The slow fade?

[JaneV2.0]

This is why I'm planning on leaving my money to animal charities. At least I know it will go to causes I support.

[freshstart]

my dad sucked growing up, angry, violent outbursts and he never said he loved me until I was 15 and he was in the hospital and i was holding his hand. i said it and was shocked when he said it back. When I was in college he went on cymbalta for pain, I came home and he was nice, no outbursts, no fists flying, I was in shock. So far, in the 20 come years he's been on it, he's been pretty damn good. We know right away if he stops taking it, though.

So our relationship got better but it's not like we did stuff together or spoke a lot. Then we bought this house so I could more easily help care for my mom and I could downsize. then I got really sick. My father took care of me, last year he drove me to 76 MD appts with no complaints. We sing in the car (very badly), we go out to eat. Turns out he's not bad to do stuff with. It took me getting sick to get to friendship level with my dad.

I hope something like this happens to you. When someone is an asshole, there is a medication for just about every type so there's hope, lol

[JaneV2.0]

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I hope something like this happens to you. When someone is an asshole, there is a medication for just about every type so there's hope, lol

What if both parties are assholes, one wonders...

[freshstart]

Jane! lol

[Ultralight]

What if both parties are assholes, one wonders...

In my situation, it is just my dad that is the problem. So no worries about this issue.

[Alan]

What if both parties are assholes, one wonders...

In my situation, it is just my dad that is the problem. So no worries about this issue.

So, your dad gives you an IRA seeded with a gift of $3000 and you decide to make an organization which, in your mind will offend him, the beneficiary of his gift.

Yeah, he's an asshole.

[Teacher Terry]

I would leave it to the new baby. To do what you are planning is just childish.

[Ultralight]

So, your dad gives you an IRA seeded with a gift of $3000 and you decide to make an organization which, in your mind will offend him, the beneficiary of his gift.

Yeah, he's an asshole.

You clearly did not read much earlier in the thread.

[Ultralight]

I would leave it to the new baby. To do what you are planning is just childish.

My retirement plan at work, which is much larger has my sis as the beneficiary in case of my untimely death. So they would get that, along with everything else in my will.

[ApatheticNoMore]

I would leave it to the new baby. To do what you are planning is just childish.

I'd say rather a spoiled cat over a spoiled brat if I had to choose. I.e. some kid getting money for nothing.

So, your dad gives you an IRA seeded with a gift of $3000 and you decide to make an organization which, in your mind will offend him, the beneficiary of his gift.

Yeah, he's an asshole.

it's not a gift, it's a psychological game. Ok receiving 3k is otherwise good, and not a small sum. That much is true. But it's being used to play all sort of manipulative games at this point. If someone gives you a gift you are basically free to use it as you want at that point IMO. Not to mention that their expectations were totally completely unreasonable. They did not invest it in something risk free (T-Bills, government bonds, CDs for the most part) and yet lost their mind when it loses money. I'm not saying it's a good investment it was in, doesn't seem so but shrug, but unless you are investing in something risk free, expecting never to lose money is not even a realistic expectation.