that's right!Originally Posted by Chicken lady
that's right!
Hoarding has a genetic component. Some research shows that the problem has to do with defective chromosome 14.
Yup. And I see it in my family, which is why it's so important to me to intervene early with this little chick of mine.
True confession. Fisherman will sometimes lose bobbers in tangles of trees. I saw one that I would usually use so I pulled it out and kept it. This happened two more times.
Then I thought: "Holy chit! Am I hoarding these bobbers?! I have more than I need and I keep picking them up..."
I had a dang anxiety attack.
From here you were cleaning up the environment. Just pass the extra ones on.
you may worry too much about your genetics. Mayb you could get Estes for the hoarding gene?
Passing them on how? Asking people if they want them? Then if they don't want them, then what?
And that sounds like playing matchmaker -- match the used bobber to the fisherman. Playing matchmaker is often a hoarder activity.
If no one wants them then I either throw them away (so much for cleaning the environment) or I hoard them.
It is best for me to not travel down that road.
Drop them at a donation box or a thrift store, or yes, offer them to another fisherman.
i'm hoping you cleaned up the line when you took the bobber, so even if you throw them out, that's better than bobber and line endangering wildlife.
playing matchmaker is also an environmental stewardship activity. In part it depends on motivation as well as amount of effort expended - if I walk an extra three feet to recycle my can instead of throwing it away, I am still "playing matchmaker" for best use.
i took three puzzles to work and gave them to a friend for her son - the extra effort was basically carrying the puzzles to the car instead of the recycling bin (8 ft) and then carrying them in to work (extra liar, no extra steps). The puzzles were reused, the kid got a surprise, and no money was spent. The fact that I'm a hoarder doesn't negate the benefits of that teansaction.
I am not saying playing matchmaker is always bad.
But I know of hoarders who store tons of things with the good intentions of finding just the right match for them.
And then when someone needs just that one special hard-to-find thing that only the hoarder has and they give it to the person, then it makes all the hoarding seem rational.
Yep. And I agree with you.
honestly, one of the hardest things for me n the dehoarding has been that sometimes someone will ask me for something, and I got rid of it. It's really hard, like "I'm so sorry, I forgot to feed your dog" hard.
I will admit that I simply cannot understand this.
I mean, this has happened to me before. I gave away something someone wanted later. I was just like: "Oh well...they can live without it or spend $30 on Amazon"
And someone has given away something I wanted before too, back in my pre-minimalist days. I just felt like: "Bummer. If it turns out I really, really want or need it then I will spring for it."
My mom often says she "loaned" things to me. I don't remember her ever loaning them to me or even giving them to me. But she will ask me about these items every time she sees me. We go through this annoying routine like this:
Mom: "Have you found the _______ I loaned you?"
Me: "I don't remember you loaning me anything like that."
Mom: "I did loan it to you! I want it back. It was your grandmother's!"
Me: "I have no idea what you are talking about."
Mom: "You do too!"
Me: "You may have misplaced it."
Mom: "Did you lose it?!"
On and on... Makes no sense.
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