Honestly, I dealt with a store clerk today who was all 3 of the idiot 3 stooges wrapped up into one person. Very hostile and playing stupid mind games. All I wanted was the product unlocked from the counter and to pay for it - what a dumb dumb he was!!!!
Retail is very dicey this time of year.
I'm too dependent on the Internet. *sigh*
Friend to Lainey: "I haven't seen you in so long, let's get together."
Lainey: "Okay I'm available next week on this day."
Friend to Lainey: "Where do you want to meet up, I'm open"
Lainey: "how about this [convenient and inexpensive] place?"
Friend: "oh, I've really been wanting to go back to [inconvenient and expensive] place"
sheesh. don't ask me to decide details on where and when, and then nitpick.
I understand the peeve and probably have been the friend too many times. :-(
But, she might have gone to the inexpensive place and for one reason or another did not like it. You did ask a question not a statement. Wonder what would have been the answer if you said "I really want to go to XX. It is a convenient and well priced place".
I had that issue at work. A group ALWAYS wanted to go to the closest eating place. I hated it due to poor meals and cost. So I would suggest and be turned down. My choice to go or not go.
Best probably to be honest and just say, Oh that one is just to expensive for my budget and too far away. Can we compromise and find something in the middle? With YELP online, it should have a lot of suggestions with reviews.
If you're going to dissect semantics, the friend's response was a non-sequitur. A younger me had a lot of difficulty with that sort of thing, because I would have said "then you should. Pause. So do you want to meet at (convenient and inexpensive place)?" Because she didn't actually answer the question, she made a new statement that was connected in her mind but not my mind. She might as well have said "oh. I want to get my nails done."
now I'm very evolved and I say "does that mean you don't want to go to (convenient and inexpensive place)?" Also I don't have very many friends.
Polar vortex - Go Away!!!!
I HEAR ya!Originally Posted by 19Sandy
Actually my peeve was more along the lines of getting asked "do you want to meet up?" me: Yes Friend: paraphrasing "oh good, then you decide all the details on when and where and what time..." And then getting responses back like "oh I can't meet that day, or I don't like that food, or etc..."
My preference when I ask someone to meet up is to also give some options so the social burden is not on them to come up with all the ideas, dates and times. Just a simple social nicety in my mind. It should Not be up to your friends to come up with ideas to fill your social calendar, there has to be some reciprocity in setting these things up.
The Polar Vortex makes me exhausted.
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