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I admire your self-control and governance when dealing with aggravating people.
Rant... dealing with people who make mistakes and then lie about it and blame you or expect you to pay more for their mistake!!!! CYA... all the way!
If you mean me, this has to do with my awesome ability to compartmentalize. And that’s certainly good in many cases and it is not so good in other cases.Quote:
Originally Posted by razz
So with this particular problematic person I can see the value she brings to our organization in a couple of very specific jobs, but I understand her inability to be trustworthy in positions of real responsibility for the overall organization.
People in my hobby group will say “I know she is a friend of yours but… “ and go on to say something that confirms her craziness and their irritation with her, but they don’t understand just because I have friendly interactions with her and support her work in some cases does it mean at home I’m not bitching and moaning to DH about this person‘s latest craziness. Because I do plenty of bitching and moaning in private about her.
Let me also say that I will never be president, or at least —sigh—I hope I will not take on a presidency of our organization while she’s in the picture because I do NOT want to manage her inability to exist peacefully with the group.
OMG...not great start to the day but I’m just being a whiney-pants.
Basically, my morning routine shot to hell.
I bought a life insurance policy a couple of weeks ago, and a paramedic was scheduled to come to my house for an examination. However, they never confirmed. I’ve tried calling and I get no answer, or a busy signal. So I don’t know if they’re coming today (in 4 minutes to be exact).
So, because they have to draw blood, I haven’t had my coffee. That’s whiney-pants #1. If I knew what the hell was happening I could deal with it, but who knows if this person is going to show up at all?? Who comes all the way up to GI without confirming the appointment first? I would assume that she would have called to remind me to fast, to relax, to wear a short-sleeved shirt, all that kind of thing.
So that would be enough on its own to make me crabby. But (whiney-pants #2) DH usually starts the morning in his workshop and I have time to sit quietly, no noise, no talking, while I plan my day, meditate, exercise, etc.
But for some reason he picks my coffee-less morning to rattle around since 7 cleaning up the kitchen, rearranging his drawers, and in general just “futterin’ aboot” as my MIL would say.
AND he is now wearing hearing aids that channel his playlist, so he’s singing VERY loudly, and badly, all these show tunes. Yelling, “Tomorrow! Tomorrow! I luv ya! Tomorrow!”
I’ll love you, tomorrow, if I can get my coffee and quiet time.
First world problems I know. I sure can’t complain. He's being cheerful and productive. But I can still be irritated and cranky.
catherine, since you posted over an hour ago, I hope you have had your exam AND your coffee... or at least your coffee! Wishing you a better day as it progresses.
haha! Coffee, yes. Exam, no. I'm off to plant some native flowers in a community garden at the local library, so all is well!Quote:
Originally Posted by happystuff
Catherine, sometimes you just want to bury a too cheerful person in the backyard:)).
hahaha!!! I'm with you, Terry!Quote:
Originally Posted by Teacher Terry
I will NEVER overbook myself to help people out in their galleries for 8 days in a row. I just cannot sit that long doing virtually nothing. I was starting to miss my Wholefoods deli job by day 5. I need stuff to do, projects, things to get done; I CANNOT stand sitting at a desk!
I will add that at our recent regional conference there was a huge blow up about this problematic person, and the president was so angry with her he told me he almost kicked her out and refunded her money. But then, he was operating on high emotion, so since then things calmed down and the next weekend we all played nicely together.:)Quote:
Originally Posted by iris lilies
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here you will see, behind the buckets of rock, the long iron piece I’ve been tripping over for 30 years in our city basement. Imagine my surprise to see it appear in our garage in Hermann! It’s served no useful purpose in the city it will serve no useful purpose in Hermann. But it will probably continue to trip me until I die.
Also we have about 10 buckets of gravel and rubble rock that DH is digging up from our Hermann yard and hauling back to the city to put into dumpsters. Really efficient, right?
Bless his heart, DH is the hardest worker you will ever meet. But sometimes I gotta wonder…
p.s. I will not entertain any smart Alec comment about this iron piece serving the useful purpose of tripping me! I’m smarter than it, and I will not let it defeat me or kill me.
Couldn't you just hang it on a wall with one of those clamp thingies people use for rakes and shovels, or a makeshift setup? You've probably considered that, but...Quote:
Originally Posted by iris lilies
I will suggest that to him, but I think it will be OK scooted over to the edge of the garage where it will live well beyond me. It is super heavy, and I asked him why he didn’t trade it in for scrap metal and he said “it’s too long. “. I do not understand why we have it.Quote:
Originally Posted by JaneV2.0
Find a welder and have them make it into something for your garden.
Longer items like that (long handled tools for me, crap for my dad), tend to be put in the rafters so it can be seen when needed, but not tripped over.
Our fancy dancy garage has a finished ceiling! There are no rafters! But our basement in the city had rafters yet it would not dwell there and I do not know why. But in those rafters were plenty of scrap pieces of lumber. I’m not sure how much of that scrap lumber will come to live in Hermann, it’s all a mystery to me.Quote:
Originally Posted by ToomuchStuff
A couple of days ago I was returning home after some outdoor recreation. The route takes me through a town of 500 and as you approach the town on the highway there is a warning of a reduced speed limit and then the actual speed limit sign. In another hundred yards there is a stop light, a T and then main street. Because of the stop light, T in the road and then a busy main street it is virtually impossible for a sane driver to speed into town. Well, I was tired and did not slow down fast enough. As the officer put it, I was going over the speed limit where he clocked me 40 yards into the reduced speed area, and issued a citation.
When I got home I googled and the town has a reputation for this and another speed trap. TripAdvisor called one of the worst speed traps in the country as a warning to travelers. The story is that a significant portion of the town's revenue comes from speeding tickets. Should I decide to plead a case in court, the courthouse is in the same town and I'd not expect much mercy. If I instead mail in the fine, they reduce the moving violation points from 4 to 2 on my license. I may just chalk it up to experience and pay.
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Originally Posted by Rogar
I wonder if you have anything like this:
https://www.foxbusiness.com/features...eeding-tickets
Randolph Missouri is/was a known speed trap. The state put a stop on it, as they weren't getting their part. (highway patrol threatening to arrest local LEO's issuing tickets on the highway).
Fortunately, I only went through there twice and no tickets, and since, found out I had a connection to the jail I didn't know.
Now, for my rant of the day. I think Waste Management has been watching too many trash mafia movies.
It sure would be a shame if you all couldn't use your dock to get deliveries:
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Waste Management is horrible. Their lobbyist donates to our mayor and then they don't have to do their job.
I'm glad I am not the only one to be duped, but I'd don't know that that's much to be done about it. I'm sure people with more leverage than me have had the same experience. I hope your connection to the jail was not a bad one.Quote:
Originally Posted by ToomuchStuff
I use Waste Management is a matter of convenience, which is possibly a long explanation, but they are definitely a money grubbing mega company of which I have a pretty low opinion.
Woman backed into my car today. Said her backup system did not work. Scraped and paint taken off... Told her she should not RELY on the backup but should look too. Could have been worse but still a bummer.
The police in my small community spend most of their time on the highway ticketing speeders... another place that is a speed trap.
Bad news about our house inspection. The sewer line, put in 30 years ago, has dropped deep and so it will cost $18,000 to fix it. The buyer will go halfies with us. I guess we will accept that offer. Time to move on and get the sale done.
We already gave the buyers a sweet deal. On the other hand, they’ve been VERY cooperative And I do like that idea of selling to them. I suppose we could always say no, you eat the entire thing because we’re giving you a sweet deal on the price, and they might actually do that, eat the whole thing.
I am actually shocked that our Herman has not needed a complete new sewer line. I imagine that’s coming down the road. Every house we buy needs a new sewer and apparently, the house I live in in the city needs two new sewers! Yoinks.
IL, that's a bummer, but I think you are making a right decision to split the cost with them. Seems like a reasonable compromise.
As for sewer issues, there is a house in our "neighborhood" (9 houses on one dead-end road) that sold last year. The guy LOVES it and would live there if he could; partner is an academic and bit more high maintenance--she wants her own bathroom in this small cabin. So they call out the experts to check out the septic/wetlands/etc. Long story short, with the wetlands and the grandfathered ancient septic system, if they want to tear down the house and rebuild on the site, they'll be paying $60-$70k for a mound system.
I think they're going to leave it as it is. The guy has come up for a week or so by himself. I'm thinking the partner is not so keen on "roughing it" without her own bathroom.
Nothing worse than spending $70k on something that doesn't even give you anything to show for it.
I also think that’s a reasonable compromise IL. Last year we got top dollar for the house so when it needed 24k in repairs I just took it off the price as I didn’t want to lose my condo. I am all for hitting the easy button.
See, that’s what normally drives me. Just hit the easy button.Quote:
Originally Posted by Teacher Terry
I got stuck on what a low price we set. Our real estate agent thought it was fine, but the city of St. Louis has our square footage way off. I’m remeasuring right now, but I think the city failed to update the records when we built the addition to this house. We did everything with permits and inspections, so the city certainly has the opportunity to change square footage.
But then as I’m telling him, and telling myself, it does not really matter. The money doesn’t matter. What kind of bites me a little bit is that we’re working harder and faster than we normally would to get out of this house to meet the buyers’ possession date. That’s the one sticking point, otherwise our buyers are reasonable. They’re already traveling around the neighborhood talking about “their” house and I am up for that. It will be their house and I like them And I’m glad they are excited by this property, even though they’re going to abandon my house to build a new one next-door!
What do you mean they are going to abandon your house?Quote:
Originally Posted by iris lilies
Is this a short term purchase, where they will do the plumbing work, when they put the new sewer in for a house they are building next door? Then they will flip the house?
They are planning to live in our house while they build a new house right next-door on the lot where my flower garden sits. I imagine they will sell my house when their new house is done. But all that will take a few years.Quote:
Originally Posted by ToomuchStuff
See--your post is what instigated my thread about attachment. Good for you for liking the buyers, but I would really feel sad about their thinking that my house is just glamping for them while they destroy my lifelong garden. I get the sense that you have already let go of that attachment to the best you can.Quote:
Originally Posted by iris lilies
i’m not sad that the new buyers won’t live in my house forever. Someone will live in it. The historic code protects it ever being torn down or changed substantially.Quote:
Originally Posted by catherine
I live in an area where we have been pushing for development of this neighborhood for decades. By development we mean more buildings. More activity. More people, etc.
Even though some people think of my neighborhood as being focused on maintaining the past, and we certainly are dedicated to existing old buildings, we like infill housing that is appropriate. So, the fact that my flower garden will host the first new house on this side of my block in 145 years is exciting. It’s great! And it fits with my neighborhood’s plan.
that said, I hope someone lives here eventually who will appreciate the carpentry details that DH put in. I understand the kitchen cabinets probably won’t live here forever, even though I think they’re very nice and I love them. But there are certain things that will be with this house forever. As I sit here in my living room I see the built-in bookcases. The fireplace mantle that was handcrafted with fluted columns by DH. The windows have panel inserts that are not found in other gut rehab houses. There are carpentry details throughout this house that are unique. Oh right, the crown molding is spectacular!
I share that hope with you!
I admire you for adapting with the flow of life, IL. And I imagine that your house will end up with someone who loves it as much as you do, eventually.
I didn’t want to be one of those people who cry and ring my hands at the thought of my flower garden becoming the base for a new structure. I think that’s… Shortsighted. And not surprisingly, we have friends about our age who been in the neighborhood even longer than us who sold their house with two lots. They were adamant that their two lots and house must be sold together, their idea being that their two vacant lots would stay a “garden “forever even though they really cannot control that.Quote:
Originally Posted by Tybee
I just think that’s dumb. Especially considering they are big proponents of historic preservation and they know very well that their two lots once held houses 100 years ago .
I will also add that 30 years ago when we bought one of our extra lots, the alderman was reluctant to sell it to us because at that time the idea was stronger that vacant lots need to be built on. But see, no one wanted to build here.
It took 30 years the new build market ro mature to the point where 90% of the vacant lots in my neighborhood are snapped up and built on, and now the rare ones like ours are attractive.
Your house has some great features that someone will appreciate.
There is much sadness in my town right now. I live beside a river, and this year a pair of bald eagles built a nest about 1/2 mile from my house. They had one eaglet, and the local photographers delighted us with many pictures of the family in the nest, parents feeding the eaglet, etc. We've seen the adults flying in the area, and gotten a few glimpses of them up in the nest when driving by (nest was in a residential neighborhood). Last night, the nest either fell down or was knocked down by raccoons or something, but the nest is down and the eaglet was found found dead on the ground beneath the tree. This makes me so sad.
Oh, that is so sad. I wonder what happened to the parents?Quote:
Originally Posted by rosarugosa
That is so sad, rr.
People have reported seeing the parents in the area acting distressed.Quote:
Originally Posted by catherine
That’s so sad.
Bummer rr!
Disgusted that I will HAVE to go shopping for a cell phone. It no longer makes sense to have a landline. The cost is now ridiculous. I hate the thought of having another thing to have to plug in and to lug around. Probably will just park it and check end of day or see if is DS. And, now I have to research the best plan... not looking forward to it. Must do by end of month. sigh
I feel your pain.Quote:
Originally Posted by frugal-one
Soon, we are giving up the landline here, and while it is seldom used, I do like it for voice communications.
But I’m not going to carry mine around much more than I do now which is seldom. I DO find it indispensable for GPS guidance, tho.Even tho it dumped me off on a T in downtown Madison, WI recently with no further instruction (turn right? Turn left? I got SILENCE.) Madison is …crazy with the windy streets that confused even GPS.
And then in the fall I will have to get an updated IPhone because support for mine is ending. Fortunately, DH went through that already, and I’ll get the same model he got which is not very recent.