So, he doesn't have to be 65, blind, or disabled? These qualifications are listed all over the Google articles about SSI.Quote:
Originally Posted by Teacher Terry
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So, he doesn't have to be 65, blind, or disabled? These qualifications are listed all over the Google articles about SSI.Quote:
Originally Posted by Teacher Terry
It sounds to me like he has a disability based on what Catherine has said. Yes SSI is for poor people that meet this other criteria. I don’t have to look it up because I know it but forget that others probably don’t. If he doesn’t have a diagnosis he can probably get one.
Oh we all know that people can collect SSI based upon a disability. I think the question is 'What makes you think Catherine's brother is disabled rather than just uninspired by responsibility?'Quote:
Originally Posted by Teacher Terry
If I remember correctly I thought she said he had a intellectual disability. It could be he’s just lazy and then will have to wait for age 65.
I like the idea of getting on the waiting list for affordable senior housing. I think he can do that while still having some money in the bank.
OK, this bolded above signals the meat of this discussion.Quote:
Originally Posted by Teacher Terry
Here is where your expertise can enlighten us : what is involved with this guy of California citizenry getting a diagnosis that meets the criteria for “disabled? “
My uneducated internet-random-person’s opinion is that there IS an intellectual disability here with the BIL, a mild one. Not only does he have trouble with executive function, he showed evidence of some kind of learning impairment when his brother tried to explain classwork from the community college course to him.This latter experience could be explained by the BIL never having to challenge his brain, so he doesn’t have practice at it. Or maybe he cant grasp abstract concepts. Or something.
How would this show up on any test? What test would he be given? Can he hire a tester who would be more friendly to his case? Are California testers generally more lenient then elsewhere because California?
I am interested in the whole testing process which you know about.
The testing is done by a psychologist and would include IQ testing. If his IQ is below 70 he would qualify. He could also examined for a MI but it would need to be fairly severe to qualify. A LD probably won’t do it. SS makes their own determination based on medical records. Testing is straight forward and are facts. You can’t like someone so diagnose them with a ID if that’s not the facts. Strict criteria is required and isn’t different between states. I based my comments on what Catherine said but for all I know he doesn’t have a disability.
I feel it's 75% the latter and 25% the former. I think my MIL stunted his functional growth by enabling the heck out him, but the reason he's not working is because he can avoid it for the time being. And, truthfully, there is a limit to his skill set. His intellectual disability is that he really has no clue about life in general, and he missed out on opportunities to learn job skills--even his basic computer skills are dismal. Last April, I had to teach him (for the 5th time) how to attach a word document to an email.Quote:
Originally Posted by Alan
I think applying for senior affordable housing is the best idea. I was pushing him to invest his money in a cheap mobile home in a cheap place like Florida. I told him a million times as long as he has a car and a roof over his head, he'll be fine, but now I'm afraid he'll blow through the money that could give him at least that.
I am worried that he will have just enough money to get back to you and your DH who will not be able to say no to him when he comes looking for support. It has worked so far after your MIL died and it will work again unless you make some very different decisions regarding BIL in your life. A size of a small house is not enough defence as he will want to sleep on your sofa. He is as smart as he needs to be to survive.
My fear as wellQuote:
Originally Posted by razz
It might be time for your husband to attend Alanon meetings to learn how not to be co-dependent. We went through this for years with my middle son who has a drug addiction. He has been homeless more than once and is now. Both my ex and I will talk to him on the phone but have made it clear he can’t live with either of us and we are done sending money. It’s heartbreaking and the hardest thing either of us has ever had to do.
I lost 2.5 years of my life.
By MISTAKE, I upgraded to Sierra. I got daily notifications to upgrade, and I constantly chose "Remind me tomorrow" because there was no option for "Stop harassing me." I must have clicked on the wrong choice when I was in a hurry, because when I rebooted my computer, all the wheels started turning and now I'm in Sierra.
I do have iCloud, so thank God I didn't lose anything, but my journal, which I have written in since 1964, over the past years was captured on an app called DayOne. Well, it seems that the computer restored stuff and it wiped out everything after March 2017 (previous data is in an exported format on a separate computer).
I don't write for publication. I don't even write for someone to read about me when I'm gone. I write to feel and to put words to my feelings. So, really, I suppose it's not a huge deal, although I was really upset yesterday.
The other reason I write is to timestamp life events. Thankfully, I haven't used my journal that much for that lately because I do so much writing on this forum as well as other discussion boards.
But what a bummer!!!! Rereading old journals has helped me dust off the past and put my feelings in perspective. Through it, I see how time warps the reality of the past. It has served a good purpose for me. I hate having lost feelings around losing my dog, having two of my grandchildren, buying the house in Grand Isle, going through a rough winter last year. But so be it.
Oh catherine, I’m sorry to hear that!
Not surprisingly to some of you, I use this site as kind of a life journal. I often go back and read my past posts to see what I was reading back then, what I was thinking back then etc.
What is to stop a person smart enough to know what the wrong answers are to deliberately flunk the IQ test in order to get disability?Quote:
Originally Posted by Teacher Terry
I am more and more of the opinion we should scrap all our social welfare programs and go with UBI. There are people so beaten down by life they can't deal with the paperwork and bureaucracy to get benefits they deserve, including mentally ill people living on the streets, and undeserving people who through persistence or a good lawyer get benefits they don't deserve. UBI for all citizens would avoid these problems, though I think create others, like addicts having more money to OD with.
You make great points. You are right that the bureaucracy is daunting even to the mentally able. UBI levels the playing field, takes away the social stigma of benefiting from certain programs, and also helps transition people from a manufacturing economy to a new world economy, which we are on the brink of, frankly. At least that's Andrew Yang's argument.Quote:
Originally Posted by Yppej
Of course.When Teacher Terry says those test scores are absolutes, well, I dont think so.Quote:
Originally Posted by Yppej
It is true that there is an absolute number resulting from a testing situation, but does that number accurately reflect what the test is intended to measure? Yes, No, and maybe, depending on the circumstances.
Sure, ideally UBI removes obstacles in dealing with the gubmnt bureaucracy that hands out resources. I just dont understand how ya’ll expect, for instance, catherine’s BIL to live the last 10 days of the month when he blew his UBI check during the first 20 days. And his rent is due on the 25 of the month.
That is why the gifts from Nanny G are item specific—EBT benefits are for food and only food. Senior housing gives you a roof and only a roof. Bus vouchers work only on the bus, not UBERing to the gambling parlor. Medicare benefits treat your health and only your health. Etc.
Yes, I do have a lot of data about my life right here, so hopefully Alan keeps paying the bill and the site doesn't go down! :)Quote:
Originally Posted by iris lilies
First of all having a IQ of 70 or below really cannot be faked. The psychologist could tell from talking to you that it wasn’t so. I don’t think you understand what it really means to have that low of intelligence. Most people have too much pride to do that but regardless it wouldn’t work. Some people that end up on disability have made good money and their payment is based on that so only getting a thousand a month wouldn’t be fair. There are agencies that help people with the paperwork. 30 years ago it was easy to get disability but now it’s ridiculously hard unless you have a terminal illness.
Regarding BIL, his IQ is definitely above 70, but he isn't bright enough to figure out how to fake it. Plus there is no way he would think about doing this, and there is no way I would ever say "You're probably going to qualify for benefits because you're cognitively disabled." To an earlier point, He has two issues: he has never learned the ways of the world thanks to his mother infantilizing him for 40+ years, plus he's lazy. Those are his only disabilities.
IL, you are generally right about the specificity of benefits, but there are individuals and stores that participate in EBT fraud. In my area the rate is $1.00 in EBT for 50 cents in cash. Welfare phones are also resold.
My brother in law has done a nice little side line business in buying and selling EBT cards over the past dozen or so years. He sold his first couple of free phones for cash and then was surprised to find he couldn't get another after "losing" more than one in a several week period. Frankly, it surprised me too, the checks and balances on that system were better than I expected.Quote:
Originally Posted by Yppej
I tend to agree with you. When I read about all the limitations of what things like SNAP benefits can be spent on, etc, I just think to myself, "surely these people are in the best position to know what they need to be spending money on. Selling one's SNAP benefit at $.50 on the dollar because one perceives some other need to be more important than food is probably only done because some other need really is more urgent than food. The only winner in that situation is the person that bought that SNAP benefit at a sharp discount. And it also infantalizes the person receiving benefits from the government program by assuming that they are too stupid to be able to make rational decisions on their own behalf.Quote:
Originally Posted by Yppej
This is the second day on a row I have tried to find out what an eye appointment would cost me. Neither the providers nor my insurance company can tell me. They are still working on it. My insurer outsourced customer service to another insurer but did not provide them with rate information so even though I have the CPT billing codes I cannot get the information I want which I am entitled to by state law.
Here is a rant, and I hope no one gets hurt in the process, haha:
I love white kitchens and think they are classic, and I also think white/ ivory/cream kitchen cabinets in a traditional style are entirely appropriate for my Victorian city house and my Hermann cottage.
But renovators and home decorators have so overdone white kitchens in recent years, I hesitate to put white cabinets in our Hermann house. That’s what I gravitate to, but I dont want my kitchen to look circa 2018. I dont want it to be entirely common.
Driving home this stupid trend was a TV show I watched recently. It’s a reality show about the Hollywood set. An actor and his wife bought a 70s style split foyer house they are renovating. They are putting in sleek and modern finishes. Oh wait – the kitchen is going to be—and this is a direct quote, “farmhouse style.” It will have one of those dumb sinks that hang out and white cabinets. Because yeah, they live in a farmhouse. In the Hollywood hills. In their 1974 split foyer box.
A sleek and modern kitchen would be great in that box. Too bad the owners are devoid of imagination, and they even have a decorator who should be guiding them to something less stupidly trendy for their box.
Our white cabinets and appliances are circa 1995.Quote:
Originally Posted by iris lilies
Some flipper bought and remuddled my SO's condo. I hate every single thing she did to it from the mint green walls to the ugly stripey faux wood floors to the uber-shiny white on white kitchen. It was built in the seventies, too.
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I like white kitchen cabinets. In our house we gutted much of it but the cupboards were new. They are a very light maple and are fine but not what I would have chosen.
Jane - that is indeed very ugly.
Iris - why don't you do painted cabinets? I'm partial to green myself but you can just pick something that you will enjoy looking at everyday. No one says you have to do white! :)
I'm neutral on white--depends on the rest of the house/decor. However, I did see one of those stupid FB slideshows: "Trends On Their Way Out" and white cabinets was one of them, because supposedly people didn't realize you see dirt much more easily on white and they don't want to have to wipe them down all the time.
I painted over my white cabinets in my VT house--they are now Wasabi. I love it.
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Jane, I agree that they have given your SO's place the charm of a hospital kitchen. Aggravating.
I've certainly seen white kitchens done well, and--in general--I like painted cabinetry.
Or a morgue...Quote:
Originally Posted by catherine
Whenever I look at pictures posted they are blurry.
I am thinking of green cabinets, yep. Maybe even the trendy duo tones, with white for top and green for bottom cabinets. The white or ivory lightens the room. I am trying to keep a minimum of surface colors. I would like to have have no more than 4. In an ideal world the ceiling, the upper cabinets, the backsplash, and the counter top is all the same color. Different textures of course, but one color or close-color. The floor will be, I hope, a medium oack to match the original floor in the living room.Quote:
Originally Posted by Geila
ah yes, the ubiquitous grey barn-board-wannabe floors. I hate those with a passion, arent we all sick and tired of them by now?Quote:
Originally Posted by JaneV2.0
Considering they replaced saltillo tile in the kitchen (!), they're doubly cursed in my view. There are so many flooring options now, most of them much more appealing than the faux barn floor look. Real reclaimed barn floors would probably work in some buildings--like vacation cabins--but they clearly don't work here.Quote:
Originally Posted by iris lilies
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Originally Posted by JaneV2.0
yes! There are so many choices of flooring! Same with tile. If you go to a tile store There are scads of gorgeous tile. Even the limited selection of a big box store give some interesting options. But all of the tile backsplashes I see now are one of two things: subway tile Which I actually like because it’s classic, or that dominant brown tile that comes in small rectangles. I don’t like that stuff mainly because it’s all over the place.
I like what I like and trends be damned. I think that not going with what you like because it is currently trendy is just as bad as going with something because it is trendy. Either way, you are letting trends dictate your choices.
I love simple classic white kitchens, and that would be a pretty appropriate style for our 1920s cottage. I don't watch TV and my only shelter magazine is the Old House Journal, so I am not terribly aware of the latest trends.
My kitchen cupboards are a deep black-brown, quality cabinets. Do they ever show the dust on a sunny day! Had a medium golden oak in my last house and loved its elegance. An old farmhouse kitchen needed a lot of work. We painted the cupboards white and bright yellow and the walls had large 8" sunflowers on a white background wallpaper. That was my favourite colour combo. I always choose white appliances.
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I was in the grocery store yesterday and this whole 5 door section with white tape around it came off the wall at the top and started to topple on me when I opened the door. I got it pushed back and found a manager since the stocker was totally unhelpful. The manager actually said "I dont know what to do." I suggested caution tape and a barrier since it was so dangerous.
I was concerned so walked back to the area and photographed it. All they had done was replace the white tape and you can see the man doing it. Contacted the company and they are to call me.
I am going to go back to day and if it is not secure, I am going to file an OSHA complaint.
Imagine if the door unit had fallen on me, a child, a disabled person in a wheeled chair?
The refrigerator case, the entire thing, fell forward!!!?? Whaaaaaaaat? That is scary. I’m glad you are following up on this situation. I’ll bet it’s been like that for a while now.