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Sorry about MIL! My neighbor has a mother who plays the “oh I don’t want to bother you “game but the systems she puts into place to solve the problem, whatever it may be, require so much untangling and complexity that he expends three times as much time than he would solving it at the beginning.
Sweetana3, that is frustrating to deal with.
Is there a senior support system in her area that she can contact with a problem or need for service giving her independence rather than leaning on you? Our local agency provides a ride for a modest fee to whatever support is needed - dentist, doctor, medical tests, etc. Not intruding in your situation with MIL but suggesting a possible cause and solution that you could oversee or arrange.
I guess I just have to file this under “Life in St. Louis: “
A Nextdoor thread has residents arguing over the definition of “Active shooter.” Last night a man in the neighborhood next to mine stood in the steeet shooting his rifle. There is video of him doing this. Then, he ran toward a building ? with people in it? with his gun, but apparently ? not shooting?
Active shooter? Or not. What a dilemma! Let us debate that act of tomfoolery endlessly.
oh yeah and after 20 minutes the cops still had not come.
Razz, it really was just a rant.
We see her often to take her to get her groceries but for some reason she has decided that she will ambush us with problems instead of having a rational conversation when something happens. I do expect her to tell us when she needs to go somewhere and I have set boundaries of not scheduling doctor appointments first thing in the morning so I do not have to drive thru rush hour traffic. This set off a huge issue with her. I also do not do window shopping so she needs to know what she needs and have a list before we go shopping since I no longer will just take a day and drive around "shopping".
We order anything special on Amazon and have it delivered and have done this in the past especially last year. All she needs to do is ask. (I guess I am rambling again but she is so irritating to be around right now. The complex has again cancelled all activities and are req. masks due to rise in cases. )
I can understand anyone feeling ambushed, sweetana, under these circumstances.
I L, I am going to guess that you won’t miss how your neighborhood has evolved.
Speaking of neighbors...my rant is that the neighbor behind us has decided to renovate a camper in the alley. Literally hours every day of sandblasting, welding, spray painting, hammering. I guess he doesn't realize how much it is impacting our quality of life. We have to close all the back windows and stay indoors. I have lots of gardening to do back there but it is hard to be around the noise, smell and dust for any length of time. There...got that off my chest.
I just accepted a chairman position in a garden club organization that has 43 standing committees, each with a chairman.
43. And this is not even at the state level.
I think you can imagine how unnecessary is most of the business conducted at their meetings. I did tell the incoming president that I wasn’t going to guarantee my presence at meetings. Fortunately they only have two business meetings a year, plus an annual long drawn out luncheon meeting that goes on and on forever. The luncheons were nice in the years they were held at a country club, but lately they’ve been held at a plain vanilla location.
And the HUGE irony is that the National GardenClub Headquarters building sits on a fabulous site with a wonderful and expensive mid century modern building and—WE ARE NOT ALLOWED TO USE THAT BUILDING for most all garden club activities. No flower shows (perfect location!) no luncheons, no special events and only occasional club meetings which are blocked in Covid times.
Insane.
I call it “the palace of garden clubs” where no garden club members or gardeners are allowed to enter. The palace is a quiet, lovely building where no one ever goes except for the office staff.
With all these negatives you posted, why in the world did you accept?Quote:
Originally Posted by iris lilies
This is the only group that trains flower show judges for design and also sponsors many flowers shows. I am all about the Flower Shows and floral designing for shows as you well know.Quote:
Originally Posted by happystuff
In order for those activities to take place, someone has to do the work. That’s why I draw boundaries around what I’m going to do —may not attend many meetings,—-may not do this, may not do that, etc. but will definitely do my committee job.
It’s funny that I have a big job at the state level and will be out of town doing flower show stuff when this local annual luncheon is held. So I have a really good “excuse “not to attend the annual dull luncheon.