Well, then again if he marries her, he will be entitled to spousal SS benefits. Considering the discrepancy in net earnings, he might actually significantly increase his ss payout. So the dates can be considered a retirement investment then, LOL!
BTW, the above is very tongue-in-cheek.
She'd certainly want a pre-nup.Quote:
Originally Posted by merince
Social Security benefits are not subject to pre-nups. You can claim spousal social security benefits if you are currently married to a person eligible for SS benefits or if you've been married for 10 years and divorced. They don't affect her benefits at all. Obviously, you need to qualify for them, and I am not a lawyer, LOL
Here is the official link: http://www.ssa.gov/planners/retire/applying6.html
Also, I believe these are in addition to your own benefits.
I'd never marry a woman for money. I only marry women who successfully pressure me into it! ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by merince
Much harder to find women, though.Quote:
Originally Posted by JaneV2.0
I was skeptical about the Ashley ?Madison business model since there aren't many women who openly declare their desire to participate in an "affair." I thought the whole thing sounded bogus, that few men would actually meetup with women. I figured it was a front for call girls.
I later heard an analysis on NPR that showed that a large percentage of men who were clients of Ashley Madison were manipulated into pay for sex, starting with texting and working their way up to voice sex partners then video sex.
I wouldn't know; I aged out of the system. :~)Quote:
Originally Posted by iris lilies
Me, too! This whole conversation has me so happy that I'm not young anymore, and I'll even go so far as to say it makes me happy that I was brought up heavily influenced by post-Victorian era women (including a couple nuns in that group), and it makes me really happy that I've been totally satisfied for life by my one life partner.Quote:
Originally Posted by JaneV2.0
almost 100% of the few women that were on it were fakes. The odds might be somewhat better with a hook up app but I still wouldn't think they would be good for finding a woman (but it is honest if a hook up is what you want). I'd bet even when women have affairs it doesn't happen that way (via personals), maybe they start slowly falling for that handsome coworker and never mind that marriage .... Ashley Madison did do single people who are really looking for other single people a favor though, it lured some married creeps who would lie about it off regular personals (separated I would consider).Quote:
I was skeptical about the Ashley ?Madison business model since there aren't many women who openly declare their desire to participate in an "affair." I thought the whole thing sounded bogus, that few men would actually meetup with women. I figured it was a front for call girls.
Guilty! :devil:Quote:
Originally Posted by ApatheticNoMore
I have once too (fallen for a coworker - you work closely together for so long, work on the same project day after day, have constant interaction. And yea he was good looking and smart and charming). But I didn't even try for it, I was single, but he was married. I don't know, I suppose if I were the type to try to steal another woman's spouse ...
I think I'm built wrong. In marriage, it just never occurred to me to have an affair, I didn't have a wandering eye even when the marriage sucked deeply. I ended the marriage for other reasons but even in LTRs, I just don't even look or really think about other men (with the exception of famous men I will never obtain, long list, lol). And when I start to notice other men and the relationship is fizzling, I just ended the relationship, it didn't make sense to cheat when we weren't married or living together. Just break up. I do not understand why people who are not married or do not have children together, are no longer attracted to or even love the partner, why cheat and not end it? Is it not wanting to hurt them or maybe a money thing, IDK, it's not for me, I suck at lying.
Well, there's a wide range of motivations, desires and lifestyles out there. The key is communication.Quote:
Originally Posted by freshstart
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agreed. Do whatever you want as long as your partner(s) agree or decide to opt out.Quote:
Originally Posted by bae
Back in my poly days this was a popular book! My girlfriends and I all read it. Very helpful!Quote:
Originally Posted by bae
UA, I am picturing you surrounded by a gaggle of ethical sluts at a book club meeting, lol
Well, it was more like I bought the book and read it. Then my (then) life partner read it. Then she loaned it to my girlfriend. Then my girlfriend loaned it to my FWB.Quote:
Originally Posted by freshstart
Later on my (then) life partner and I shared other girlfriends who read it on their own.
Good times!
I think I would glove up to touch that book, no offense! God, I got married way too young, lol
maybe it's some type of thing millennial types do nowdays, I don't know. Not the world we were raised in for sure.Quote:
God, I got married way too young, lol
That's the best line/laugh I've heard all day, well played :-)Quote:
Originally Posted by freshstart
Nah... He's too old and broken down Now Buck Branaman... that is someone that I would be interested in ..!Splat!
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Originally Posted by rodeosweetheart
I might agree with you depending on whether you're getting the book from the library or a new and clean copy from Amazon...Quote:
Originally Posted by freshstart
I have to admit, I didn't know who either of these people are. And I'm still not sure about which John Lyons you were referring to. There's a young one that looks quite handsome (labour party TD for Dublin NW) but I'm assuming that's not who you're referring to since there's nothing old and broken down about him...Quote:
Originally Posted by boss mare
Brian Simms, on the other hand. I'm ready to move to Pennsylvania since he's way more attractive to me than Nancy Pelosi, my current congressional representative. (and doesn't everyone decide what congressional district to live in based on the attractiveness of the congress-person...) SO and I don't always have the same taste but I suspect that with Brian it would have to be a three-way.
John Lyons is the most bow-legged person I've ever seen in my life!Quote:
Originally Posted by boss mare
Russell Crowe loves horses....
I had pre-term labor with both kids so spent months in bed. I watched the Charles Grodin nightly talk show, he was so smart and clever and I'd always liked him, Heartbreak Kid, Catch 22 and Midnight Run, I developed the biggest crush ever. More than David Bowie at 13. I always liked older men, I had married a man 15 yrs my senior (and that did not go well), so a 40 yr age difference is really kind of gross and grandpa-ish. Didn't matter, I was besotted, both pregnancies. One night, he was telling a story about an Adirondack hotel he had just stayed at with his much younger wife (skank) and kid, that is very popular. We had stayed there a few times and it was meh. He had the same cranky complaints as me! Sympatico, me and Chuck. One of my ex's bands would play up there on summer weekends and my ex was there, as it turns out, the same night as Charles. I woke him up, "did you meet Charles Grodin? Don't lie, his wife is young and would maybe have wanted to hear the music. Did you get me an autographed picture because pre-term labor sucks, can I have it now?" He said, "I cannot hear about Charles Grodin, we are never watching Heartbreak Kid again, he is barely in Rosemary's Baby, he doesn't write his own show, you think he's so clever....." his ass was sent on it's way downstairs to the couch. Doesn't write his own show??? It might have been the high doses of steroids and hormones but my children had all those really bad Beethoven movies. Coincidence?
jp1
John Lyon and Buck Branaman are both horse trainers who give public demonstrations of hard to handle horses. Buck was the consulting horseman on the book and the movie by Robert Redford The Horse Whisperer . Buck had a documentary movie about his life called Buck . John Lyons not longer rides and I believe his son Josh has taken over, but just not as popular as his dad was
She offered to split the bills from now on.
We'll see what happens...
Score!
to make it feel less like dinner with a buddy, take turns paying if the bills are about the same each time
Works for me...