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    I made a lovely, crack-free cheesecake in my instant pot once, so I bought a suitable springform pan to make more of them. It's gathering dust. But this thread reminded me of it, so I foresee a cheesecake in my future...

    I'm donating my crepe pan, though...

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    Interesting story of a hoarder who claims to have recovered.

    https://www.theguardian.com/commenti...ower-of-things

    Her parents were hoarders and she also had trauma that triggered hoarding and she is an extreme introvert.

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    I found the article interesting. I'd like to read more of her story. I'm not sure where you got the idea that she's an extreme introvert though. She does describe herself at one point as being a "loaner" but she talked about being sad about not having friends as a kid and fantasizing about social activities, and having more friends now.

    my mother worried about me "not having friends" as a kid and she kept inviting other kids over and I hated it and begged her not to. I fantasized about running away and living in the wilderness. Or on an island. Or in a secret underground castle...

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    Loners are often extreme introverts. She did say she had more friends now, which is good.

    I have been thinking about the possibly analogous traits/conditions between hoarding and being overweight.

    If you hang out with fitness types who eat healthy then you are likely to be or even become more fit and eat healthier.

    I wonder about the effect that having friends who live simply with no clutter has on hoarders...

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    We bring home all their unwanted stuff.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chicken lady View Post
    We bring home all their unwanted stuff.
    ???

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chicken lady View Post
    We bring home all their unwanted stuff.
    Dont you know it.

    I have a long time acquaintance (wont use the word "friend" because she is currently driving me crazy) on whom I foist things having to do with our plant society. She is a whirling dervish of consumption. I mean, she wades into to every situation and grabs handfuls or armloads of stuff, be it free stuff or purchased. Papers, objects, plants, whatever--she grabs it all. And that is perfectly fine with me because I dont want it.

    Unfortunately, she is "generous" and buys crap our plant society doesnt need. Then, someone has to transport it to storage. Thanks! not. I was happy that someone else said to her "now, you are going to store that stuff yourself, right?" when she purchased more useless stuff for our plant group last week.

    I have not been to her house but I would bet $1,000 that it is crowded, unorganized, strewn with random things. I have never, not once in the 15 years I have known her from plant societies, seen one stem she has grown. I suspect she kills them all, throwing them around her porch or yard, forgetting to plant them. For her it is the acquisition that is key.

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    Quote Originally Posted by iris lilies View Post
    She is a whirling dervish of consumption. I mean, she wades into to every situation and grabs handfuls or armloads of stuff, be it free stuff or purchased.
    I am so amused and tickled by these turns of phrase!

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    I used to enable hoarders in three ways:

    1. Giving them stuff
    2. Asking them for very specific things I needed (and telling them how much I would sincerely appreciate it)
    3. Asking them to "store" stuff for me indefinitely

    I did these things to my parents and my BIL and my significant other.

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    My MIL was a hoarder so I would take anything she gave me and then take it to Goodwill. I never told her what I did with the stuff. IL: your description of your friend is hysterical)

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