drama in my life lately (read the personal finance and all if you want) is that my son hit a huge anxiety spiral as part of the deal. I think it was mostly realizing that his dad was willing to sue me and how that affected everyone and possibly dad didn't care. I have been trying to get a response from my ex to sign off that he won't sue me and part of that is to tell my son that dad is being a good guy. In any case this anxiety spiral has been bad and he has not gotten back to school in awhile. We are on a wait list for counseling and still waiting, but it is not all bad, other people have kids who get in trouble at school all the time (why do those kids never miss any days/) so we all have our own deal.
So the school has been great! Awesome! really I am happy with the response of such a large urban school to this issue. I let go of the daily trying to get him through the door and they sent home some work and he has had a lot of reading to do on his own. And they sent all his finals (adapted ones) to me so I can administer his final exams and turn them in. Tonight we have done about half the tests, tomorrow the rest of them. He is planning on doing one summer school class through the online high school. This will be the test if he can do an online format to better handle anxiety and introversion, or if it is a lot of mom nagging then we will do whatever needed to get him through the door in fall.
I am glad we have these options, my son is not isolated, friends come over and he goes out every night to long board and my kids are actually friends with each other. I thought that since we have a high number of introverts on this board you may be interested to hear how one is managing high school in a different way.
That's great that the school is working with you. Hope his finals and the summer course go well. It is nice that there are more options to show learning/growth than just sitting in a classroom.
Gardenarian
5-29-13, 12:47pm
We homeschool, and find it is easier on everyone. In the past few years I've seen lots of middle- and high school students transition to online (or just regular) homeschooling. It is so difficult for kids that age to get up early, and many have personal issues that make being at home so much more comfortable. I'm glad there are options for your ds!
I know a couple of exceptionally bright kids who have simply dropped out, passed the GED test, and moved on. There are alternatives to mind-numbing class time and high school politics these days, fortunately.
really the only issue is that I don't have time for educating him, I have a lot of things going on. I do think when he takes a course designed for online learning it will be easier. It will be more his work instead of mine. I spend a lot of time communicating with the school and arranging these tests right now. I hate to say it, I am trying really hard to get time off work but it is not happening.
I know a couple of exceptionally bright kids who have simply dropped out, passed the GED test, and moved on. There are alternatives to mind-numbing class time and high school politics these days, fortunately.
My high school sucked even worse than average and I left in the middle of 10th grade. A year and a half later I took the GED and went to college, which didn't suck at all for a person of my temperament.
My favorite part was the fact that I had no math, neither aptitude nor education beyond the first year of algebra which I flunked and re-took. Back then (1972) the GED was in 3 parts, reading comprehension, general social studies type stuff and math. After I finished the first two parts I looked at the math section and could only answer two of the questions. I looked at the pattern in the fill-in-the-bubbles answer sheet for the other sections and filled in a similar pattern in the math answer sheet. I passed by two points.
I know a couple of exceptionally bright kids who have simply dropped out, passed the GED test, and moved on. There are alternatives to mind-numbing class time and high school politics these days, fortunately.
That's my DS35. Dropped out, took GED, did a stint as golf pro, and just last week graduated from law school.
Let me just say that "pigeonhole" is a dirty word to me.
Blackdog Lin
5-29-13, 8:20pm
Zoe Girl: hoping it all works out for you with your son's schooling. You are right, having a school system that will help with the curriculum will make all the difference. And I totally understand "not having the time to supervise a homeschooling thing": sometimes it's all a person can do to bring home a paycheck and make sure there are groceries and soap in the house. :)
catherine: how absolutely awesome. Congratulations on your son's graduation! A story that warms my heart.
Because we were there too, had to move heaven and earth to force DS to get his GED after he dropped out of school. He was also too bright. But his story so far (he's 30 now) has not been a good one. I keep hoping.
My high school sucked even worse than average and I left in the middle of 10th grade. A year and a half later I took the GED and went to college, which didn't suck at all for a person of my temperament.
My favorite part was the fact that I had no math, neither aptitude nor education beyond the first year of algebra which I flunked and re-took. Back then (1972) the GED was in 3 parts, reading comprehension, general social studies type stuff and math. After I finished the first two parts I looked at the math section and could only answer two of the questions. I looked at the pattern in the fill-in-the-bubbles answer sheet for the other sections and filled in a similar pattern in the math answer sheet. I passed by two points.
Oh that's brilliant! I think I'll go take the LSAT.
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