1st wife to 2nd wife, funny!

[Zoe Girl]

My ex husband is married again, I have nothing against his new wife P. The kids seem to like her, she is different than me but we both like really good (quality) food. So this story is a funny moment, I am sure I am sure someone may not see it as funny but I think across the fractured family tree we all find it amusing.

This last weekend my kids went with dad to Eastern Colorado for a family reunion. It is mostly much older relatives like a lot of family reunions. They came back and said they didn't think anyone liked each other very much. The good part was finding a cute bed and breakfast to stay in, the bad part was probably all the food. The potluck was more KFC greasy chicken and bad cakes than what either their dad or I usually serve. P is a pastry chef and teaches cooking at a college.

Then my daughter told me that P had a fine time but at first she didn't understand why P had 2 water bottles with her. Then P leaned over and told my (adult) daughter she had had too much to drink. So that was the 2nd water bottle and that is how she handled these relatives!! Honestly I have never heard a concern about her drinking, I think she just found a coping skill I had never thought about! I actually don't drink but if I had thought about this I may have tried it myself. This family is hard to take.

So I was thinking there should be a greeting card line out there for sending 1st wife cards to 2nd wives. I would love to send her a card for handling them, I certainly never got the art of getting along with them.

[Tradd]

Zoe, that is funny!

[iris lilies]

A couple we know was talking about their ex-s. She said that we went to a family wedding shower in the early years of their marriage and was ill at ease at being in the same room with her husband's first wife because it was a bad and ugly breakup. The two women found themselves sitting in a room, alone, awkwardly. Then the first wife said "Is George still a bad driver?" and that broke the ice because 2nd wife thinks George is a terrible driver! So the two women found that they could laugh at something, and they have since become friendly.

And OP, funny story. A Hallmark line of cards would be amusing.

[redfox]

I wonder if I could laugh with my SK's mom, after all the hell we went through with & because of her... It is my biggest letting go challenge. Oy vey!

[try2bfrugal]

A couple we know was talking about their ex-s. She said that we went to a family wedding shower in the early years of their marriage and was ill at ease at being in the same room with her husband's first wife because it was a bad and ugly breakup. The two women found themselves sitting in a room, alone, awkwardly. Then the first wife said "Is George still a bad driver?" and that broke the ice because 2nd wife thinks George is a terrible driver! So the two women found that they could laugh at something, and they have since become friendly.

And OP, funny story. A Hallmark line of cards would be amusing.

We know some people where the ex (remarried) and the new wife became best friends. The two couples did a lot together socially, the husbands were buddies and the wives even went on vacations together without the husbands. I think the grandchildren helped bring them together.

When we met them they were all sitting and eating together at a club function and quite enjoyed telling people how they became friends since it was so unusual.

[ejchase]

Okay, I'll say it: alcohol is not a coping skill, and I hope your kids don't see it as one.

I'm not saying I've never had a drink to get through a tough moment, but as someone with alcoholism all throughout my family, I try to be super-careful and stay conscious about what I'm doing.

I hate to be the sourpuss, but I just can't find this all that funny, and I think the fact that people do find this kind of thing funny is one of the reasons we have an epidemic of alcoholism in this country. And people die every single day due to that epidemic.

[iris lilies]

Okay, I'll say it: alcohol is not a coping skill, and I hope your kids don't see it as one.

I'm not saying I've never had a drink to get through a tough moment, but as someone with alcoholism all throughout my family, I try to be super-careful and stay conscious about what I'm doing.

I hate to be the sourpuss, but I just can't find this all that funny, and I think the fact that people do find this kind of thing funny is one of the reasons we have an epidemic of alcoholism in this country. And people die every single day due to that epidemic.

That is a valid POV and actually, is one that I didn't think of. It doesn't hurt to point it out.

[Zoe Girl]

I agree with it not being a coping skill. They have been modeled overall life without alcohol. I almost never drink alcohol, and neither does their dad. So I usually am the one who takes this very seriously, we talk about alcohol and drug use since I have been straight edge for life. I just chose this time to observe the humor since my daughter is an adult and I wasn't there.