But it was still a very nice thing for you to do, Alan. Kudos.
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But it was still a very nice thing for you to do, Alan. Kudos.
Sorry, pinkytoe. Maybe with the coming of the weekend yolks will come out.
We are going to leave some of the mess for the insurance guy to see but just trying to clear paths right now. As I understand it, insurance doesn't pay much for tree removal so that will be out of pocket. I am going to be out several thousand (Maybe much more) either way as I am paying the neighbor's deductible and the removal of our trees. I hope she doesn't sue us or our insurance company if we agree to pay for everything. Our fences are down so not even sure how that will get redone since lumber is expensive and so many fences went down. The whole city is decimated with lost trees (mostly blue spruce). I think many of us are in a state of shock at the ferocity of the wind. And the real windy season doesn't usually start until next year.
I hate getting up in front of groups of people and also of having my picture taken. I avoid both at all costs (phobia?). It irritates me no end when people try to insist I do either. Actually I would prefer to be invisible. I don’t want recognition. Why is this a big deal to others?
OMG, pinkytoe, I had no idea the wind caused so much damage! I'm so sorry. What a nightmare.Quote:
Originally Posted by pinkytoe
I am steaming right now. How I would love to be snarky and rude to a poster on Nextdoor, but I cannot because I’m a moderator.
A man started a thread about how last night someone kicked in his door while he was asleep. He woke up with the noise grabbed his shotgun went downstairs, cocked the shotgun and pointed it at the intruder. The intruder ran out with his hands up saying “please don’t shoot me.” Over and done.
The jerk I am mad at literally responded to this post saying ”guns never solve any problem, they do not protect people. “And then he became very argumentative about how guns are so bad throughout the thread.
oh my God. Literally, the man who started the thread was the victim of a crime that could have turned dangerous for his person. Literally he scared off the intruder with his gun. In the situation how can anyone claim the gun never solved any situation ever?
It’s a perfect example of why I want to leave the city. It is not the idiots who break into houses, it is the idiots who in the face of reality make posts such as “guns never solve any problem. “I just can’t With these people. That doesn’t mean I think everyone should have a gun. That doesn’t mean even I should have a gun. I’m just saying in this case, game over and win-win with no one hurt, thanks to the presence of a gun used appropriately.
I'm the farthest thing from a gun advocate--I tend to agree firearms usually cause more problems than they solve, and I'd prefer to live in a country mostly free of them, but that said--the homeowner was well within his rights, no one was hurt (hope the perp was caught), and that was an example of a man peacefully protecting himself and his home, as Iris Lily said.
It sounds to me that the gun solved the problem pretty quickly without incident.
Not a rant, just frustration: DH just gave me a bit of a guilt trip over working on this last day of Christmas break. If I don't work today, I have to give up sleep to get everything done--there was an incredible amount of spillover of projects I took on in November/December. So I devoted 3.5 hours to getting a draft report out the door today. DH was complaining "It's SUNDAY!" I didn't complain when he insisted that we go to NJ 3 days this past week to see the kids, even though I knew it would put me behind in my work. Then he invited up DD/DSIL and we spend two days entertaining them for New Years. So I couldn't work those days either.
I try to never complain about domestic issues here, but I'm feeling a bit squeezed on both work and family sides right now. I don't think I'm being unreasonable. The reality is that I'm going to be super busy until I clear my plate of 4 projects first quarter. After that, I hope to really turn down more work. I need to encourage DH to be patient until that time comes. I'm not working for the fun of it.
Catherine, GRRR. Is hubby retired?
Yes.. not sure if it's common for couples where one is retired and one is not to complain about work/fun divisions, but this does come up from time to time in my house. As a self-employed person, I don't really have 9-5 boundaries, so I often take off on an afternoon, but I also often work on Sundays. That's just the way it goes.Quote:
Originally Posted by Tradd
I would tell him what you wrote so he stops complaining.
I did tell him, and he says he's not pressuring me. He just wants me to be available.Quote:
Originally Posted by Teacher Terry
Catherine I remember when you took on those projects. They are a load!
They are. I'm comfortable with 1.5 project/month, max, 2-2.5. Once I get to 3, it's all-consuming. And now I have 4. But this too shall pass. They always do!Quote:
Originally Posted by iris lilies
Maybe remind him that if you worked 9-to-5, you would be even less "available" than now! Sorry you are going through this, but as you said - this too shall pass.
Deleted my post as inappropriate in wording. A response to a rant/peeve forum post shouldn't be as snarky as mine was. Besides it is none of my business so my apologies.
I read your post. Sometimes snakiness is warranted. No apologies needed ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by razz
Ask him does he like to eat or have a roof over his head. Ugh! I think he’s acting spoiled.
"I'm not working for the fun of it" sums it up nicely. He's out of line, IMO.
Not to minimize the unfairness of the situation, but I do think the Christmas holidays are traditionally very stressful for this reason, as the social demands are so much higher than normal. All we did was entertain the kids and grandchildren for one day, and I spent three days cooking! I was muttering a lot in the kitchen for hours. It's just not something I normally have time for because I still work. It was a great day, but still. I can not imagine going down to NJ and then having them come back up for two more days and not getting pretty stressed at being behind. I mean it sounds lovely, but everyone has to understand you are still working, and are actually in an unusually busy time. My sister in law and I were just talking about this, about how tiring it is to have guests come in from out of town.
Catherine: I know you and DH have a strong marriage, that you are both very different, and that most of the time you find that those differences allow you to complement each other. From here, it sounds like you are thoughtful, understanding and respectful of DH's qualities, and that he can often be pretty thoughtless in return. I would have a problem with that.
With that being said, we have a lot of successful long-term relationships here, and I doubt it's because any of us are perfect and have found a partner who is also perfect, so I guess we are people who have learned to take the bad with the good.
Well, we've kissed and made up. He apologized. All good! Thanks for listening!
Of all people, DD reminded me a while back that in marriage "you have to pick your battles." I think another thing to consider is that since Covid many of us have been cooped up with our mates much more than usual (at least I have) and it is easy to get feathers ruffled in that situation.
Two houses really nice. Just sayin’. :~)
It worked for us--but a duplex would have been ideal.Quote:
Originally Posted by iris lilies
You made me chuckle with this. What are the two of you going to do when both the condo and the Herman property renos are complete and you sit looking at each other wondering, "What do we do now?" Gardening and flower shows will help but there is a lot of down time as well. Just saying...Quote:
Originally Posted by iris lilies
FYI, been down this road at one point.
Yea I thought about what if we lived together, and was like oof, it might not be good, and that was just thinking, nothing more than the idlest of thinking. The trick to staying together is living apart perhaps.
we are always busy! DH is REALLY busy as a little Energizer bunny, and me, well,Quote:
Originally Posted by razz
i am “busy” in my mind. I am pretty lazy, actually.
But that is why we got 1 acre for DH to play around with. Plus there are lots of social things we can do in Hermann. Plus taking a trip to the city every 10 days or so would be good. We shall see.
Someone on another forum has been with her partner for 23 years but never lived together. They have houses next to each other.
But that would double the house maintenance work, and be such a time suck. Two of everything to clean, etc.
I'm not sure I agree. Each person would clean and maintain their own home. I would still only be cleaning and maintaining one AND it would be my own mess I'm cleaning instead of someone else's. Sometimes there is just something so wrong with having to clean someone else's mess. ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Tybee
I’m back to working out from home due to very high covid numbers here, at least for a few weeks. I have an underdesk cycle for some cardio I use in front of the TV and a variety of dumbbells for weight work. Hadn’t been at gym since beginning of December due to being very busy and away for almost two weeks. Would much prefer to be at gym, but not with the numbers the way they are.
I swear I turned 50 in September and have just slowly started falling apart. :( Nothing too major. Just small annoyances like probably now needing bifocals and more random aches and pains than I had before.
Latest big peeve. Why is it medical establishments do not feel the need to send out any kind of resolution notice. Example, twice we have had serious billing disputes, once with a hospital and once with a lab. Raised the issue, figured out what the problem was, communicated it to the business, and then nothing. I have no idea whether the billing has been resolved. Wonder if in 5 years it will come up again as an unpaid debt. The lab in particular does not give a phone number for contact. All they give is how to make payment information.
Guess it is on me to continue to pester them. I even "demanded" a revised billing from the hospital and they did nothing. In this case, it was clearly their error.
In the case of the lab, we finally figured out we had to have the doctor resubmit a corrected diagnosis code to the lab and Medicare. They used a generic code and it has to be a diagnosis code. No idea if the doctor did it and trying to get a response from anyone (centralized billing for clinic) is a nightmare. No paperwork or electronic info recvd from anyone. Maybe they will tell us when we go to get our new labs. I am going to get a new doctor for the next visit.
Husband would have just paid the bill but several hundred dollars is worth my time.
We had a new furnace, new roof and all lines buried underground so we would not have to worry about leaving and going south for the winter. We have no family but did ask a friend if there was a problem if he would be able to help. So now our electric with EVERYTHING shut off except the freezer, refrigerator and furnace is using 2 1/2 times more electricity than ever before. Electric company says they have NEVER seen this type of problem with a residence and to call an electrician. We have had one thing after another go wrong. None of which we have control. This is really getting to me. All these people going through our house when we are not there is troubling also.
So today I am supposed to send a document in “JPD” format to the editor of a publication. I jave no idea about “Jpd.”
When I Google “JPD” I barely get any hits, Mr. google wants to correct my phrase to “JPEG. “There was one set of instructions that told how to convert a Windows 8 or 10 version to JPD, but I’ve got Windows 7.
God I hate transmitting documents. Hate it. While I’m at it, I hate formatting them as well.
That’s my rant for the day.
Winter. The ice was so thick it broke the ice scraper for my car.
ETA Went to check the filters as I have service today. The car is so frozen up I could not get the hood to pop. Could not even see the latch. So I could not check the engine filter. Accessed the cabin filter and some animal has been making a nest in there. Found acorn shells, leaves, etc and the filter itself is chewed up. So they will probably have to open up the engine area to clean that out. And I couldn't even get the glove box back in place. I want to DIY but I am just too incompetent. It is frustrating. I guess I will have to shell out. I think a garage with an impermeable concrete floor would prevent this, but that is way out of my means. A couple years ago DS had a mouse nest in the same area of his car.
Today’s rant (I actually have 2, will put other one in my Technology thread)
I am being sued along with several other people, family farm drama.
So, today I poked around on the internet to find a very good and clearly written article about how “our side” is swimming against the tide in making our case. Oh joy, how I love paying an attorney to argue against established case law. NOT. $ ca-Ching ca-Ching.
I really enjoy strategizing, five years as a litigation paralegal, I guess. If there any details you can share to help us research strategy, then please feel free to do so!