Couple Spent $1.56 on Wedding

[try2bfrugal]

I enjoyed this article on a couple's way to have frugal wedding that sounded quite nice -

http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/couple-spent--1-56-on-their-wedding-%E2%80%94-could-you--181747605.html

The bride's gown came from freecycle, the guests brought pot luck food, and sat on hay bales.

[ctg492]

We walked to court house after work. Seems like it was $16 for the fee.

[Tussiemussies]

Wow, they did a great job at being frugal. The only part I don't think would be appropriate is sitting on hay bales. The rest sounded very nice...

[try2bfrugal]

We walked to court house after work. Seems like it was $16 for the fee.

We went to the courthouse, too. But the wedding in the link sounded like it was just as frugal but a lot more fun.

[Miss Cellane]

Well, I think it was a fine wedding, up until the point where they made their guests bring all the food. That's an etiquette violation. At a true pot luck, the hosts provide some of the food, usually the main dish/course, and the plates, flatware, etc. Asking your guests to bring all the food is not real hospitality.

This couple could have foregone the reception and still had an inexpensive wedding and not made a huge etiquette mess.

Basically, they wanted a reception, but didn't want to pay for it, so they made their "guests" pay for their own food and drink.

I realize this may be a minority opinion here.

While I am all for being frugal, this wasn't polite or nice to the guests at all. Had the couple provided *any* part of the food and drink, I'd feel differently.

But having the wedding you can afford means that you have the wedding *you* can afford, not the wedding your guests can afford for you.

This wedding still cost money; it just didn't cost the Happy Couple money.

[iris lilies]

Wow, they did a great job at being frugal. The only part I don't think would be appropriate is sitting on hay bales. The rest sounded very nice...

oh hay bales! Even at a $25,000 wedding reception you might be required to sit on hay bales. Barn weddings have been the thing for a while now.

I read posts at one of the wedding websites and its just amazing, and tragic, how women struggle to get enough money to put on the right show. Going into debt , fighting with family members over a $45 hair-do, buying 3 dresses because the first two aren't quite right--ugh.

Fortunately there are plenty of sane woeman on that site who talk about their hopes and dreams for their marriage as well as for that one single day and they want only a day of support and love from their family, details of caterers and decor and the like are not important.

One of my favorite posts was from a bride who wanted to dictate the guest's attire because her extended family members always showed up to events in blue jeans. Guess where her wedding reception was held? In a barn. But blue jeans, not cool. This made me laugh.

[try2bfrugal]

Well, I think it was a fine wedding, up until the point where they made their guests bring all the food. .

I didn't catch that. They should have provided some of the foods and drinks. If I was planning a frugal wedding today I'd probably ask the guest to bring a pot luck dish instead of a gift. We were married in our mid twenties, so we already had all the houseware stuff we needed. We went to a courthouse and bought a house instead of spending money on a wedding, though in hindsight at least a little, frugal celebration would have been more memorable.