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Yes, it felt like I was living in a chapter from The Exorcist.
Hospice sends an aide 1 hr per day, 5 days per week. RN stops in twice a week. A spiritual advisor came Tues and there's a music therapy session scheduled for Thurs and a massage therapy session scheduled for next Thursday. I wonder if the spiritual advisor performs exorcisms? /s
She doesn't really have $$ for memory care. I would have to go through the hoops to get her a reverse mortgage to fund any kind of care facility, so I'm hoping we may be nearing the end of the road and not have to pursue that. I'm also hoping yesterday was an aberration and not our new normal. I think our caregiver friend would have a harder time dealing with the rage.
Thanks for the good wishes everyone. I guess I just needed to vent.
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Make sure to tell her physician about her rage and threats of violence. My mom ended up being on some psychiatric drugs and while nobody wants to drug someone up in that state, I don't think she could have stayed where she was without medication, as she was starting to hit. The verbal violence they were ok with, but not the physical. It is hugely stressful for them to be in that state and they are only trying to defend themselves, especially when they don't recognize us and think we are a stranger out to do them harm. I think of it that it must feel like strangers are mugging them or sexually assaulting them, and they are reacting reasonably for what they perceive.
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Tybee: It might be relevant that I am just getting over a head cold and I was wearing a mask so as not to expose her or her other caregivers. I pulled the mask down a few times so she could see my face, and I kept reminding her who I was, but with no short-term memory, I might have morphed into a masked rapist with evil intent seconds later.
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Update: So yesterday Mom was back to her sweet self, ate like a lumberjack and very much enjoyed the hospice-arranged music therapy session. It's a rollercoaster ride indeed (and I never did like rollercoasters!)
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Hugs and strength to you, Rosa.
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Oh rr I am so sorry - ((())). Glad your mom had a better day, and hoping her monster doesn't return.
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Oh, rosa! Sorry for what you went through, but glad to hear your mom is doing better! Hugs to all.
