How to prioritize and anticipate aging parents' needs?

My condolences to you as well, SiouzQ.

Just caught up with this thread - so sorry for your loss - both to Tybee and SiouzQ. My mother, at 98, died peacefully in a memory care facility, just after we all left for the night. Stubborn to the end, I'm sure she waited for us to go away, lol. She wanted to live out her life at "home", but what she thought of as home morphed about as she deteriorated. At the end, she was sure she was back in the home she and dad built pretty much by hand, so that was all good. My father took his own life when it became clear to him that he, only in his 70s, was going to be unable to continue living as he wanted, and he simply refused to accept those conditions. This was not a shock to any of us, though we were all sad to lose him.

May those who pass, and those who love them, all find peace.

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Originally Posted by early morning

Just caught up with this thread - so sorry for your loss - both to Tybee and SiouzQ. My mother, at 98, died peacefully in a memory care facility, just after we all left for the night. Stubborn to the end, I'm sure she waited for us to go away, lol. She wanted to live out her life at "home", but what she thought of as home morphed about as she deteriorated. At the end, she was sure she was back in the home she and dad built pretty much by hand, so that was all good. My father took his own life when it became clear to him that he, only in his 70s, was going to be unable to continue living as he wanted, and he simply refused to accept those conditions. This was not a shock to any of us, though we were all sad to lose him.

May those who pass, and those who love them, all find peace.

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Thank you to both happystuff and early morning. Early morning, that seems to be how many people prefer to go, and my mom was so private that I am sure this was her choice, as well. I am glad your mom died at home in her mind--that is a gift.

It’s very difficult to lose a parent. Both my parents suffered quite a while so while I was sad I was also relieved that their suffering was over. So very sorry Tybee and Sioux q for your losses.

I'll add my condolences, Tybee. I can testify that the lingering illnesses of old age can be draining for us survivors. Hopefully you can get outside and breath some fresh air. That has been helpful for me and a person should not ignore their own health through troubling times like this.

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Originally Posted by Rogar

I'll add my condolences, Tybee. I can testify that the lingering illnesses of old age can be draining for us survivors. Hopefully you can get outside and breath some fresh air. That has been helpful for me and a person should not ignore their own health through troubling times like this.

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Very good advice. Thank you, and thank you Terry. I am gardening which was something Mom loved too, so it feels good she went this time of year, to let me work off my grief.

Tybee, it seems like the senior years are all about loss. It starts with parents and then moves onto friends, loss of physical abilities, etc. Once I lost my parents I realized that I now was the older generation and that’s also a sobering thought.