Haha! IL, I hear you. DH is the same. I usually lead the horse halfway to water and then he sees a salt lick and runs pell-mell towards it, thinking it's water.
Just this morning I had that happen to me. The center section of our house is quite dark, and lacks cohesion. I have been trying to pull it all together. There is one bright yellow wall in this center section that the natural light from the "front room" can barely get to, so I want to keep that as bright and cheery as as possible. In this carved up small space on that same yellow wall there are the two bedroom doors. Cheap doors--cheapest contractor grade you can get. I'm not planning on replacing them yet, but I am going to paint them and buy nice vintage knobs. Now if that yellow wall were something closer to a neutral, I would paint the whole kit and caboodle--walls, doors, moldings the same color to minimize all the visual clutter.
But it's yellow. Yellow is a little different. So I will probably go with a soft, warm grey or a bright white for the doors. But I was still contemplating the idea of yellow--repainting the walls a more mellow yellow-- and painting the doors that same color--so I asked DH, "So, you do you think we should paint the doors the same color as the walls?" He apparently didn't hear the last part, because he said. "Yes. I think we should paint the doors periwinkle blue."
No. The blue and the yellow would compete horribly and break up that space visually even MORE. Plus a cool blue would make the room even darker and cooler. So I said, "No, definitely NOT blue." And then he said, "See. That's what you always do. You ask my opinion and then you shoot it down." He hadn't realized that he didn't really listen to what I was asking.
((sigh)).
