Originally Posted by
freshstart
I can relate to knowing it will all be left to me (my brother will have nothing to do with any of the crap, even the big pile that keeps getting bigger that he leaves here despite living in another state). Since my parents already filled the biggest dumping bin (I know this is the wrong word, bad brain) available twice and we still have all this shit, it actually makes me feel like I am choking to think about taking care of it. My mom's too sick now to do much more than purge her room with help and my dad has no intention of getting rid of any of it.
since your mom knows she is doing this to you and your sister, would it be too cruel to tell her upfront, as far as you are concerned, you are keeping none of it, it gets hauled to the dump, you do not want their lifestyle and you are not pleased with the thought of being left with it? Maybe she would cull the absolute crap so she just leaves stuff your sister may want or you guys can sell? What is your dad like?
I am sorry this is part of your family life. It really affects dynamics.