I can relate to the lack of shared goals. It's a tough one, and I don't have a simple answer. As you know, I bought a cabin on my own - as a financial investment and just as something I'd always dreamed of. It is hard to go for your dreams when you are in a partnership with someone else. (Especially if achieving you goals requires the time/input/agreement of the other person.)

I know my dh has many creative goals that he put aside (as did I) while our dd was younger, and now that we have the time we are both pursuing them. Working on completely different wavelengths in every way while trying to stay in harmony - well, it will be interesting to see what the future holds.

I will say that once your baby arrives you will both be besotted and tired and unable to do anything much aside from parenting. I think this is why some people really like the baby/little kid years. You will both have a prime directive, and in a way that simplifies things.