As much as I enjoy the conversations I have, I would not enjoy discussing health issues or "how much I hate this job". Yes, there needs to be boundaries on topics.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lainey
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As much as I enjoy the conversations I have, I would not enjoy discussing health issues or "how much I hate this job". Yes, there needs to be boundaries on topics.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lainey
These are entirely reasonable concerns.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lainey
It got so that I hated to make eye contact with our tuckpointer because he would put down his tool and start yakking.That was merely annoying, but a stranger making inquiries about your living arrangement is a cause for concern. Of course it's entirely likely that don't intend anything by it, but how gauche of them and naive.
It was cool to see how professional my friend was about cleaning our house. There were things he didn't talk about until I brought them up in group casual, social conversation (like the horrific habits of our dogs or our always-filthy compost bucket by the sink). It's not a secret, but he understood the sensitive nature of working inside someone's home.
DH, while a kind-of chatterbox, zips his lips when he's got info about our friends. He works around our neighborhood and he knows who is getting their house ready to sell due to moving or divorce or they are fixing up a mother-in-law apt for someone to come in and live, or someone's child has moved back home due to problems, etc. He doesn't talk about that until it's public and he keeps confidential info confidential. But OTOH he's pretty chatty and I would find that strange if I didn't know how to turn it off. He runs around working like a busy bee but when the job is over, he will stand and yak for too long.
So this segues into not exactly a peeve but a comment on the difference of humans: I have what is probably a "short inner timer" for ending casual conversations. There are very few people with whom I wish to stand around and talk to in, say, the grocery store. I am there to get groceries. DH is different. When he runs into someone we know at the grocery store he will plant himself in one spot and yak. He is not a stream of consciousness yakker, he asks questions and listens and etc. It just as though he has no "inner timer" or else it is set for a very long timer. Perhaps he feels it impolite to end the conversation, I don't know, have never been able to figure it out. It is always the other person who ends the conversation in these situations. DH will stand in the spot, silently, but will never end the conversation. It's just very interesting.
That said, I am fine with casual chat if the purpose of the event is casual chat. We go to parties where the purpose is "to be social" so I can do that for hours, it's fine. I guess my "inner timer" isn't operating then.
I am adding another peeve, clearly against the rules to peeve more than 1X daily, but I don't' care.
Why won't this lily seller act like a business? Do they want to sell me lilies? Then return my call or my email. Communicate for god's sake. Each year we have this problem, I badger them to verify that they received our order. I order for our Lily Society's sale and there is no room for error in a dropped order, I must have confirmation from her that she received our order. She doesn't respond. I call and leave message since they never answer the phone, no response. I email and call the same day--sometimes, she will respond to that.
When we owed her $1,000+ and she would not send an invoice I badgered her every two weeks for an invoice, no response. Finally, months later, she said that she had fired her bookkeeper who claimed to have sent out all invoices. But this lily business has been run this way for years. I realize that they are farmers and hybridizers and only secondarily wholesalers, but pleeeeease.
Needing patience but finding none. :(
A pothole ate my front passenger tire this morning at 5:45 am on the way to work. The roads are absolutely atrocious around here! Ironically, a guy I work with at Whole Foods who lives in my neighborhood hit the same pothole on the way to work this morning and blew out TWO tires! AAA Michigan was so busy this morning it took being on hold for one hour to just to request roadside assistance and it took another 1.75 hours of waiting for the tow truck. These poor guys are being kept so busy around here this crazy winter!
"I can totally understand your concern, ha ha." 1. I don't care if you understand my concern, what I care about is whether you can fix my problem. 2. I know you're scripted to say this, and that makes it even worse. Do I need to outline my concern anyway? You've taken away my ability to comfortably express my concern without feeling like a redundant fool by saying you already know about it, and I don't like that. And do you actually understand my concern? Do you have a clue about my concern? Could you care less about my concern? Somehow I doubt it. Have you just co-opted a formerly reassuring phrase and made it completely meaningless in an attempt to shorten my part of this interaction after I've spent 20 minutes listening to Barry Manilow interspersed with encouragement to fix my concern online (which I certainly would prefer if it were an option, obviously I can't do that if I've actually bothered to call you) ? Oh Mandy, honestly.
>:(
My dog had to have 6 teeth pulled :(
I completely understand your concern. And sympathize. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by kib
That's a lot of teeth gone! I am home today after taking a dog for emergency surgery, he's got stones in his bladder and urethea. Now he is uncomfortable and hurting, poor baby. And I was thinking about dental surgery because the last time I had major surgery with a dog was about 2007 with $1800 in teeth removal. She went to the dental specialist in town because I was easily swayed by the other specialist's insistence that this was something serious. She did later died, in 2009, of something in her cranium, so perhaps the teeth problem was the harbinger of it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Gardenarian
We just had another tooth surgery last month not so severe, with around 3 teeth removed from our youngest Frenchie.
So sorry about your dog, iris lilies. I have gazehounds and they are notorious for their weak teeth (and dislike of brushing :)
Quick peeve: people who track slush/gravel/salt into the lobby of my apartment building. The door mat is there for a reason, people! It's not too hard to stamp your feet a few times, and makes the job of the superintendent much easier. There, I feel better now....
Maltese are the same. We have spent a fortune in dentals. One dog is toothless and the other 2 have 12 & 14 teeth left & I think they start with about 42. Vets on the West Coast make a fortune.
yes ...Medical costs :D http://watchfree.me/20/w.pngQuote:
Originally Posted by larknm
Both myself and the guy I work with that got flat tires on the way to work last week due to the giant hidden pothole, got a negative point on our attendance log at Whole Foods because we were late that day ~ SERIOUSLY??????!!!!!! We are allowed 6 points within a six month period before you get fired....I am not in danger of getting fired or anything but to me something like this is totally out of one's control and I don't feel like I should have been penalized. I did make it to work, albeit 3 hours late but if I known I was going to get a point anyway I should have just turned around and gone home and enjoyed the day off. Sheesh!
Is it too much to ask a co-worker to respond within 24 hours to an email asking a direct question? I had to escalate it to her boss, which I don't like doing, but I could not afford to be kept in the dark about the status.
Cmon people, it takes like 2 minutes to type "yes, I can work on that and get you the data Thursday." After escalating to her boss, she emailed me apologizing saying she meant to discuss my request with "her team" before getting back to me. Okay, fine, but clue me in too so we all know what's happening. Hit reply to my emails, it's simple!!
Ok, I have this adorable pair of navy, cap-toe flats. They are the cutest blue shoes I own (other pair is only quasi-cute.)
The problem is the are size 7 (my size) but the fit like a size 5 narrow (little girls.) Seriously these shoes are like an iron maiden--for my feet!
I keep wearing and wearing them thinking I'll break them in but it never gets any better. Every time I wear them, I complain vociferously to anyone willing to listen--and many unwilling.
Finally, a couple weeks ago I bought a $23 pair of shoe stretchers on Amazon. Then, I applied the pressure. For one whole week! (Instructions say 48 hours.) Every other day I went in and ratcheted up the pressure another notch. I thought by the time I took out the stretchers they would be swimming on my feet. Not so. They were better but they were still crushing my toes flat.
Today I decided to wear the shoes again, knowing they were only somewhat improved but by the time I put them on this morning, they had returned to their original size! But I wore them anyway (what's one more day? And they are so cute.) By the end of the day I was limping so bad my knee is throbbing because apparently I changed my gait to minimize the crushing pressure.
Tonight I put them in the box to take to Goodwill (again.) This time they're not coming back out.
non-stop airplane noise. grrrr.
follow the dang flight path, pilots!
The dark side of AirBnB. >:(
My last renters left my cabin in disarray - moved all the furniture, broke a curtain rod, messed with the ceiling fan so it's all wobbly (there is a label to use the wall switch!) put a bunch of semi-clean dishes in the cupboards, left a window propped open with a book (one of MY books, apparently they couldn't figure out how to use a window.)
The fan is what I'm most concerned about. Idiots. I wasn't surprised to find two near-empty wine bottles in the fridge with corks floating inside them.
And what is irritating is that I can't really say that none of this was due to normal wear and tear. Some people just wear and tear a whole lot more than others. As dd says, the amount of stupid ....
I hope you leave a report on them as renters. I know you use to be able to do that, haven't used AirBnB in a few years but had great experience everytime...even when I had to drive the owner to the ER at 3 in the morning once.
I'm going to deduct the money for repair from the security deposit and am composing a politely negative review.
No one should have to put up with these monkeys.
Good for you, Gardenarian! You will make the Air BNB community better with your honesty.
My peeve for the day is that DH was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer and it was missed on a CT scan in 2009. It is not curable from what we have read. We did enjoy the last 5 years not knowing so that is a positive. We actually have enjoyed the last 12 years since we met. :)Trying to stay positive after reading the CT report that lists tumor after tumor. My eyes are almost swollen shut and my nose is red from sobbing but he wants chicken noodle soup for dinner and I am heading out to get some. Last night the oncall doc said 'nothing to worry about' after the rad called him at 8pm with the results of the ct and today his GP painted a different picture. We slept good last night thinking it was nothing.
Oh Simpler, I am sending you and your DH all the positive vibes and virtual hugs I can summon!
So sorry to hear your news! Wishing you both the best!!! Read an article today in the WI State Journal about ct scans that may be of interest to you!
For every "terminal" disease, there are survivors--so don't let the medical community point their voodoo bone of death at you, Simpler. I wish you both the best.
Hey Frugal-one, could you possibly post a link ? Unfortunately, ct scans and cancer are concerns in our lives as well, and I'm interested in becoming more knowledgeable about ct scans. DH is on a quarterly ct scan protocol, and we're a little creeped out by all that radiation exposure.
Sending lots of light and positive energy your way. I have a friend that was told with stage 4 ovarian cancer she had 6 months to live-that was 13 years ago:~)
Yes, that's more than a "Peeve", Simpler at Fifty! Please take care and let us know how things are going.
Simpler at Fifty, I'm so sorry to hear this news. You sound like you have a wonderful marriage.
Simpler at fifty, wishing the best for you.
Sorry.. can't find the article on line.Quote:
Originally Posted by rosarugosa
My wee peeve of the day: a roomie peeve. As you may know, DS, DDIL and 1 week old DGS are living with us. I was surprised DIL even wanted to live with us (or at least thought it was the best option for them at the time) because she is a clean freak, to the point of being OCD, and my housekeeping is far from slovenly, but I would call it "relaxed."
Anyway, that's not even the reason for the daily peeve because I think we both accept that this is an Odd Couple situation and we're making the best of it--each compromising to meet in the middle.
My wee peeve is, ever since the baby has been home the house has been a 1700 sq. ft. incubator. 74 is what they keep it. 74! Who keeps their house at 74?? Even when I was in my childhood home in the 60s when we thought fossil fuel was endless, 72 was the maximum.
It's bad enough during the day, but if we put the thermostat down to 68 or even 70 in the evening before we go to bed--they'll come down and put it back up to 74. They split the utilities with us so I don't have the right to complain, and if the baby weren't brand new, I would simply tell them we are too uncomfortable sleeping in the heat--which is true. We have the heat cranking and the fan on by our bed. It's insane.
That's my Sunday peeve.
Can you get a smaller portable heater for their room? An oil-filled one is safe, even for a room with a baby. Meets everyone's needs? They just need to put on sweaters when they come into the rest of the house.
Ah, Spring--when the neighbors take turns with their fume-spewing yard-maintenance machines. But I got smart today--and left when one of them cut loose with his droning mower. Apparently he then took a break, and resumed his droning just after I returned. I should move to the desert. Or a high rise. This goes on from Spring until late fall. Even multiple layers of earplugs don't work.
Those blowers drive me mad. I can see needing them for certain purposes, but most of the time - geez, get a broom.Quote:
Originally Posted by JaneV2.0
My dog has cancer. He'll be okay, but it still stinks.
My neighbor uses his leaf blower to remove a light layer of snow all winter long - year long, no escape from the noise!!
It's your house catherine. Tell them to wear more clothes (sweaters, etc.), or sleep with more blankets.
If you feel you can't complain because they are paying for half of the utilities......then adjust theirs a little bit down.
I'm afraid I wouldn't be so accommodating. They are staying in your house, out of a generosity on your part. Don't be afraid to speak out.
And babies don't need that much heat either.
First cold since last winter. I'm glad I haven't had more, but, yuck :-/
I feel sad that this forum seems to be dying.
I have noticed that there is a lot less posting then when I joined. I really enjoy this forum.