Can DH veto anything and everything if he so chooses?
Can DH veto anything and everything if he so chooses?
That would depend on your definition of "can". If he made me choose between the stuff and him, I would choose him. And I would be sad, angry, and resentful. Indefinitely.
We do not have a relationship of ultimatums - 20 years ago in Ohio I had to sign a permission slip for him to get a vasectomy because apparently fertility is marital property. I wanted more kids. But he did not, and as we both agreed that a person should have control over their own body, I perjured myself and signed that I wanted him to do that. I don't think he would have left me if I had refused, but i don't think it would have improved our sex life (ironic understatement)
the pressure is not bad for me. And I think the system is working. It is a "treatment" approach we have agreed on. We have set a shared goal of space we can both be happy in. We have broadly defined that goal and continue to negotiate the fine tuning. It isn't his job to tell me what I can and can't have. I am not a child, and that would not help me develop the skills I need. It is his role, as my partner, to help me face the reality of my available space and the need to make decisions., and to support and encourage me.
He is quite saintly.
Hey, he's not perfect either! Explain to me how a person with a Ph.D. That includes extensive training in thermodynamics and a job involving heat transfer cannot understand that while yes, turning the fans on to make the air move makes the house feel cooler, opening the windows when it is ten degrees hotter and far more humid outside does NOT.
Oh please.Originally Posted by UltraliteAngler
CL's DH does sound like a good guy but not "saintly."
Why you gotta talk trash about somebody's husband? haha
Compared to me, dude is a saint. I'd have pressed the eject button decades ago.
ultralite, you'd have crossed the county line at "I want six kids." It's not apples and oranges, it's apples and moon landers.
No. You are seeing CL's situation through your own lense. That is YOUR baggage.
I think we would all agree that you and CL should not be married. No need to belabor it.
My values are not baggage. hahaha
Seriously.
And... CL and I can be internet friends, but certainly not married. lol
Also, I am quite willing to agree that my dh is a saint compared to UA.
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