open letter to my friends: I love you all, but I don't want to be responsible for being the social planner *all* the time. The emails noting that "it's been so long since we've gotten together" are hints for me to start the email chain to figure out when/where/what.
I'm stepping back. It's not that hard to say "I read a review of a great restaurant - let's try it on the 14th, who wants to meet there at 6 pm?" instead of - "I'd like to meet up, you tell me when and where. ..."
Nope, your turn!
This roommate experiment is not working...I finally fell asleep at 4am only to be woken up by roommate and her new friend leaving for work at 5:45 this morning. She's not a bad person at all, but our lifestyles are too different and I am a very sensitive sleeper. My house has very creaky wood floors and stairs and squeaky doors. Bad things happen to my psyche when I don't get enough sleep; I've been drinking WAAAAAY too much coffee so I can function at work. I don't like how my time in my house is being challenged because she's sleeping in after being out super-late. It means I can't play my guitar in the morning, or work on my jewelry (noisy pounding). I am not looking forward to having a talk with her, as I do like her a lot. It's just a major difference in lifestyles ~ she is 15 years younger than me and is kind of a party girl. I am 51 and I cannot. I have to be very careful about the lack of sleep thing as I can start getting a little hypo-manic and really run myself ragged trying to keep everything going. And we are heading into retail hell season; I HAVE to be able to function at work. I need to reclaim my sanctuary. $250 a month is starting not to seem worth it. I have to be at work at 2:30 this afternoon. Now I am going to waste a perfectly good stretch of morning time trying to get some sleep so I can function later.
SQ, it sounds like the "roommate experiment" is not working out with this roommate. If you got someone who wasn't so much of a "partier" or someone on a similar work schedule, I'm guessing it would work out far better for you. Good luck! I know what you mean about having to get enough sleep; DSD finally moved out of the house after a few months and accommodating her early-to-bed and the slamming screen door every work morning at 6 was -- well, I'm glad she's in her own house now.
Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome. - Booker T. Washington
Squirrels in the crawl space. Grrrr.
Lainey I definitely understand!! I'm always in the same situation! Why is it that people can't just pick a date and pick a time and make it happen! On a related note, if I organize a dinner outing and make reservations to go to a restaurant, please don't cancel last minute or worse yet not show up at all and think it's "okay" to do that, especially to a friend or co-worker!Originally Posted by Lainey
uh, dude? Your sister calls to ask if she & her clan can come to stay overnight on Christmas Day, you aren't even going to be here days prior to that, and you said yes? Without even talking to me? Who do you think is going to clean the filthy carpet that you INSIST we must keep? Where are the 3 sets of dogs (who poo, pee, fight and spread blood all around) who must be separated going to stay with all of these people in the house? Who is going to clean this place? This is holiday time, you don't just get housecleaners in or shlepp 4 dogs off to a kennel this time of year, they are full up.
Monday
Trees don't grow on money
To the world at large (well, I have a targeted person in mind)
I know that "rescue" is currently fashionable and a "rescue dog" is the thing to have. But please be honest, if you buy a puppy from a breeder, that is not "rescue" and don't represent it as such. Own up to buying a puppy from a breeder. It's not a sin, it's not against the law. Just don't insult me by giving a long story about how you "rescued " a puppy. No you didn't, you put $500 in the pocket of a backyard breeder whose sole purpose in dog breeding is to make money.
Oh and by the way, if you breed that puppy as you are talking about, I WILL be shunning you.
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We went into a little boutique pet store yesterday to buy a bully stick for our Frenchie. With our Frenchie. The lady at the counter told us, "Oh, the owner breeds those. Want another puppy? You can come into the back and see them."
Uh, no. I don't want to see a puppy mill operation in the back of a pet store. Ours truly was a rescue, and we feel good about the home we've given him despite people like YOU, pet store owner lady.
But really, I'm feeling the sting of having to pay for a vacation I didn't really want at all. Grumpy that my FIL booked us a beach condo in Florida, halfway across the country, proud that he's paying for it for us. But we still have to fly, rent a car, take a hundred dollars in ferries, buy groceries at jacked-up resort prices, and pay the credit card bill when it comes in with $2000 we can't afford on it. I should've found some diplomatic way to say no thanks, but I didn't think. (kicking self)
I don't know as there's a diplomatic way to refuse such a gift, but maybe you can tell FiL that you're very pleased he thought of you with such a (air-quotes) generous gift, but that when you toted up all the costs you would have to incur, you found you really cannot afford to do it, what with the impending refrigerator purchase and all?
Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome. - Booker T. Washington
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