Quote Originally Posted by Dhiana View Post
Clearing my clutter away showed how much clutter left that really belonged to my husband.
That helped because then he could clearly see what he needed to do.
He also does have a spare room specifically for his stuff in which I'll dust/vacuum a bit but don't say anything about how he keeps it.

Don't get too frustrated because I think it really is a skill, some are born to it while others such as myself need to really, really work hard just to be average
I know it's one of the principals of recovery/AA that if one person changes, the other person has to change in some way, too. It's just inevitable. Maybe I just haven't made a big enough dent in my stuff for it to be noticed by hubby.

Thank you for your encouragement. I need to remind myself that we are all not the same in many ways--even keeping house!