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    The family matriarch is dying

    MIL is finally in the last few days of her life on this planet. All her kiddos have gathered to be near in her last days. She has Covid and pneumonia so shouldn't be long. It is so strange to grow old and see one's lifelong connections disappear. DH has been under his parents thumb for so long that I don't know how losing his mother will play out. And then the messy inheritance stuff yet to come...

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    I'm sorry Pinkytoe. Wishing for a drama-free passing.

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    I'm sorry, it is never ever easy.

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    I am sorry, pinkytoe. It is a blessing that her children will be there at this time.

    I know what you mean about losing connections. I had very strong female elders and it was jarring to realize that that they were gone and I now I was one of the new generation of elders.
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    Sorry to hear. Hope the aftermath isn’t too drama-filled n

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    So sorry, pinkytoe. Sending prayers of comfort and peace to all.
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    MIL has been on morphine and no food or water for 3 days. I think all the weeping and gnashing is making her stay longer.

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    That's how my mother went. They told me the morphine would put an end to her suffering, but she lived for a couple of days after that final morphine dose. I remember asking an LPN "shouldn't she get some water?" and the LPN just basically ran away and ignored me. It was like a long drawn out Dr. Kevorkian experience. I just hope she wasn't suffering. I hope the same for your MIL.
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    It makes me wonder if death was such a long process way back before all the interventions.

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    Quote Originally Posted by pinkytoe View Post
    It makes me wonder if death was such a long process way back before all the interventions.
    I guess it depends on the cause of death - illness or accident. That would be an interesting subject to research.

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