Originally Posted by
iris lilies
I finished The Unexpected Mother by Susan Ring. It is a true story about the author’s experiences as a surrogate mother while living in California.
Her first surrogate experience was for a couple she didn’t especially like, but that experience went smoothly. When the baby was six months old they wanted her to start another pregnancy for them, this time, twins. Her instinct told her these were not nice people, but she went ahead and did it. It all went wrong.
First thing to go wrong: against doctors recommendations they had him implant three embryos, thinking that it would be unlikely three would survive. Three DID survive. She had to have a “selective reduction “i.e. abortion at 14 weeks, and that experience haunted her.
And then much to her horror at around 30 weeks, the couple told her they didn’t want the babies after all. They were getting a divorce. The woman in the pair was not biologically involved. The father had donated and his sperm, so the twins were legally his.
The father was found to be bipolar and unable to take care of himself, and he did not want the children then, but after they were born, he had the expectation that eventually he would get them. He wanted them to go into the care of child protective services. These two babies were perfectly healthy.
The Surrogate mother was horrified by this and court actions took place. Long story short, she got full legal rights to the twins. She chose a nice young couple to be their parents, and at three months of age the twins left her home to live with their permanent parents.
this book showed one way out of many that surrogacy can go wrong. However, the author went on to be a surrogate parent at least three more times. she liked being pregnant and bringing life into being.