I actually liked this article, with one reservation--if it would just replace the word "men" with "people" it would be great. Many good points.

My DH was borderline hoarder when we fell in love. I didn't have my eyes wide open when I got into the situation. My fault, my responsibility. After 8 years I moved out. At that point it was his choice whether he wanted his stuff or a marriage. He eventually chose the marriage, de-cluttered, and we've been together and happy ever since. I realize now how rare it is for someone to be able to change to that degree. I would never ever ever counsel anyone to get married to someone who has a different perspective on "stuff" -- it almost never happens that people change, or change enough to make it work.