Quote Originally Posted by frugalone View Post
As far as each of us having our own area--I'm afraid that our stuff tends to spill over into the other's area. For e.g., I have a craft area, but quite often I work at the kitchen table, so I keep a few rolls of washi tape, glue sticks, and a paint brush or two on the table. I frequently apologize for this. ... He apologizes frequently for his stuff leaving "his room" but it doesn't change a lot. I know he's trying...but I think it's overwhelming for him.
Sounds like you both react the same way - apologize, feel guilty, and don't change. Clear your stuff off the table, and see if it motivates him to clear his stuff? Just a thought. As it is you are training him that just apologizing is all that is needed.