Calling heath department on hoarding parents?

[Ultralight]

Lol, I actually agree with you there.

Some days I am doing the best I can. Other days I am lazy and self centered.

I know I am not doing the best I can. haha

The idea that everyone is doing the best they can is an attractive one. But I think that if that were really the case we'd be in some serious trouble.

Oh... wait...we are...

[Williamsmith]

I don't believe we are in serious trouble. If you mean likely that things won't get better. I believe the trouble we are in is serious but we will engineer a better way for most of our population and move on towards a more productive and meaningful life.

[Teacher Terry]

UL: what you describe is disgusting so yes I would hire it done since it seems toxic. My friend's hubby was still working so she spent the days working with the help of some of her friends while he was at his job. It didn't impact their life together. Some of the stuff she used like the Fisher Price toys her kids outgrew her grandchildren played with. Some not. However, they had young kids , were working f.t. each, taking care of aging parents so the easiest was to throw it in the attic. Without ever experiencing all that she did you can not even imagine how busy those child rearing years are.

[Tammy]

Although SO and I have never hoarded, one does accumulate a lot of stuff over 25 years of raising 3 kids on a tight budget. In the early 2000s we had a 4 bedroom house with garage and basement with what looked like a normal amount of stuff. But it was thrifted, gifted, hand me downs, and such. With a few nice pieces. So as each kid moved out to create their own life they got to take whatever they wanted. By the time they were done we down to about 30% of the stuff. We then downsized a lot more and everything we own (except for a vehicle and a condo that we rent out) fits easily in our 586 sq ft apartment.

I liked giving kids the stuff they wanted and needed when they needed it, and making our eventual estate settlement more about dividing investments and less about sorting through physical stuff.

[Ultralight]

Without ever experiencing all that she did you can not even imagine how busy those child rearing years are.

I hope my lucky stride continues and I never have to rear a child.

[Teacher Terry]

Her family created the lovely family life they desired-I agree that you should not have kids & nothing at all wrong with that.

[Chicken lady]

Oh great.

So ds and his so went to look at a dog.
and
dh and dd went to see James bond.
and
i am sitting in my messy kitchen trying to waste time online. But then I come here. And I see this thread. And I remember this is not the best I can do. But I'm TI-erred (whine). Thanks Ultralightangler. Thanks so much.

[Teacher Terry]

CL: when I have been been faced with needing to get rid of tons of stuff I find it easier to tackle it a day at a time versus an hour at a time. It just likes I have more energy & get more done. Also the more you do it the easier it gets to get rid of stuff quicker without agonizing over every little thing. The other thing is I only keep a few things to remember people by-not 50 things each, etc. Hugs

[Ultralight]

Oh great.

So ds and his so went to look at a dog.
and
dh and dd went to see James bond.
and
i am sitting in my messy kitchen trying to waste time online. But then I come here. And I see this thread. And I remember this is not the best I can do. But I'm TI-erred (whine). Thanks Ultralightangler. Thanks so much.

Oh man, if you're doing better then I have to do better too. And I just had pasta for dinner. I am too sleepy to do better.

[bae]

Oh great.

So ds and his so went to look at a dog.

"Went to look at a dog"... Ruh-roh.

I am not ever allowed to "go look at a dog" unless we have a spare spot in the pack, because everyone *knows* what will happen as soon as I see puppy eyes and at least 2-3 legs remaining on the dog.