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Freshstart it appears you are having an epiphany moment. I remember when I was seeing counselor and she would say something that made so much sense and was so simple that I just could not see on my own. Had to do with choosing when to call my mother rather than responding when she called me all het up about something. It made a world of difference. Good for you. Let the cleaning lady deal with "helping" and you find your own peace. Good luck!!!
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thanks! I think that was an epiphany. A side benefit of my mother's disease is her oxygen cord doesn't reach my end of the house. So she sees me on my terms, unless she's calling. That will save me from endless hoard related discussions
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The surprising gifts of oxygen tanks...
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This lady is saying she is going to do a complete de-hoard in a weekend. Thoughts?
http://dfw.cbslocal.com/2016/07/19/h...s-clean-sweep/
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I wish her luck. I hope it works for her.
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I'd be curious to check in with that lady and see how she's doing 6 mos - 1 year after the clean sweep. She certainly sounded motivated on the video but I wonder if it's really going to stick.
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I think the clean sweep is really the only way to make change. Clean house show did something similar and when they went back a few years later few people had relapsed also they were not as bad as the show hoarders but still pretty bad.
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If the people generally relapse, how is it the only way to make change? Have there been any studies of people who turned themselves around slowly - it seems like surgical weight reduction vs. life changes leading to gradual weight loss.
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People generally relapse. That is essentially all there is to it. A very, very few ever hold on to their weight loss or their decluttered house or their sobriety.
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we occasionally had volunteers in hospice who would help with a hoarder's home before they died, I never told the volunteer's but they always relapsed unless they were bed bound and physically could not re-hoard.