The video maker, "DIY Camper", speaks about his experiences as a CNA...

He listened with comprehension to elderly patients, but found that he could not continue to work with them. Perhaps he went through grief on a repeated basis, and he decided the grieving was too painful and disturbing to take any more.

He observed that Alzheimers Disease is particularly tragic, because memories and communication ability are lost as the disease progresses.

On a hopeful note, we can think of time as "Chronos" or "Kairos". Chronos is linear, chronological time... the sort of time each dying individual will inevitably run out of. In comparison, Kairos is nonlinear, binary time. A moment is either opportune or not. As I understand Kairos time, it is the moment "when things come to a head".

Based on Susan and John McFadden's book on dementia, Aging Together, Kairos time is experienced in the present moment, when the flow is such that we may not even be conscious of chronological time. Friendship unfolds in Kairos time. When dementia enters a circle of friendship, McFaddens argue, gatherings can be reconfigured creatively.

Our circles of friendship will need to be reconfigured multiple times as we age together.... Death or geographic moves will cause cherished friends to leave our "convoy", and new friends will join us along the way. The activities that we share will change, as our interests do, or as we face new limitations. Dementia is but one of many changes in life's experience that require such reconfiguration. Friendship, like love, will always find a way.