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    Quite by accident on Monday I found out my husband was cheating on me. This is not the first time but itís the last. Not only did he put me at risk for STDís but also the virus. Decided considering the situation I would tell him on Xmas eve that my gift is a divorce. I am downsizing to a condo and selling the house. I like security buildings so that narrows the search considerably. I lived in one that was 869 sq ft when I moved here 24 years ago. It was a 2 bedroom 1 bath. Real estate has skyrocketed which is good on the selling side but not so much the buying. So my choices seem to be live in a really nice one with a view of the mountains ( 1 bedroom-532 sq ft) for around 200k or going back to my original situation for the same price. Down side is the ceilings are low and you only have one window in the bedrooms and a slider in the living room. In the first building the floors start on 3 and you have a entire wall of glass in the living room and bedroom so tons of light. Both are desirable locations close to everything. I donít really get many overnight guests anymore and they could get a hotel room. My youngest son said he will sleep on the couch when visiting.

    So what are the pluses and minuses of small living and how did it work out for you? Any advice appreciated. Catherine I know you seem to be happy in your small house. I absolutely donít want a house. The places I have looked at online all have balconies and patios which is important and take 2 small dogs which I intend to write into the purchase contract as well as verify in writing from the association. Besides my real kids my fur kids are most important in my life. Good thing I have been downsizing the past 25 years but if I go into the smaller one it will mean extreme measures although even the bigger one will require it to. What say ye old wise ones)

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    I'm so sorry, TT. I have no advice on the smaller housing as - while I'm prepping for such a move - I'm not there yet.

    Hugs and I hope all goes well in this transitional point in your life.
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    Thanks Happy.

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    Sorry about your situation. I'd go for the nicer but smaller place. Main challenge is storage. Without a garage, you'll have to store stuff offsite or get rid of it. I've lived happily in 350SF but had some shared garage space for storage. Smallest without storage has been 500-600SF. Largest place was a 3BR house, around 1,100SF, with a double garage. Way too big, much wasted space. I prefer quality over quantity. I'd choose the one with all the windows.

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    I definitely won’t pay for storage. It will fit or be gone. My previous condo had a closet on the patio but I didn’t use it. Not sure if the nice ones have that. The biggest house I lived in was 2k sq ft with 5 people. Right now 2 in 1400.

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    I'm sorry you've ended up in this situation, Terry.

    When my ex and I separated, I moved out of our 3400-square-foot townhome (this was before simple living) to a 500-600-square-foot efficiency apartment (living room, kitchen, dining nook, bathroom, one big closet). There was a storage locker in the basement that was maybe the size of a half bathroom. I had a futon that did double duty as a bed and sofa. I bought one of those wire basket things for use as a dresser. And I spent a lot of time moving one thing to get to another because things got stacked and, sometimes, pushed to the back of whatever storage there was. It worked. The only thing I really didn't like was having to park on the street, particularly during snow emergencies when I had to find another place (typically a couple of blocks away) to park for the night and dig the car out the next morning.

    I loved living there. They had renovated the kitchen so the fridge actually was in the kitchen (saw lots of old apartments where the fridge was wherever they could stuff it, even if it wasn't quite near the kitchen). There was counter space. There were three-wire outlets, and enough of them. The bathroom was big enough and easy to keep warm in winter. The noise level was acceptable. It's in a great neighborhood and it was easy to walk just about any place I wanted to go and not far from work.

    Thing is, I did not want to "cocoon" in my apartment. I didn't want to be so comfortable in my apartment that I never went anywhere besides work. I wanted to meet new people and I knew sure as anything I was not going to meet anyone inside my apartment. So having a very small, easy to clean, relatively inexpensive place that was principally a dorm/place to clean up/store my stuff worked fine for me. I still miss living in that neighborhood but I could not afford to buy what I have here now and I'm not that a big fan of old houses (the primary housing stock in that neighborhood). But, for lots of reasons beyond the wrenching process of divorce, I enjoyed iiving there very much. It was very freeing.
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    Catherine, the nicer one makes my heart sing. If I go with that one I may have to give up my antique dining room table and chairs. I have had it 40 years and it’s in perfect shape. From the pictures it doesn’t look like it would fit. It’s a 52 in square without the leaves. I figured I could use a card table when I had dinner guests. I eat in the living room watching tv when I am alone anyways. That’s amazing that your small place is neater. When I had my small condo I had 9 people for dinner and it was one of the best thanksgiving ever.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Teacher Terry View Post
    Catherine, the nicer one makes my heart sing. If I go with that one I may have to give up my antique dining room table and chairs. I have had it 40 years and itís in perfect shape. From the pictures it doesnít look like it would fit. Itís a 52 in square without the leaves. I figured I could use a card table when I had dinner guests. I eat in the living room watching tv when I am alone anyways. Thatís amazing that your small place is neater. When I had my small condo I had 9 people for dinner and it was one of the best thanksgiving ever.
    Your heart needs to sing. I would go nicer. The location sounds lovely and close to everything you enjoy. I would hang onto that table until you're in-maybe it will surprise you. And as discussions around here have gone, antiques aren't very sellable these days. If it truly won't fit, have it cut down. You'll enjoy it for your remaining days.

    I've been offline for awhile. I am so very sorry you've been treated with such disrespect. You have tremendous self-respect and I send you hugs.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gardnr View Post
    Your heart needs to sing. I would go nicer. ....
    This can't be repeated often enough. Follow your instincts, and don't settle.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JaneV2.0 View Post
    This can't be repeated often enough. Follow your instincts, and don't settle.
    It seems to me that she IS following her instinctóbe safe. TT has repeated multiple times that a secured building and unit above first floor is a requirement.

    Other issues are secondary.Finances are a limiting factor.

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