Recovering hoarders?

[Chicken lady]

Single women live longer. Y'all cause a lot of wear and tear.

i'm not saying you're superfluous, I'm saying if you're willing to provide me with companionship and an exclusive sexual relationship and I already have a house and an income, I don't see the need to change anything.

[Ultralight]

I said men are mostly superfluous. I know you didn't.

[Teacher Terry]

Many people choose not to live together so I don't see the big deal about UL and his GF. I have read about married couples that have bought homes next to each other because one of them couldn't live with the other due to messiness, etc. If I had to guess I would think that probably more hoarders are introverted because extroverts want to have people over. If somebodies home is too messy and dirty it is hard for me to visit for very long. It just feels nasty.

[Chicken lady]

My point was that if he's holding his breath for her to change so that he can live with her, he should probably stop. If he's ok with the status quo, then all good, it is what it is.

[Ultralight]

I am not okay with it. But I have not told her "no way" about living together.

Ideally I would like to live with a life partner.

But again, I really just sink when I think of another break-up. I am too old and too tired for this kind of thing.


Who knows? Maybe if I told her "no" to living together then she'd be okay with that. But really, she might be like: "Why?"

Then I say: "You are a hoarder."

How do you think someone would take that?


I am not so sure she would gain much of anything by us living together. She makes like $20k more a year than me. She has a whole house, a nice little yard, and a two car garage. I am, more or less, superfluous.

[Teacher Terry]

You live so minimally that I think you would be hard pressed to find someone that lives like you do. So you would probably have to live in her house and adjust to the way she lives. Maybe have 1 room that is all yours and very neat. Compromise if you can-if not then you will be living alone.

[Ultralight]

You live so minimally that I think you would be hard pressed to find someone that lives like you do. So you would probably have to live in her house and adjust to the way she lives. Maybe have 1 room that is all yours and very neat. Compromise if you can-if not then you will be living alone.

I have zero intention of moving into her house. Like I said, I am not going back to being as depressed as I was before or living in a mess.

I grew up that way and I ain't going back to it.

[Ultralight]

I am not so sure you understand how much a 20% increase in happiness means to someone who has been depressed since the summer of 1979.

[Teacher Terry]

I was just pointing out that your only choice is to do it if you want to live with someone. You want to live with a clone of yourself which I don't see happening. You are much more minimalist then most people.

[Ultralight]

I was just pointing out that your only choice is to do it if you want to live with someone. You want to live with a clone of yourself which I don't see happening. You are much more minimalist then most people.

I could live with someone who is not a minimalist, but I ain't living with a hoarder or even a clutterbug.