Hold me back from saying what I feel

[Gardenarian]

How much drama do you need in your life right now

[ejchase]

I'm with those who say just delete and move on.

It sounds like what's important here is that you want to do a generous thing for the family, which is great. Do that with the people who have the same positive urge and enjoy. No need to spend any time or energy on nonsense. As others have said, people like that woman are everywhere and always will be. Just appreciate doing your kind act with other like-minded folks. Getting into drama with her isn't going to lead to anything constructive, so let it be.

[flowerseverywhere]

Thanks for letting me vent. I ignored the whole thing. But she came today when we were sewing to express her opinion. Talk about toxic. I went on doing what I was doing and several members clarified things. The president of the group politely told her perhaps she should find a new group if she did not like how ours was run.

How sad to live your life like that.

[sweetana3]

The group works well when things like this can be "taken care of". Appears most of you in agreement.

It is a lot of fun to make things for others, especially children. I have issues about "Christmas families and presents" due to huge problems at work around this issue but making quilts for kids makes me feel good and I do it all year long.

This is one of my favorite patterns. I can whip out a twin size top with no waste in around 4 hours. The sizes are very flexible. You just need three strips of equal size from each fabric. Some of mine are 5 inches and some can be 7 inches. There just need to be three equal ones.

https://baywindowquiltshop.files.wor...s-the-spot.pdf

I have made it in sports, racing, jungle, and other "theme" prints and stretch them by adding tone on tone or solids that somehow go with the theme prints. One I called Costa Rica because it had bright jungle prints with lizards and green leaf prints. It was really bright and happy. A half yard of a theme fabric can bring a lot of other fabrics together.

[Teacher Terry]

What an unhappy person to act that way. Glad your group is compassionate. I make scarfs for the homeless every year. Sometimes I buy yarn & sometimes people donate it to me. That poor family certainly did not plan any of those horrible events.

[jp1]

Thanks for letting me vent. I ignored the whole thing. But she came today when we were sewing to express her opinion. Talk about toxic. I went on doing what I was doing and several members clarified things. The president of the group politely told her perhaps she should find a new group if she did not like how ours was run.

How sad to live your life like that.

Not only did she not want to help, she was bothered by other people wanting to help??? I just, umm... wow. I guess I'm not even sure what to say to that. Glad to hear that she seems to be an outlier in the group.

[Zoe Girl]

it sounds like you have a great group there, i am glad the president was willing to say something so the toxic stuff does not need to go unchecked. there is ignoring it and then there is a point to put a stop to it.

i know i like making homemade gifts especially for those who are struggling in any way. i generally think about them as i work, or beneficial thoughts in general. it is pretty hard to be grumpy when you are making a gift. i think that energy goes with the item you make and i am sure the family will appreciate it. my brother lost his home in a fire 2 years ago, they had insurance to replace everything so i give them things like christmas ornaments and crochet kitchen items that you need to collect. they seem to like the ornaments a lot.

[flowerseverywhere]

Thanks for the pattern link Sweetana. I have a huge stack of 2.5" strips people gave to me, we could easily see them that way.

Wonderful idea deal about scarves for the homeless. The ornament idea post fire is great too.

I think I was so upset because I felt like she was personally attacking me. Unfortunately we are in a climate of hate towards immigrants, poor people and people with many children among others. It is fueled by all the hateful cyber bullying, talk show hosts and media spin out there. Sometimes I get awful emails forwarded to me, and when I check them out on snopes they have been circulating since 2002 or so. I ask people not to send me those but occasionally one slips through.
There are some people who make poor decision after poor decision and expect someone else to bail them out. But there are so many out there who are trying to work hard, better themselves and make a better life for their children. Some people are mentally ill as well. unfortunately this woman is missing out on so much life has to offer. I hope she does not come back. If I had taken the bait and responded to her The way I wanted to I would have been no better than her.

[KayLR]

I'm glad you are doing this good work, flowers...I know a group who does this too. They give small, twin quilts to foster kids. They often hear how much they love them because sometimes it's the only thing the child has ever had new and belonged to only him or her.

[ToomuchStuff]

Glad you and your group got it solved. Now she can go join those "others" who get to use her stuff.