CL - your post touched on something I've been thinking about for a couple of days so I'm going to do a post about it... not sure where I'll put it ...
CL - your post touched on something I've been thinking about for a couple of days so I'm going to do a post about it... not sure where I'll put it ...
CL: you had one of those not so good days-ugh! We all have them. Your farm sounds like a lot of work.
The farm is a lot of work, but it's a labor of love.
the day got better. Dh wasn't mad at me (he was mad at the goats). Dh had some dinner and pie and we talked. He's concerned that trying to go pick up the table right now is creating too much stress in my birth family, but I told him the timing can only get worse, not better. This stuff needs to get done.
i cleaned up the kitchen and took care of the flowers, and as I was getting ready for bed, I saw the tiny pretty plastic bottle that I have added water to twice to use "the last of the lotion" and I threw it in the trash can!
Mad at the goats. I am too lazy to do that much work.
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CL:
How much totally unstructured down time do you have each day?
Well, I structure my own days - so, all of it? None?
i spend about an hour with my coffee and my iPad on mornings i don't work. I have 2.5 hours of basic farm chores a day. I make dh breakfast and pack his lunch (about 30 minutes?) every weekday morning.
today my day says (in no particular order)
chores - shots
16' boards
glaze
bake pound cake (cheesecake?)
groceries, get peaches
laundry (whites!)
clean stalls
Plus dishes and general clean up and dinner.
and then there is another list for the week on the off chance I finish all those things.
This is a pretty information and especially concise article on hoarding and recovery.
http://www.statesmanjournal.com/stor...xton/85999014/
What would your life be like if it wasn't so busy?Originally Posted by Chicken lady
Ultralite, we all have 24 hours in a day. We all do something during each minute that makes up those hours. I have more choice about how to spend those minutes than most people on the planet. What you are really asking me is "what would your day look like if you had to give up some of your choices?" Unless you are asking "what would your day look like if your dh decided to hire a full time cook?" In which case I would sleep an extra 40 minutes on weekdays and spend a little more time on the stuff I am already doing.
i don't have a reasonable fantasy life where I should be thinking about making changes, the only things I don't want to do are cook meals and clean the house. And I would rather do those things than have one of us work more to pay someone to do them or divert money from other uses. If you gave me magic elf servants - I would still do my chores and clean the stalls. (The elves could also fetch the groceries)
i am am curious what you think this has to do with the hoarding though.
edited to add: also, according to your article, I have absolutely zero hope of recovery as I am not in therapy (alternative thought - hoarders who recover without therapy are not participating in studies. Seems reasonable as it would stem from similar personality traits)
i also don"t buy that whole "loss trigger" thing. I would agree that any trauma could worsen hoarding, and perhaps significant life events can take you from "organized hoarder who is coping" to "person whose life gets out of control enough that they lose control of their environment." (Three much wanted and loved kids can do that too)
if if we live long enough, we experience loss. And if one is a hoarder, if one lives long enough, one runs out of space.
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