Feeling Left Out

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10-20-11, 11:45am
Charity

I agree. That really stinks. I'd feel the same way you do because even if they aren't your favorite people, it still hurts to be obviously excluded. They obviously have no manners.
10-20-11, 11:46am
daisy

There's nothing worse than feeling lonely in a group. Would it be unusual for you to go out to lunch with a work group on a normal day? If you're someone that normally runs errands or eats in, you may just be off their "work lunch" radar.
10-20-11, 1:52pm
CathyA

Some people just never learned good manners I guess. Or never developed a sensitivity for those around them. Even if I really didn't like someone, I wouldn't make them feel left out, like the people mentioned here have.
10-20-11, 2:46pm
Juds

I think that this hurts us because we care about other people and just want to be part of stuff. That has never happened to me at work or socially, but it happens all the time in my immediate family. Not only was I not invited to my spouse's retirement party, when a clueless person asked if I was going, my husband chimed in with a huge 'of course!', then later gave me the wrong address (smack in the middle of nowhere) so that he could be sure that I would not be there. I tried to not take it too personally because it is only the millionth time that it happened, but it did sting a bit.
10-20-11, 3:48pm
Gardenarian

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Originally Posted by reader99

Feelings are still feelings, regardless of age. Could be we associate these things with junior high because feelings are so very strong at that age. Excluding people is still hurtful even in maturity. Knowing that one didn't want to socialize with those people anyway is a great antidote.

Excellent point, reader99. I guess we hope that we've outgrown all of those hurtful times, but the heart is tender at every age.
10-20-11, 3:49pm
daisy

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Originally Posted by Juds

I think that this hurts us because we care about other people and just want to be part of stuff. That has never happened to me at work or socially, but it happens all the time in my immediate family. Not only was I not invited to my spouse's retirement party, when a clueless person asked if I was going, my husband chimed in with a huge 'of course!', then later gave me the wrong address (smack in the middle of nowhere) so that he could be sure that I would not be there. I tried to not take it too personally because it is only the millionth time that it happened, but it did sting a bit.

Your own husband gave you the wrong address for his retirement party? I'm not sure there are words to describe how that would make me feel. :(
10-20-11, 3:56pm
KayLR

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Originally Posted by daisy

Your own husband gave you the wrong address for his retirement party? I'm not sure there are words to describe how that would make me feel. :(

I agree....whaaaat???
10-20-11, 3:56pm
Juds

It was pretty crappy, so crap is a good word, although I had forgotten about it until I read this thread. I would love to say that you get used to this sort of thing, but you really do not. I just try to not let it bother me too much.
10-20-11, 3:57pm
Juds

Yeah.
10-20-11, 4:32pm
Aqua Blue

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Originally Posted by Juds

It was pretty crappy, so crap is a good word, although I had forgotten about it until I read this thread. I would love to say that you get used to this sort of thing, but you really do not. I just try to not let it bother me too much.

If it was me, I would be telling that story about my ex husband. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with him?

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