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    My MIL rallied on her deathbed, which gave us so much false hope that she might not be dying. It was miraculous. She gave a stand-up show that rivaled Rosanne Barr--she literally "roasted" each of us standing around her bedside, in a kind and funny way. I, too have heard from hospice workers that it is not uncommon to have a final rally.

    But frankly, TMS, I'm really amazed that your friend actually went out to eat at his last rally!!
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    Years ago I put a copy of my password vault on a thumbdrive but in a somewhat hidden place. SO would undeoubtedly be scrounging around my den trying to find it since he knows it exists but has certainly forgotten where it is. Thank you Iris. I now have one hanging from the side of my bookcase. Tomorrow I will make a sign that says "PASSWORDS HERE". If I drop dead tomorrow SO will be able to access all my financial accounts.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jp1 View Post
    Years ago I put a copy of my password vault on a thumbdrive but in a somewhat hidden place. SO would undeoubtedly be scrounging around my den trying to find it since he knows it exists but has certainly forgotten where it is. Thank you Iris. I now have one hanging from the side of my bookcase. Tomorrow I will make a sign that says "PASSWORDS HERE". If I drop dead tomorrow SO will be able to access all my financial accounts.



    And, so will anyone else be able to access. Ha.

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    I’m always reading that thumb drives are not good for long term file storage.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tradd View Post
    I’m always reading that thumb drives are not good for long term file storage.
    Yes. I keep thinking about the floppy discs that I kept around for a while after the drivers were history and then I finally threw them out without knowing what's on them. I think that thumb drives will suffer the same fate.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tybee View Post
    Because I am Mom's executor and have been dealing a lot with her estate and my father's, too, I am realizing that a really important thing to do is to keep getting rid of files as you go.
    Dad was great at putting important papers away. What he did not do was keep things up to date, so that he had insurance policies on the house, for example, going back 40 years in the important papers desk, but just kept adding on top of that system, never got rid of the old.

    Mom was good at it but she lost her executive function and stopped culling things in the last 15 years of their lives, and she was the one who was good at keeping things up to date. So it's like that function of culling just stopped.

    So now, to prepare for our deaths, I am trying to go through old files and get rid of what I know we are done with, stuff that has ended.

    Since they didn't do that, it was a nightmare trying to figure out their bank accounts, and add to that mergers and name changes, and you were doing forensic accounting. If they had gotten rid of the old accounts and stock records, then we could have known what was current.

    So that's my emphasis now, getting things in shape for the next generation, without ceding control to an outside trust officer, the way my brother is doing.

    There's nothing intrinsically wrong with that, but I am seeing mistakes they are making, and I would prefer to remain in control.
    It has occurred to me that next generations probably will not have to deal with boxes of old files, bills, etc because all of that is now digital.
    While that has significant effect on archival needs, it is great for crap that should have been tossed but wasn’t.

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