Have her pay her own way; it's only fair.
I agree. Although sometimes in my mind I think maybe a woman should only pay 70 or whatever it is% of her way, that is what women earn for doing the same job as men Oh really, I'm not that dour and political to go on a date with, it's just a private chuckle of mine. But there's if you've initially met (initial dates) where if might make a man feel gentlemanly to treat (really I don't fight a man to wear the pants, even though I usually wear pants ), and when your already in a full blown relationship where I really think it should be more equal (except on her birthday, your anniversary of meeting maybe etc. where it might be nice to treat)

Even if she did pay her own way each time, that would still add up to a good chunk of change for me to pay for myself.
yea your dealing with basic incompatibilities there, not necessarily fatal ones but I'm not sure what can be done but compromise. If people like some things that cost money: plays, museums, even botanical gardens, zoos, day trips that cost some admission or at least gas and you don't .... And none of those things by themselves are super expensive, but they aren't free. I guess you can try substitute activities, try making a nice dinner instead of going out, making it oneself or making it together (even then it might not be as cheap as the PB&J one would have made oneself - well it isn't the single life I guess). Try watching a movie at home (of course this doesn't help if one doesn't' own a t.v.! - I don't own one either btw, and has only a tiny computer screen). You could try to get her into cheap hobbies like fishing or maybe camping, but it might not take, and if someone really likes some cultural activity they might just do fishing on top of that even if it does!