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I got quite mad at my mother in law who just turned around and left her purse in her cart while she wandered down the grocery store aisle. I think she had assumed that I would watch it but did not warn me that was needed.
I knew the horrible fall out if someone stole it. She did not speak to me for awhile but now wears a smaller purse with a cross body strap so it does not fall off.
When I do something like that (I'm sure I have left my purse the cart while I walked down the aisle at some point in my life), MY peeve is when people chide me about it. My thought is, "what's it to you?" Sweetana's case is a little different because it's her MIL and she's looking out for her, but for a stranger to comment on something I have no problem with, I think to myself, MYOB.Quote:
Originally Posted by frugal-one
I have a story about this from my youth. I was in graduate school and I left my bag on the table in the bigQuote:
Originally Posted by catherine
University library. I never had anything of worth in the bag, that’s why I didn’t worry about it. It was Library policy (I didn’t know it) for them to seize unattended purses and bags and take them to their security office.
So, when I came back to the table my purse was gone. I asked library employee about it and they said yeah it’s in the security office but that’s now locked up for the weekend. It was Friday night. I couldn’t get my bag until Monday morning. So that was annoying! I think the only thing that was a problem with a key to get into my room and it was in a dorm so there were other ways to get in.
But yeah, annoying. I don’t know if it was concern for theft that prompted the policy or if it was concern about explosive devices in unattended bags.Probably both.
Interestingly, I have had my wallet and/or pocketbook stolen about 4 times (in my 20s, working in NYC), and EVERY time, my wallet was on me, or at arm's length. It was never when I had left it alone. I'm not saying that you should just leave your purse unattended, but having it on you is no guarantee it's safe, either.Quote:
Originally Posted by iris lilies
I think Golde Hawn said something like, "I would rather trust people and risk losing something than live my life in fear and suspicion."
Well, but there’s reasonable caution and in a high crime area like St. Louis you’re just asking for it if you dont exercise it.Quote:
Originally Posted by catherine
There’s a post on our neighborhood’s Nextdoor this week from a woman who lives in the housing projects area a block from me. She’s complaining that her car was broken into and bags of clothing and cell phone were stolen.
There’s not one comment or not one “like” Acknowledgment to this post. I think it’s because people are rolling their eyes thinking lady, you dumb ass, you left electronics in your car? Duh!
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Originally Posted by catherine
I never thought Goldie Hawn was too bright. There is such a thing as being too naive! .. or stupid!
In the store I referred to earlier, they at one time, had pictures on the doors where you walked in with surveillance cameras showing people's purses being snatched.
Recently, an elderly woman thanked me for reminding her. She immediately put her purse on her shoulder. But in thinking about Catherine's comment, she is right. I shouldn't worry others.
I'm a big fan of cross-body bags, for many reasons.
That's just her way... to be honest, I'm a little naive or stupid, too. I do lock my car if I have something valuable in it, but not if I don't, and I rarely lock my house. I do approach every day life with a certain degree of naivety, but maybe because I kind of subscribe to Janis Joplin's "Freedom's just another word for nothing left to lose." I do have things that I have attachments to, but for the most part, I don't want to own much of anything I'd be upset to lose.Quote:
Originally Posted by frugal-one
I had a computer stolen out of my car in Vermont and never let it ruin the trip I was on with the kids. I lost a diamond in a my garden, and didn't spend much time looking for it. It's just a rock. And when I lost my wallets and purse in New York, in every case but one, the burglar stole money and then threw the wallet/purse in the mailbox, and I got them back. So you could say they were nice burgler. :)
I've never owned a security system or one of those car steering wheel locks. In my mind, they're more trouble than they're worth. I lock the doors at night just for peace of mind, but if I go out, "they can steal the rugs from the floor, that's OK by me, cuz the things that I prize, like the stars in the skies all are free."
That’s all very nice, but I wonder if you would act that way if you lived in a high crime neighborhood like mine.Quote:
Originally Posted by catherine
The one time our house was burglarized I can assure you that what they took was the least of it. They ran in and grabbed the TV and left. The Expensive, annoying, and time-consuming problem was that they kicked in the back door —it was a steel door mind you— it came off the frame and then the entire frame had to be fixed. If I’d had to hire that done that would’ve been a job that was well over $1000. Fortunately that was something that DH can fix. Unfortunately he was getting ready to go out of town that afternoon so he boarded up the doorway so that no one could get in or out including me, and I had to use the front door for several days.
Guess the lesson here so I should leave all my doors unlocked when I’m gone. Hmmmm.
I've sometimes left my wallet in my cart, I leave my door unlocked sometimes, I have packages delivered to my address when I'm not home unless they are high value. Nothing has ever gotten stolen that way. Ok really the only theft I've ever encountered other than some fraudulent attempts on a credit card, is there was awhile that people liked to break into my car, maybe partly because at that place it was in the back where it wasn't visible, maybe because I got some expensive radios on advice once and they got stolen a few times. It's been over a decade. I don't have expensive radios, my car is no longer in the back, it doesn't get broken into.
I DO have a car steering wheel lock, I don't want a car stolen, that's big money and a big pain, even though I have some theft insurance on it so I wouldn't take the full hit.