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    Catherine, I don't think your mother's case is unusual. I read a book some years ago about an identical case, and I wonder how many older people are consigned to a human warehouse unnecessarily. Bless your mother's friend and the doctor who evaluated her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tybee View Post
    Razz, I meant I already told the judge some of the things directly. Like things no one could doubt dementia. I think he believes it.
    I am so frustrated by this situation. I wish it were over.
    The judge has probably seen other cases similar to this one with the tensions/dysfunction from family members who disagree on how to proceed. If the judge has suggested an evaluation of capacity by a recognized professional in this field and the brothers fail to do so, it will have a large impact on the judge's decision, I would think.
    As Cicero said, “Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others.”

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    Quote Originally Posted by JaneV2.0 View Post
    \Bless your mother's friend and the doctor who evaluated her.
    Absolutely! I think the doctor liked my mother's sense of humor. When he was filling out the form, he asked her, "Are you single? Married? Separate? Divorced?" She quipped, "All of the above"--which was true: twice divorced and Husband #3 took off after she had her stroke because he found and read her will and he wasn't in it.
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    I have no experience (yet!) with any of this, but wanted to say how sorry I am that you are having to go through all this. Wishing you the best.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tybee View Post
    No panel, it is up to the judge to make the ruling. He did not make it last week which meant she had not proved her case to his satisfaction. Just sent everyone involved a suggestion about doing what Catherine did(thanks Catherine,you helped me figure out what to suggest) and already got a letter back from the guardian not to butt in.
    Wow. Don't butt in?? You're her daughter!!! What hold does your family have on these "professionals"? What a nightmare.
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    Crazy on how lack of B12 can also be diagnosed as dementia. MIL had this situation. I demanded her B12 levels be checked and within a week she was back to normal after taking B12.

    Great advice to have her checked out!

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    Quote Originally Posted by frugal-one View Post
    Crazy on how lack of B12 can also be diagnosed as dementia. MIL had this situation. I demanded her B12 levels be checked and within a week she was back to normal after taking B12.

    Great advice to have her checked out!
    Yes, I remember my dad got B-12 shots from his doctor. That's a good thing to check.

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    Quote Originally Posted by catherine View Post
    Absolutely! I think the doctor liked my mother's sense of humor. When he was filling out the form, he asked her, "Are you single? Married? Separate? Divorced?" She quipped, "All of the above"--which was true: twice divorced and Husband #3 took off after she had her stroke because he found and read her will and he wasn't in it.
    Oh man, Catherine, that is sad. I really admire you for how forgiving you are of people.

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    Tybee, do your brothers and/or guardian benefit in any way financially from the status quo?

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    Tybee, so sorry you are going through this.

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