Excellent Catherine. Looks like when people stepped away from helping him, he stepped up.
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Excellent Catherine. Looks like when people stepped away from helping him, he stepped up.
That's excellent news, and must be a great relief to you and DH.
What a great outcome, Catherine, so glad for him.
Amazing, catherine!
That was my conclusion, too. Sometimes progress happens on its own schedule.Quote:
Originally Posted by Yppej
It is pointless to play coulda/woulda/shouda with catherine’s BIL but what could this guy have achieved if not coddled by his mother? The world will never know.
Yes, and Jeppy is right, too. His safety nets were gone and he had to land on his own feet. But I think that what really, really motivated him was his own mortality. He knew that unless he shaped up the best case scenario was having to have an ICD implanted and worst case scenario, he would die.Quote:
Originally Posted by iris lilies
Not to minimize what he did for himself, though. Lots of people are faced with shaping up or dying, and they choose death, so I'm really glad he was scared straight.
My rave is for my family. I haven't been around much the last week because of some personal stuff requiring travel. It was/is all family related and - without going into details - it just really reiterated how lucky and blessed I am with my family - every single member. I am so grateful for them all - young and old. :)
That's so wonderful, happystuff. So great to have that bond--and to feel refreshed and elevated after being with them.Quote:
Originally Posted by happystuff
I'm glad to hear that, Happystuff and I hope everyone is OK. My family is quite small, but precious to me as well.
Thanks, catherine and rr. It is what it is. Age catches up to all of us eventually. I guess it is how we deal with the inevitable that is most telling. I know my mom is a good and kind person, choosing being "nice" over being "not nice". If we truly reap what we sow in this life, then I know she is on the positive side of things. I am hoping I can follow suit - nice over nasty, happy over angry, etc. I firmly believe THESE are the things we both take with us and leave behind for others. :)
This past week I had a “mini” stroke (TIA). Thankfully I have no brain or physical problems from it. My DS sent some pictures he had in his phone of me. It gave me a gist of how I will be remembered… very interesting.Quote:
Originally Posted by happystuff
I'm glad you recovered from your TIA, frugal! It must have been pretty frightening for you and the family!Quote:
Originally Posted by frugal-one
Oh no, glad you are OK!Quote:
Originally Posted by frugal-one
How very scary, and hope you are feeling better!
Thanks. Yes, it was very disturbing. I was trying to speak and all that came out was gibberish. Some here could say that is always the case… haha.
Yikes! Glad you snapped back to normal.Quote:
Originally Posted by frugal-one
Oh, my! So glad you are doing better!!!
Scary business! Glad you're OK.
Glad you are fine now. I would stay on top of your BP to make sure it’s not too high.
Here is something nice:
My Neighbor across the street died recently at age 103. He was an old bachelor carpenter, his house was built in the 50s and he and his brother lived there together for decades until the brother died Sometime ago.
Another neighbor next-door to the old bachelor carpenter, Ray, pretty much looked after him in the past decade. Ray is our age. Within a couple of weeks after the bachelor Carpenter died at age 103, Ray put up his house for sale and move to his other house at Lake of the Ozarks. He’d really been hanging around here for the past few years to keep an eye on the old guy.
Isn’t that nice? Ray is divorced. He also happens to be a relative by marriage of one of my Daffodil Society friends.
so it was great that the old guy had somebody watching out for him.
unrelated to main point: Also I learned that Ray mowed the lawn two doors down from us in the house has been vacant for many years. I do not understand why relatives hang onto these houses that are vacant.
Houses are selling like crazy on our street, in fact Ray’s on house sold for $400,000. Thatis a lot of money for Hermann, in the city, if it isn’t a Victorian bed-and-breakfast Inn. It does have a couple of acres with it though.
So the house in Herman sold for 400k? Your post is confusing:)).
I think the point is, it's so nice that Ray actually held on to property just so he could continue to look after the old guy. Unusual these days to be so selfless. It is a nice story.
Well, my main point is Ray was watching out for the old guy.Quote:
Originally Posted by Teacher Terry
As an aside, Ray’s house sold for $400,000. The old Carpenter guy’s house sold for something like one $175,000. Houses are selling before they hit the market on my block in Hermann.
So you can’t make sense of my rambling post? Ha ha Ha I don’t blame you. I edited to make it more readable.
Another nice thing is that the little old lady next-door, in her 90s, moved her self down to the assisted living place in town. She had been running the bingo nights there for a few years so she knows the people there and knows the place. She and her family decided she shouldn’t be living on her own, and this was soon after she put her little dog to sleep.
So these are rather nice end of life stories for the elders on my block.
That read like, Damn that's cold.....:laff:Quote:
Originally Posted by iris lilies
My old family mechanic friend, took care of an old man he knew for decades. Guys wife had died in the 50's and they had no children (if I heard correctly, wife and child died in child birth).
He lived in a house with no a/c and refused to let the mechanic put one in, and lived just shy of his 96th birthday. Developed either dementia or Alzheimers, as before it was diagnosed, he got very lost and had driven quite a ways from home, was put into a home, and they saw he had skin cancer from his elbow to his shoulder and had been hiding it. He was in the home a week and passed.
Between the house, vehicle, life insurance and hands on money, he left my friend close to a million dollars.
As to why don't they sell family homes, there are several reasons from siblings fighting, out of sight, out of mind (incompetence), etc.
I don’t see anything about recognizing someone living a long life as cold, someone who is healthy until the very end, requiring only the neighbor next-door to check in on him regularly, take care of his car, and have a beer with several nights a week.Quote:
Originally Posted by ToomuchStuff
That is a life well lived.
As an opening sentence out of context, it doesn't sound very nice, but then of course it is rather nice in its entirety.
I bought a flat of pansies today and planted them in a couple of pots in front of my house. I will likely buy many more plants in the course of the spring and summer, but there is something special about potting up those first pansies!
We put our laundry line back up and am going out to hang laundry now! Love hanging laundry, love the lower electric bill.
Congrats! I love hanging out my laundry as well. Especially in the morning, when I can hear the birds.Quote:
Originally Posted by Tybee
Our neighbor has Guinea hens or keets...they are the noisiest and funniest birds I've ever watched. They race across our back yard into the meadow and just seem so determined to get where ever it is they aim yakking all the way! He said they eat ticks and snakes! So they are welcome to run in my yard whenever they want. I laughed for several minutes watching them
Just looked them up-keets are babies.
My alma mater won the men's Division 1 basketball championship Monday night! Which means I won $30 in my work pool. Hey - it's half a tank of gas!
My newly adopted coonhound after two weeks is coming out of her shell and enjoying the family life.
We would love to see pictures!Quote:
Originally Posted by BikingLady
Hounds are such interesting dogs. Loved my previous dog who was so gentle and patient except about cats. My current beagle is the same. The noses rule the head is a hound's motto.
Yes I have so found out in two weeks! Ears close when nose is down.Quote:
Originally Posted by razz
I tried but must not be smart enough to figure out how!Quote:
Originally Posted by rosarugosa
I think bae has a coonhound. I know razz has a beagle.Quote:
Originally Posted by BikingLady
My bulldogs say “ you hounds, go ahead out there running around sniffing out things. We’ll stay here and snooze on the couch. Let us know if you find anything,”
My poinsettia has been blooming steadily since last fall. Here is a photo:Attachment 4413
Shoot. Don't know why it is upside down.
This was the plant I brought to my parents a year ago January 6, and when I picked it up in March from their room, it was five yellow sticks, no leaves. Same plant that was out in the garden last summer.
I think my dad sits in that room and reads at night. He always liked poinsettias and once, when down in the Keys, took a boat out to see the house of the guy who was a big deal in bringing them to the US.
That is one happy poinsettia blooming so well.