It's her professional responsibility to be available to monitor any orders so she is right not to extend even though it's a PITA. I'm sorry this happened.Quote:
Originally Posted by frugal-one
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It's her professional responsibility to be available to monitor any orders so she is right not to extend even though it's a PITA. I'm sorry this happened.Quote:
Originally Posted by frugal-one
The Niro is a hybrid. Definitely does not make things simpler.Quote:
Originally Posted by frugal-one
Personally, I've found most terrestrial radio around here so disappointing I rarely switch on the radio at all. But I know that's not an answer for everyone.
My DH and I just don't have the same standards when it comes to cleaning up in the kitchen. He literally has a mental block about cleaning out the old bits of food in the sink trap after washing the dishes. I often find myself doing a second cleaning after his turn to do the dishes because half the counters are not wiped down, the stove top is grease-splattered, and there are hand prints on the refrigerator door handles. But at least he does do the dishes everyday, which is a huge improvement from his bachelor days where he would let them sit in the sink for days on end. I knew this going into our partnership and have mostly accepted that we just have different standards, plus he pays far more of the mortgage than I do and I do most (really all) of the cleaning to add to my "share" of the household.
But it is the old food in the dish drainer that really skeeves me out in the morning if I forget to check and take care of it the night before. I have asked him to do it several times as part of kitchen-cleaning duty but he is very absent-minded and it is just not on his radar. Oh well, it's pretty minor in the scope of things.....
It might eventually get on his radar...47 years of marriage...many things came onto the radar at about 10 years...I am sure there are things he would say the same thing about.
DW is much like SQ's DH (enough initials there? ;) ). I am fully convinced that, even if DW sees the mess, her brain spends zero cycles on interpreting the visual information. At 11 years into the marriage, I hold no hope that that will change. Can't change what you don't see and I've tried plenty to aid her vision.Quote:
Originally Posted by nswef
But I'm sure she could say the same things about what I don't "see", too.
Not seeing is a wonderful genetic gift!
Sometime dive buddy has been unemployed since finishing an advanced degree, about six months ago. She is in a very conservative field. Her parents are extremely wealthy and she lives with them (she’s early 30s). She was lamenting recently about how difficult the job search is and how lucky I was to find a job so quickly. She recently was posting all over her public (not locked down) FB page that she’s polyamorous. She has three partners and they have their own partners and so on. I told her I had made sure I had nothing objectionable on my FB before my job search. I suggested she might want to consider if her multiple mentions of her sex life on her not locked down FB profile may affect her job search.
She’s heterosexual and her proclivities for multiple partners isn’t covered under non-discrimination laws, I believe, although I could be wrong.
She called me a bunch of not polite names and hung up the phone.
DH did not see things that needed to be done. He asked that I make a list of chores because he really could not see what needed to be done. That solved the problem. Things that I saw were just not on his radar and having a "reminder list" was helpful to him (and me). YLMVQuote:
Originally Posted by SiouzQ.
Went to Costco today. There were a number of things for DH and for me that I wanted to get. I got nothing and he liked EVERYTHING I brought home for him. They even had the brand he likes. It sure would be nice to have someone bring home clothes for me and not have to go shopping. I HATE shopping!
We have been without heat for 3 days. A new furnace is being installed now. Thankfully, we had a few space heaters! It got pretty cold here.
The street sweeping machine that always runs in the middle of the night, backs up with its beep beep beep, and wakes me up. I heard it three different times last night. When done in quiet residential areas without a lot of traffic this could be done during the day.
In my city they certainly run the street sweeper during the day. Oh yeah, and Hermann just got a street sweeper and I heard it running a couple day ago, during the day.They run in daytime because there are more cars off the street because people have taken their cars to work.Quote:
Originally Posted by Yppej
It runs in the middle of the night here too, and I agree that it's pretty annoying. Maybe it's a MA thing.
And what harebrain decided to sweep up the sand last night when snow is coming in tonight through tomorrow and they will have to sand again?Quote:
Originally Posted by rosarugosa
They're going to sand? If it snowed here on April 16 (where we get five feet of snow a year) they'd just wait the day or two it would take to melt. Unless they had to plow it. But they certainly would not spend $$ on salt or sand. As a taxpayer, I'm absolutely fine with that.Quote:
Originally Posted by Yppej
Yeah, we have had snow all morning, and I am hoping it will be gone by tomorrow, and if not tomorrow, by Sunday.Quote:
Originally Posted by SteveinMN
My rosebushes I planted hope so, too.
Sand trucks were out in some towns - I saw them on my ride into work - but not in my city by the time I left.Quote:
Originally Posted by SteveinMN
Most of the winter, I hope our road clearing crews are as obsessive as yours are. St. Paul has a reputation metro-wide for doing the worst job at clearing streets. I admire their consistency.Quote:
Originally Posted by Yppej
This isn't really a rant, but it's a complaint. I am the family hermit and DH is the family ringleader. So we always have to compromise; otherwise, I'd have the mailman and the bar buddies at our house 24/7. I had a really long, stressful work week last week--probably 70 hours.
Friday our neighbors T&C&M came up and came by for pre-dinner drinks. That was fine. Last night, he invited them over again--we had a nice time, but I didn't get to bed until midnight. This morning we went to Burlington to see our son, and this afternoon, our DD and DSIL are coming. In the meantime, our neighbors that have a second residence here came for the night--they'e good friends. So DH invites T&C&M plus K&D to join DD and DSIL for DINNER! We were planning on pulled pork for DD/DSIL but there's just enough so I told him that I hope he's Jesus Christ so he can pull some loaves and fishes out of the air.
I'm just not in the mood for a big shebang today. Did that Friday. Did it again on Saturday. Don't want anything to interfere with quality time with DD. I'm tired. ..
Oh, well, it's all good. They're all good people, but my introverted self is hitting a wall right about now.
ETA: The other fly in the ointment is that DSIL doesn't know that K&D are here and he is extremely angry with K because of something he said to DSIL's mother at the wedding last fall. So THAT will be awkward if they wind up at our table together tonight.
I am a extrovert and that would be too much for me after working that many hours. Hoping it went okay.
Those online calendars that start with the present month and make you click backwards month by month to select on your date of birth vs letting you type it in. It takes a long time if you are older.
YAY! For the plumber fixing my kitchen sink as I type!!! Boo! for the stopped up kitchen sink. Sigh....
This reminds me of a compliment I gave to DH last week: when we discovered that there was a leak under the kitchen sink, within 15 minutes he had it torn apart, diagnosed as a bad garbage disposal, and he was off to the store to buy a new one. Within two hours it was fixed and working well.Quote:
Originally Posted by happystuff
It is wonderful to live with your own plumber and that is what I told him.
That's fantastic, IL!Quote:
Originally Posted by iris lilies
That's fabulous, IL. I so wish I had a live-in handy-person! They are definitely a treasure.
Not to toot my own horn too much but I got major props from the wife recently over something similar.Quote:
Originally Posted by iris lilies
We took our oldest (special needs) grandson camping in Tennessee last month, it was the first time we'd taken the camper out this year. When we arrived at the campsite and hooked up our utilities we discovered a huge leak in our toilet causing water to spray all over the bathroom. A quick inspection revealed that a water supply regulator located at the rear base of the toilet had failed due to my incomplete winterization of the unit before placing it into winter storage. I did a quick Google search of Camping World locations and found one about a 40 minute drive from our campsite, called them to see if they had the part in stock and found they did have one, just one. Jumped in the truck and got to the store 15 minutes before closing, secured the part and rushed back to the camper. Had to completely remove the toilet in order to get access to the bad part which then took less than 5 minutes to replace before re-installing the toilet and turning the water back on.
Received major praise from both wife and grandson who were both fidgeting and anxious to try out a working toilet, although I'm still getting reminders from the wife to make sure I do a better job of winterizing later this year.
Oh the pressure!
Still waiting on my bank to fix the problem that causes third party programs like Quicken to not work AT ALL. Such a complete mess to try and figure out what I have spent in groceries this month, for instance. It's the first time in twenty-eight years that I don not have an easy handle on my expenditures but I guess I am getting used to it. But I feel like all I do is spend money on my days off running errands and pay off my credit card in large chunks several times a month.
Maybe I'll make a spreadsheet to track just the groceries because K and I try to take turns paying and I can't quite get a handle on where we're at....
I use YNAB (YouNeedABudget). I am insistent that DH hands me his receipts so that I can break up a convenience store purchase into his cigars vs food for instance. You can link your accounts to the software so most of it is automated like Quicken. I'm with you. If I don't know what I'm spending money on, I feel like I'm lost in the middle of a forest. I need the signposts.Quote:
Originally Posted by SiouzQ.
What SQ has run into is similar to what I've run into -- some financial institutions just don't "talk" to financial tracking apps. I use SEE Finance on my Mac and our credit union does not link through Quicken or other mechanisms. Using the Quicken conduit costs the financial institution, so some don't connect that way. It's annoying, especially when it used to work (which, in the case of our CU, never did).Quote:
Originally Posted by catherine
That is interesting to know that even these financial tracking apps are costing the CU's. Probably all the banking institutions have to devote considerable IT resources to enable/protect/maintain the links of the wide variety of such apps.Quote:
Originally Posted by SteveinMN
Good job, Alan!Quote:
Originally Posted by Alan
Fixers are good people.
Hmmm, that is interesting to know Steve. I never thought of it that way. The kicker is that it worked *almost* seamlessly for all those years (I'd get a few glitches now and again that would get fixed with a call to Quicken Support).
Catherine, you nailed it. I am lost in the morass of credit card purchases and money transfers between accounts. I use my credit card for almost all purchases because I get interest back on the Jan. 1 each year as long as I pay off the balance monthly (which I do religiously). I check my accounts each day for security sake and rely on tracking expenditures to give me a measure of control in my life. It's weird, lately, spending money on stuff for the house and garden is giving me great anxiety and making me long for the simplicity of living in the tiny quarters behind the gallery. I think I have hit critical mass concerning daily living expenditures because each time I spend money on housing-related stuff it creates anxiety, because I start thinking that if we hadn't bought a house, I'd have around $50,000 in savings by now and a much simpler life. Yet I really love the house at the same time...
SQ, I so relate to your anxiety as my late DH really struggled for a few years as I insisted on buying our homes despite the fact that we never suffered a loss but a gain, sometimes substantial. I never fully understood his level of anxiety until we bought our first farm for a ridiculously low offer that was accepted. I was having a bath, heard the phone ring and he came into the bathroom and announced, 'Now you have really done it. They accepted that offer." Two years later, it was sold for triple that price and his anxiety was considerably reduced ever after.
May I suggest? Acknowledge your anxiety as it is perfectly normal, look at the house as a form of invested currency (equity, shares. etc), set a value on the freedom from rent for space enjoyed, the freedom to use the space as you wish and the satisfaction and contentment with a foreseeable future. While it may not be as easily a 'liquid' investment as $50 thousand in the bank, a house usually keeps pace with inflation better than a $ bill, IMHO anyway.
Owning where you live is priceless. You can make it how you want to, no one can make you move and for me it is much cheaper than renting.
I had to chuckle at that, razz! Sometimes our joys are our biggest responsibilities but it looks like you really made your responsibilities pay off!Quote:
Originally Posted by razz
There are reasons why people are lifelong renters. My son is one. Every time our plumbing gets clogged or we talk about the roof leaking, he chimes up: "See!! That's why I don't want to own a house!" He has a point. When he shells out his $875 for rent for the 1-bedroom apartment he's had in Burlington for 7 years, he knows that's it. No add-ons for repairs, or want-to-haves or need-to-haves. As long as there is food in his fridge and he's hung pictures on the wall and clothes in the closet, he's done.
But, OTOH, I have the freedom to carve up my lawn or let it be, of painting or adding-on, or passing it on. When my house is paid off, I will have a couple of hundred bucks in property taxes and that's it. There is freedom in that, too.
The key is resisting the "need-to-haves" that are really "want-to-haves" That's the hard part.
Two days ago DH mentioned “we have too much money tied up in real estate” which is unusual coming from him. Usually I’m the one leery of real estate assets. According to our most recent asset snapshot we have a little more than 1/6 of our net worth tied up in real estate. I told him for the average American, that’s not all that much. But I agree it’s not good, and as we pour more money into our Herman house in the next 12 months it’s going to be more, and it will continue to be a higher percentage than we both like in real estate until we sell our city house.Quote:
Originally Posted by catherine
Catherine, I’m like your son. I’ve been in the same suburban Chicago rented condo for almost 13 years. My rent had only gone up $100/month in all that time. At $900/month, it’s at least $200/month below market. Landlord recognizes it saved him a lot by having a long-term tenant. No advertising, repainting, recarpeting, etc., every year or two.Quote:
Originally Posted by catherine
SiouzQ, have you considered a card that notifies you of any purchase over a $$ amount you set? We find this gives us great peace of mind. I only suggest this because you say you " I check my accounts each day for security sake". However, I understand a habit.
We paid far more attention to our accounts when we were carefully tracking everything.
I bank with Chase. I can set alerts on both my debit and credit cards for transactions of any amount. Text or email, your choice.
This is something that I see all too often and it bugs me to no end:
The wreath on the front door is brown, brown, brown and crispy. There is not one single attractive aspect to it at this point. It looks like crap. It is May. Take that sucker down already. It is not way up on your chimney; it is right there within easy reach on your front door. What the hell is wrong with you?
End of rant.
The Christmas wreath? Yuck.Quote:
Originally Posted by rosarugosa