don't want to jinx good news

[Zoe Girl]

Okay

[iris lilies]

That's all well and good, but I am more interested in the boundaries that you have set, or will be setting, with her. If you assume that she won't be back to live with you, you are probably wrong. If you assume that she won't expect you to step in and rescue her, you are probably wrong.

If you continually put the onus on her to change, nothing will change.

[Zoe Girl]

Okay