I got respect for you because of this.Originally Posted by Chicken lady
I got respect for you because of this.
UA, what is stopping me is dh. and the expense.
I built a polebarn once with a guy during a summer. If I can do it, most anyone can. I am not handy.
But I get it. Cost is something that makes me recoil even for something I really want, like a vacation in South Africa.
OH, and the "wait, do I have enough?" That is one of the exercises that I use. But often the answer is "I don't know."
to use mustard as an example: we use a lot of mustard. So I go to the store, mustard is not on the list, but it is on sale. I think "how soon until we need mustard - i don't know. Better get one. It's a really good sale. Better get two." Then I come home and while randomly stuffing things into the pantry closet in the basement, I realize the sale was also on last week and I did the same thing. Apples live in a bowl on the counter. I never buy too many apples.
I used to buy too much at the grocery store too! I use a list regularly now. I also live a 5 minute walk from the grocery. These two things helped.
But something else I have done is made a rule where I never buy more than two of anything.
Question: You ask yourself the enough question. This seems like a good idea. What about this? You ask yourself and admit you don't know. Could you turn that over to someone you trust? They answer it for you and you abide by their answer?
That really only works (and sometimes only kind of) if I know how many I have and it's a utilitarian thing. For example - I have two twin beds, so I ask my mom "six sets of twin sheets is plenty, right? Even if somebody is sick, I'm not going to need more than six sets of sheets." And then my mom says "I can't imagine that you would! I mean, if they're sick, you're going to put them in the wash right away. You could probably get by with 4". And then I keep the 6, but I don't buy any more.
Except, I'm at the store and I see a great set of twin sheets for a great price and I think " those sheets are going to wear out. And then I will need new ones. And they won't be this cheap. And these are so pretty!" And I buy them.
but you know those canning jars that pasta sauce comes in that you can reuse? Some years I make pasta sauce, and some years I don't. And those jars are the right size. So what would happen, is the years I didn't make sauce, I would save all the empty jars I bought. But I finally realized, I am only going to use them for sauce. Dh and I are not going to eat more than 24 jars of sauce in a year. I have 24 jars. So I don't save them any more. That is actually a big deal.
MMmmm... pasta. Sorry. Distracted!
No, I can see the rationale. I just don't feel it.
Iris lilies, I went back to read your "more" post. See, I would love that pile of books and I would love getting it out to people, and I would be so happy you would have to come find me and take a book out of my hands and tell me "go home". Or I would get lost in my job and become skeletal lay thin and fall asleep in my chair and my family would send the police to look for me.
Dh always has to physically stop me if I have a mountain of "treasure" to sort. Processing the plaster molds a few at a time was an amazing feat of self control made possible only by the limited drying space.
This thread has been fascinating for me. I credit that with Chicken Lady being so candid.
I agree. It's a sign of your level of recovery, chicken lady, that you can tell us so much about your thought processes.
I'm learning a lot about my father, sister, and one of my brothers - all of whom like to collect lots of stuff. My other brother, mom, and I are the opposite.
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