We have a gate before our door so can’t lose our dogs or visiting ones. Dogs are people too so of course they are allowed on the furniture :))
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We have a gate before our door so can’t lose our dogs or visiting ones. Dogs are people too so of course they are allowed on the furniture :))
Yeah--I don't see the point of having a dog or cat if you're going to treat it like a prisoner of war. Unless the point is control, I would suggest an aquarium.Quote:
Originally Posted by Teacher Terry
Dogs do not have to get on furniture. Plenty of well loved and well cared for family pets are regulated to their own beds on the floor.Quote:
Originally Posted by JaneV2.0
My own house would be cleaner and less smelly if dogs did not get on furniture.
cats—I won't address that. They will do what they wish to do. Our last several cats never got on the kitchen counters. Not because they were trained, but because they didnt want to.
We had to train the big guy not to get in our bed because of my asthma and he was used to sleeping with his dad. We let him on the couch. We bought him a big comfy bed for the bedroom. He liked to snuggle on the couch with us and the little ones all 80lbs of him. It would have been mean to exclude him.
The dog was given a dog bed made by SERTA. He loved it once he got used to the idea of not going on furniture. He also was allowed to sleep either on that dog bed or a chair in our bedroom. I don't think he was treated like a prisoner. He just had to respect the rules of our house. He actually was quite pleasant once he understood the rules.Quote:
Originally Posted by JaneV2.0
Maybe having an authoritative alpha in his life made him feel secure--dogs like a hierarchy, I guess.Quote:
Originally Posted by frugal-one
I've never much liked hierarchies; that's why I prefer cats.
Little dogs are lap dogs. Mine would have been pitching a fit.
He was still in the room in close proximity to us. He also slept on the dogbed on the floor next to the bed or in the chair near the bed. He was close enough. We have had big dogs in the past.Quote:
Originally Posted by Teacher Terry
All in all, think our dog days are over. We will just visit with all the neighbor dogs. We don't need one of our own.
Big dogs are totally different from little ones. Everyone I know that has little ones are lap dogs and if you are sitting they are in it. Big dogs are a lot more independent.
My big 60 pound dog would love to be carried around on my chest in a Snugli, you know, one of those baby carrier things. If he could live every day with his heart against my heart, he would be happy. The boy bulldogs can be such big babies. My girls were a little more independent.Quote:
Originally Posted by Teacher Terry
My friend’s male pitbull is exactly the same. Big babies they are!
They sound sweet IL. Noki who was 80 lb has plopped down in my lap a few times if I was sitting on the floor or snuggling on the couch. Dogs love to be cuddled.
Remember the coworker's father who just got off the boat, never paying a penny of taxes, and got Medicaid and other government freebies? First he had heart surgery, a colonoscopy and other procedures, now prostate surgery, and they think he has lung cancer which he will also get treated. Meanwhile American citizens who have paid taxes their whole lives go bankrupt because they can't afford their own medical conditions. We should take care of our own first.
I actually owe you a apology. Because my son signed a contract saying his wife would never be on public assistance for 10 years I didn’t think this would ever happen. After much research it appears this is the first administration to follow the law and I cannot disagree with it.
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Originally Posted by Teacher Terry
I’m confused. What is the law that is now being followed?
I assume the father is here legally. Would you not have him come into this country at all legally? Or would you be ok with him here, but receiving no freebies from the U.S. taxpayers?Quote:
Originally Posted by Yppej
When you sponsor a fiancé or family member you agree you can support them for 10 years. This was 12 years ago and from what I am reading it’s now only 5 years.,
That's right--or at least it was right back in the 50s. My Scottish in-laws had to be sponsored when they came here.Quote:
Originally Posted by Teacher Terry
IL he is here legally. I think his daughter who agreed to sponsor him should be purchasing an insurance policy for him, or his wife who is able-bodied should be working at a job with family benefits and covering him. There are good paying assembly jobs in the area, no standing required, with bilingual supervisors and no need for English language skills. This couple has been here a year now, have green cards so can legally work, but have done nothing but soak up taxpayer money. In the winter they only leave the house for medical appointments because they don't like cold weather. The mother is my age and the father 6 years older than me. I don't like scraping the ice off my car, shoveling snow, and heading out in the dark and cold for six months of the year either but I do it, and if I lived in another country I would do it there too.
As I may have mentioned, my projects started slow this year, but somehow in late February everyone started calling me and asking me to work for them. No complaints on that, really! I've basically executed a year's worth of projects since March and it's only mid-August. I'm now at the burn-out phase. A client emailed me just now and asked me if I had time for a meeting today to discuss a meeting tomorrow (I HATE meetings). It's my son's birthday, and we are going into Burlington to celebrate, and felt such a surge of resentment over what will probably be a 10 minute call with a long time friend/client.
I feel I need to run the rest of these projects out (I'm still engaged actively in 5 projects) for the year and not take on too many going into the fall/winter. I'm afraid if I continue to overcommit myself, which is my tendency, I will wind up sabotaging projects and losing clients which is not a good long-term strategy for me.
Thinking about the "enough" of simple living, I can always feel when I've had "enough" work--I get angry, resentful, and frustrated, and I'm really at that point now.
My husband saves seeds (wonderful, I do, too) but he saves a lot of squashes that have crossed with other squashes and I just don't want to use my squash space growing some weird tasteless thing that reverts to a door holder.
I just wish he would stop trying to save every seed that enters our life.
He is a seed hoarder.
Unless it's flowers, and then let's save them all. . .
But in jeppy’s example, the father-guy is here far more recently than 5 years.Quote:
Originally Posted by Teacher Terry
perhaps this is a special program he is on?
I THINK we have the idiotic Obamacare situation under control. After several weeks of phone calls and various directives, we sent the final document that seems to satisfy the Obamabacare drones.Quote:
Originally Posted by iris lilies
DH has exactly the same income today that he had when he was covered by Obamacare 4 months ago: $0. So 4 months ago he was a-ok to have 0 income, but now he is not. We file income taxes jointly where all of the Obamacare subsidies are hammered out.
aye carumba, all we want is health insurance coverage until September 30. Then he will get Medicare coverage. How much subsidy we are ultimately allowed will be determined around April 15 of next year, and the subsidy is less of a concern than having health insurance coverage.
IL, lots of people are getting free stuff that they are not entitled to. I argued with her in a different thread not believing it. When I did research it appears that the other administrations just turned a blind eye. Now the law is being enforced.
Medicaid does not count as government support for new non-citizens, at least not in blue states. The states administer the program. In Massachusetts it is called MassHealth
Something that sounds like a chainsaw has been whining and groaning off and on for two days. They could have cut down a forest by now. Two layers of ear protection isn't working. Please take your f-ing instrument of torture and and go away,
I would consider any expenditures on behalf of immigrants as a wise investment, personally. At least they're not likely to hoard the money in offshore accounts.
Immigrants that come without a sponsor do deserve benefits to get established and it’s expected. The immigrants that are sponsored and someone signed a document stating that they will support them for x number of years and had to send paperwork showing that they can afford to do not deserve benefits. The sponsor has agreed to support them.
The daughter did agree to sponsor her parents but is not doing so. The formula is if over 50% of support is from her they can still get some government benefits, but for someone so sick most of his living expenses are medical not housing. The calculation does not take this into account but is one size fits all.
I can see supporting refugees, but these are economic migrants.
There is also some logic in extending higher education benefits to dreamers who will spend a lifetime contributing to the economy. Chain migration for older, sicker individuals is another story. I hope Trump succeeds in cracking down on this type of abuse of our immigration system.
Sponsorship law changed and was dropped in 1964. We immigrated in '61. I only learned of this change when I spent 1/2 day in the Holocaust Museum several years ago. I had no idea it was no longer required nor that the annual "quota" law had also been dropped. It took us 6y to immigrate!Quote:
Originally Posted by Teacher Terry
Sponsorship is alive and well. It was not dropped, it just is not being enforced consistently. They did deny Food Stamps to the couple, stating that the daughter sponsored them and should be feeding them for 5 years. Yet their more expensive medical treatment is at taxpayer expense.
Yes Yppej is correct. My son sponsored his fiancée 10 years ago and it was for 10 years. It appears it’s shorter now.
I am having so much anxiety about all the money regarding this house we bought; I vacillate between excitement and abject panic just about every other hour. This weekend is move-in, and the electrician has been there working on some issues and now it seems a new electrical issue just cropped up in that the power between the kitchen wall and the bathroom suddenly isn't working. It was working this morning when I was there, so I don't know if he blew a breaker or something while he was working on the bathroom or what. I've been in the gallery all day so K. is going up there to check on things.
The new roof over the studio room just cost us about a $1000....the electrician quoted $680 for all the stuff he was doing today. I just hope this latest thing turns out to be minor.
Please help me not panic too much! I've spent $5350 in the last three weeks and as a money hoarder it feels so foreign and bizarre!
SiouzQ, does it help if you remind yourself that you saved the money so you could spend it on something special someday, And this house is your Special?
Really, your expenditures don’t sound extravagant at all, all pretty normal. And I’m impressed if the entire roof problem was solved with only $1K.
I wonder if your anxiety is not only about spending, but also about spending on a joint project with a romantic partner. That takes trust and involves a certain loss of control.
Yes. And yes. It's all those things, and also the way I perceive money in my mind. When we first started this venture K. asked how much money I would be comfortable putting in up front, and I looked at my savings and very easily said around $6000. I think what freaks me out is seeing the endless list of charges for a hundred here, several hundred there, paying the roofer, electrician, etc, etc. So it's that old cliche', "it never seems to end!"
The house is looking really beautiful - the living room and dining area are mostly done and the furnishings are in. We still want to paint one of the walls a rich pumpkin accent color but we'll wait until the proverbial dust settles a little. I am still not all the way moved in and our bed hasn't been delivered yet so we've been sleeping in the loft.
I'm going to try and post some photos a little later.
Fkng thieves around here.
I am having some, errr, problems in getting a routine down about using our garage and the garage opener. Before my latest car purchase, I always parked on the street and I didn’t mess around with our garage. But now I park new car in garage and have to deal with the opener. Anyway –
I am mistakenly opening the garage door when I don’t intend it to be open and that allows any thieves walking down the alley, and there are a lot of them each day, to dart in and steal something. Our weed whacker is missing so likely it was stolen in the last couple of weeks.
That is a bummer, IL!! It sucks getting robbed.
Dare I say blame Trump for enabling you to buy the car that creates the need for the garage door opener that attracts the local thieves to steal the other items in your garage?:D
Damn that Trump!Quote:
Originally Posted by razz
What a satanically devious redistribution program. I always knew Trump was a Democrat at heart.Quote:
Originally Posted by iris lilies
Love it!:DQuote:
Originally Posted by LDAHL