Smallest Space Lived in Happily

[Tybee]

If you are worried about rights to the house then it sounds like you need a lawyer now.
Please protect yourself.

[Teacher Terry]

We are both getting mortgages and depleting our savings to live separately would jeopardize them. We are being nice to each other and we need to work together to get this done. Yesterday I printed out all the paperwork needed for both of us for the loans. Since I do everything I just focus on this is the last time and there’s something in it for me). Also on condos I can have anything I want within reason but not everything. Also literally by needing a security building my choices are between 5 places. All but one were built in the 80’s by the same builder. They are all similar. The nicest one only has 43 units versus 200 so fees are much higher and you get less. They have a indoor pool in a huge 2 story area that’s heated very warmly. That’s costing a fortune but the residents won’t agree to get rid of it. Number of owners versus rentals is another consideration. I was perfectly happy for 6 years in my first condo and would still be there if not for the marriage. It was fun to imagine myself in the fancy place with views and doorman but it comes with a cost I don’t want to sacrifice for. I don’t want to live in a beautiful too small condo that will become a prison. It was a short lived fantasy.

[Teacher Terry]

We are saving thousands by having a paralegal type the paperwork and it will be filed this week. Since we are filing jointly the judge will just sign off on our decision. If he cannot get a loan in 60 days from today it states that the house will go on the market. I know my rights and the house is in my name only. I am looking at all possibilities and not being stupid.

[iris lilies]

This can't be repeated often enough. Follow your instincts, and don't settle.

It seems to me that she IS following her instinct—be safe. TT has repeated multiple times that a secured building and unit above first floor is a requirement.

Other issues are secondary.Finances are a limiting factor.

[Teacher Terry]

IL, yes you understand perfectly. In fact I am planning a 2022 European trip with my kids. This is high on my priorities. Reno has become very expensive but I want to stay here. It’s been home for 24 years, my oldest son and DIL are here and I have many real friends that will actually help me if needed. That’s priceless. I feel very lucky.

[iris lilies]

IL, yes you understand perfectly. In fact I am planning a 2022 European trip with my kids. This is high on my priorities. Reno has become very expensive but I want to stay here. It’s been home for 24 years, my oldest son and DIL are here and I have many real friends that will actually help me if needed. That’s priceless. I feel very lucky.

I am not at all worried about you although I sure wish your teaching load was more robust. That money would be welcome and allow you a little bit of luxury.

I know your divorce proceedings will go relatively smoothly and you are watching out for yourself.

[Teacher Terry]

My teaching load has disappeared. They love me and will use me again if needed. This will be the first year I haven’t taught in 8 years. Like everywhere they are trying not to use adjuncts for financial reasons. Besides the money I loved doing it.

[iris lilies]

My teaching load has disappeared. They love me and will use me again if needed. This will be the first year I haven’t taught in 8 years. Like everywhere they are trying not to use adjuncts for financial reasons. Besides the money I loved doing it.

Oh, I didn’t know that all classes or lost I thought you were still doing one. Well that is too bad.

[Teacher Terry]

I last taught last year. Nothing on the horizon. I still do a little consulting when available.

[razz]

TT, you are smart and capable and know what you are doing. You have a number of supports to think out loud to to clear your thinking, including SLF. You know your area and will find the right location to meet your needs and give you time and opportunity to enjoy your life. Way to go!