Quote Originally Posted by iris lily View Post


* home is a realtortm consumer driven emo word to evoke feelings that drive humans into non-rational decisions. I live in in a house. You live in a house. It's a damn dwelling made of sticks and brick. If you wish to ascribe warm fuzzy descriptions to it, that's fine, but never forget what that costs you in real money.
IL, I just had that conversation with DIL. A house is just a house, as Burt Bacharach said, or something along the lines of a house is a house and a home is the people inside (grossly paraphrased)

Emotion is chaining me (or I should say DH) to our house. I know unequivocally that I should sell both my house and BIL's house in which we have 50% interest. I would sell both, rent for a couple of years and save up money for a smaller house in a less expensive area. I mean, it just makes sense.

I do prize the memories I have of raising my children there, and those memories are handcuffing DH's emotions to the house (my handcuffs are more the chinese handcuff type--I'm still attached, but feel I can escape my cuffs much more easily), and he refuses to entertain even a discussion of moving. I'm in Burlington VT right now, and would love to take him on a home tour just to get him thinking that JUST MAYBE there are other places he could be happy living in.

redfox, I'm sorry you felt attacked by nastiness.. we all do have strong opinions on these boards, that's for sure. I personally totally understand your predicament. The right answer is yours alone and only you will be able to discern the right direction when the time comes.