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So sorry RR. Sending prayers and good vibes your way….

So sorry, Rosa, and grateful that you guys are there and have been able to take such good care of her.

Sending you a virtual hug and also peaceful wishes for your mom.

So sorry rr. thinking of you.

For your sake and her sake Rosa, I hope this doesn’t go on too long. But man, people can live a long time without eating, it’s the lack of hydration that will take them out faster.

Yesterday morning, she choked a bit on the syringe of water I gave her, so hospice RN said at this point we should only use moistened toothettes to keep her mouth moist (those little sponge on a stick things, latest addition to my vocabulary). So now she is virtually taking in nothing but meds. This morning, she was struggling a bit with breathing due to chest congestion, so I administered morphine with some reassurance from Google. Who doesn't want end-of-life care from a well-intentioned daughter armed with Google?

I'm finding it very frustrating that I cannot understand most of what she says at this point, although when I say "I love you," which I do frequently, she says "I love you too" and that comes in loud and clear. We had a really sweet moment Tuesday morning where my sister and I were holding her hands and telling her we loved her, that she was a good mother who had taken such good care of us, and now we were going to take good care of each other. She was smiling and said she loved us too. She could speak more easily at that point. I'm glad we had that moment.

I've been hearing "probably within the next 24 hours" since last Friday, so we'll see.

It is such a blessing for all of you that you are there with her through her transition.

Rosa, this is a moving end-of-life story and I don’t know how it could be any better circumstances for your mother.

Those moments - the loving, the connection, the knowing you did your best by your mom, are what will keep you afloat when things are dark and stormy in your head. At least they did for me, and for my siblings, all of who participated actively in my mom's care as she was leaving us. Thinking of you and your family.

Hugs, Rosa.